Letting my DD pay

[TeapotsInJune]

DD has a thing about money and likes putting it into slots. I picked her up to pay for the parking and there was a queue (which we had also stood in) and as DD was putting money in someone behind us groaned theatrically and said "Some of us HAVEN'T got all day!"

So who was U? Me for letting DD pay or the rude man?

Alibaba I SO knew that one was coming!

No. But - money in a machine just isn't worth the two hours of rage from my adorable daughter crying

He was being rude, but I see his point - however there's always fumblers, so I know that I'd not mind myself (I think you can often tell those who are used to kids because they hold back at crossings when they see you coming so that the child can press the button)

You were both being unreasonable - you for not being quite as quick as you could, and him for begrudging a one-year-old 20 seconds of fun.

YABU. The machine is not a toy. If you wanted to let her play, you should have stood back and waited until the queue had gone.

Similarly letting children press every lift button so it stops at every floor and takes ten times as long to get to the destination is annoying. Again, it is not a toy.

No you aren't being unreasonable in the grand scheme of things.

I would have probably said something back like "well that's unlucky for you".

It's great you involve your dd.

Also, maybe the impatient man was coming up to the time when the amount he had to pay would have gone up.

YABU.

What if whoever was behind was pushed up in to the longer stay thus pay more because you spent time letting a baby play with a machine that isn't meant for children to play with?

yanbu, I can't believe her putting coins in held anybody up more than 30 seconds.

Yeah but if that was the case he could have just asked to go first and I'd have said sure, if he was so close that 20 seconds would be a problem.

I wouldn't ever let DD mess with a lift that way though.

I'd have said "but some of us do and it's my turn"

it's funny isn't it, how these PA complainers never complain at adults, like they think the adult might be rude back or beat them up?
it's always the children they're rude about.

nobber.

why do the people in the queue who surely must realise they have to pay and don't get their money ready not get a tut and a "we haven't got all day"?

He was a bit grouchy, but in terms of your DD throwing a wobbly if she doesn't always get to pay, can I just say 'rod for your own back'?

Let her cry.
Life is hard

Nickel, that's pretty much what I thought to be honest.

I can only shrug - it absolutely makes the DDs day when she gets to put money in ... overjoyed baby vs 20 seconds gained for queue 1 hour minimum of screaming - seems like a no brainer! xx

I think you were BU I'd there wasn't a que then fine but if there's others waiting you should have just done it yourself and moved on

Well teapots you clearly don't think you were BU at all, but I, like a lot of other posters, would be pretty annoyed to be standing impatiently in a queue where the person at the top was lifting up a baby to put in the coins. Maybe it's not entirely fair, but people in queues don't tend to be patiently indulgent of other people's kids delaying them, even if it's not for long. And I am the mother of an extremely strong-willed little DD myself.

I let DCs play with the lift. If they press every button then it's inevitable you will get to your floor so either sprout wings and fly or use the stairs.

Honestly!

Going to be miserable and say you.

If there were 5 toddlers in the queue imagine it they were all allowed to do it.

I would be too polite to voice it but inside I would be muttering and rolling my eyes.

Fantastic attitude justme : so as long as your kids are amused by playing with the common amenities (intended to serve everyone rather than be used as playthings), it really doesn't matter about other people, who may perhaps be keen to get home rather than spend additional time with you and your DCs in the lift. I lived in a block of flats for 7 years and never once did I encounter this kind of thing. It would have flabbergasted me if I had.

And he was having a pop at you, not the dd, he sounds the type who is quite happy to have a pop at an adult!

I think when there's a queue, it's polite to be quick. Letting your toddler have a crack at it is best left for when there aren't lots of people waiting.

yes, Pickles, but an adult who will probably not make a fuss in front of the child.

I think it is a bad lesson to teach her, to just do what she wants and sod everyone else - but then it is clearly one that has been taught very well to you, so hardly surprising that you are passing it on with enthusiasm.

Somethingsuitablywitty,

I think letting my child have five seconds of fun is a fantastic attitude.

If an adult isn't responsible enough to politely request something then sod them.

I have very little sympathy for people who are rude to others because they have let themselves be late enough to in their opinion warrant bad attitude.

I suppose you also have an issue with allowing a child to press the traffic light button and carefully cross the road?

And people wonder why the grown up world is such a shock to some young adults.

She could have rolled her eyes, or muttered something cutting.

Or worse, set the toddler on him!

Pressing all the button in a lift is rude and quite possibly anti social.

The money machine thing is just mildly annoying. And only if there is a long queue.