To have just started crying (in public)

[emeraldgirl1]

Because I feel so overwhelmed and exhausted in week 11 of pregnancy?
I did scuttle to a quiet corner to sob silently so that nobody saw or heard me. (I hope...)
I am so tired that I feel I have just lost myself. No energy to be the person I was before. Overwhelmed by thought of responsibility and I can't read anything about this stage of foetus development without getting emotional (and not in a good way).
Hormones or latent insanity? Your verdicts please :(

Hormones plus exhaustion and perfectly normal.

Have a (((hug)))

Hormones. It's a difficult stage of the pregnancy, being so bloody emotional and tired ALL the time. It gets better, I promise!

Hormones. Normal. Buy some nice handkerchiefs and go with it.

YANBU. I feel your pain :)

Hormones...

Is it your first? I remember sitting in my office, feeling so tired that I felt drugged, and just sobbing.

Give it a couple of weeks, and hopefully you'll feel better. The initial hormones seem to ease at around 12-13 weeks.

Thanks so much!!
I feel abnormal as everyone else seems to think I should be blissful (even if tired) rather than the hit-by-truck tiredness and alienation I actually feel.
Scared too because this feels not unlike past depression (though worse on the lethargy front!) and I hate that feeling...

Hormones!

Is there anything at all you can cut back on to give yourself more rest?

Sittinginthesun yes it's my first so a very steep learning curve!! And yep I too feel like I have been drugged...

Was the baby a surprise?

I am currently 15 weeks with no.2 and i bloody hate being pregnant. The tiredness in the 1st trimester is horrendous. Thankfully i'm starting to feel more human now and hopefully in the next few weeks you will too.

What with hormones tiredness nausea etc the whole thing is just an ordeal to me. Good news is once ds was born i was on the top of the world, i felt amazing.

Canoe slalom, unfortunately I think I have pretty much cut back on it all already... Cooking, ironing, gym, seeing friends, talking to my husband... :)

YANBU I burst out crying once when pregnant when I hadnt made enough tea for everyone it your soaring hormones, go and get your self a costas

I felt like total crap during my first pregnancy. People kept saying, "Oh but you must be excited though," and I was like, "No, just exhausted."

If you have a history of depression then this puts you at a greater risk of pre-and postnatal depression, so you might want to get in touch with your health care provider for extra monitoring. That said, I have a long history of depression and have had no additional problems during pregnancy.

Hope you're feeling better soon. The first trimester can be really rough.

I did this in my 1st pregnancy at 11 weeks no less, walking down the road all if a sudden felt very over whelmed and started booing. I had to call DP so I wasnt totally alone crying as I felt like a prized plonker.

you could need more iron in your diet if over tired - i could hardly get out of bed with 1st preg went to docs they tested my blood gave me tablets and within a few days felt soo much better...also could just be hormones but it may be worth asking about your iron count

Cailin, nope not a surprise, planned and wanted but my god I am starting to question that!!!
Not really of course, but I am shocked at how awful I feel and I actually had v low expectations beforehand ie I never thought I was the kind of person who would enjoy pregnancy and always feared that I would hate the weight gain, loss of control etc.

Anaemia? Are you short of breath after walking up a flight of stairs or similar?

That's a good suggestion re the iron, will check it out, thank you.

So so glad to hear I am not the only one sobbing in broad daylight, though of course sorry to hear anyone has felt as bad!!

Everyone thought I should be blissful as well! I remember an antenatal class where we had to go round the room and tell everyone the best things about being pregnant. I actually couldn't think of anything:)

Seriously, it will pass. The drugged feeling just disappears, and you will hopefully feel yourself again soon. Are you taking a Vit D supplement with your folic acid?

I remember missing a big lunch out with DH and friends at about week 11 cos I just couldn't stop crying.... and when I could I just wanted to sleep! Poor you, it'll pass, though

There is a lot of pressure to enjoy pregnancy, to feel excited and blooming but not everyone feels like that. Everything changes and that can be hard to deal with. Take it as easy as you can.

Sittinginthesun, good point, have been vit d deficient before (though think probably not now) so that is worth following up...

Thank you so much to all who have posted, especially fellow week 11 blubbers... :)

I think the thing is that it's not like ordinary tiredness that you can 'treat' with more sleep or rest... It feels like there is no amount of sleep that could make me feel better

Totally normal! Cut yourself a bit of slack. I agree with Duchess everyone thought I didn't want the baby due to my permenant slapped arse catsbum face when really the tiredness and sickness had just completely taken over and had sucked all life and personality out of me! I did use the phrase I can't go on to DP a few times as it's just so bloody hard, I even had the anaemia test and all was normal, that's just how hard pregnancy is and I'm a wimp

When I hit 18 weeks it was like cloud lifted and I could talk, laugh and generally enjoy life again, but for now concentrate on doing the essentials and everything else can wait.

And if you fancy nice food eat it as it's about the only treat you're allowed.

I was completely shocked with how bad the fatigue could be, plus because other people were just as surprised with it being a pg symptom I felt like I was putting it on a bit.

I somehow wrote a paper in the first trimester and it took weeks! Once I was back in a lab pressing buttons in the same order as it is everyday and not thinking it was a lot better. My brain really stopped working it felt like and I would fantasise about crawling under my desk and going to sleep. In fact I was even angry with the uni for being a large institution and not having a bed bay for pg people. It seems like a rational thing to me at the time.

Do you work OP?

I don´t remember getting tired or stressed with either of mine.

But then I had all day to do as much/little as I wanted & nap as well!