To think my mother should spell my DD's name correctly

[Pastabee]

DD is 9 months old. Not an unusual name yet she spells it wrong every time. It isn't even a case of her using an alternative spelling. It's just spelt wrong.

I've pointed it out politely many times and she still does it.

The thing is I wouldn't be precious about it if it was a friend although all my friends spell it properly but it's my DD's grandma and I think she should make the effort to spell it correctly.

It's really starting to grate on me now. AIBU?

My mother had a complete mental block about my nephew's name. She died when he was 11, and she wrote a card to "Osca" 2 days before she died.

She didn't mean it- she thought really hard every time but still got it wrong 50% of the time! Ther wasn't anything anyone could do about it- in the scheme of things it's incredibly trivial.

My name is an alternate but still fairly common spelling. Virtually everyone gets it wrong. The worst variations come from people who know its spelt differently but are not sure how so just guess!

So yes OP in the grand scheme of things it's not a biggie, but yanbu to be annoyed by it!

i think it depends on the relationship. My GP's couldn't give a shit about me and probably could barely have picked me out of a line up when i was a child. They always spelled my name wrong in birthday & xmas cards and when i got married referred to my husband as 'partner' despite knowing him for 10 years. It just highlighted how little i meant to them. So if that's the case then it's sad. BUT, if it's just a mental block and she is lovely in every other way, i would see it affectionately as 'one of her ways'.

I'm 28yo and my nan still spells my name wrong! I don't take it personally! X

My name is a very very common name. My aunt cannot for the life of her spell it. I had to write my name in her address book so she can copy it for cards etc. it makes me laugh.

yes people are fussey about names........BBC has a policy of accepting the persons own pronunciation and spelling.

She's probably decided that's how it should be spelled and thinks if she does it enough, you'll fall in line with it

(I'm kidding)

How about writing cards, texts etc to her and calling her "mume" and asking after dade and aunte and cousine and signing yourself off 'Pastabee e"

I'm 33 now and most of my family can't spell my name properly. Its one of those ends in ie but more traditionally ends in y. Not one where the spelling is strange. Still bugs me occasionally. Now DD is here we named her what we thought was a straight forward to spell and say name. It seems not. And her nickname is slightly similar to my name so people constantly combine the names to get two totally different ones. I've given up mainly and just answer to anything.

YANBU to be annoyed, but I'd just let it go and leave it as one of those things that gives you a family giggle. My dad always spells my name wrong, he doesn't even have a standard spelling he just guesses each time. I can tell when he has a girlfriend because my cards come spelt correctly!