To lie To DH about a business trip

[SaraBellumHertz]

I had a business trip booked - nowhere glamorous but I was looking forward to it in the way only a mother of young DC can!

Childcare was arranged everything was sorted and the trip has been cancelled. WIBU to pretend and "go" anyway? Obviously I'd have to pay for the flights and accommodation but I could check into a hotel for a couple of days, enjoy room service, read my book and just relax?

I am so tempted....

Of course yu shouldn't lie- apart from anything else you are nouns to get found out.

But what I find odd is so many people aree saying "why not change it to a weekend away with dh?"

Doesn't everybody yearn for 2 days in a hotel entirely alone??

I would be very tempted. Is there any way you could still do work related stuff while you are there and hence not have to actually lie. Without of course actually doing anything work related

I wouldn't lie about it, it wouldn't be worth getting caught out.

If it was me I would just use the days to have some me time without going away, have a couple of nice days out, either by yourslef or with a friend. Or if you really need to get away have a mini break to yourself. But talk to your husband first, it's not fair to lie to him.

Don't lie. It won't end well (and I suspect you know it).

Why not just book the day off work, let the Nanny have DCs as planned and go to a spa or something lovely and relaxing, come home, go out for tea with DCs (or have Nanny feed them and put them to bed and have a takeaway with DH). You can still use the time in a lovely way, without 'weaving a web' as someone said.

Unless you are looking for some sort of reaction off your DH when he finds out the truth????

yes but that lie would just have to roll. What did you do/how was meetings etc. You would have to lie for weeks. And what if he found out?? He will think something a lot worse than you chilling out.

Will the business trip not get re-scheduled at some point? Or you'll have another one to go to? In which case, you'll need to re-schedule the childcare arrangements soon anyway which could be harder if you've had 3 days away during the week with people covering for you.

Where would you have been going that justifies the expense?

Seeker - I too found the suggestions to go away with DH curious. We do go away together but sometimes I just want time alone and as I say he is a man of action: he'd have a minute by minute itinerary where as id be wanting to take leisurely baths and drink champagne!

Anyway its academic now - I've told DH the trip is off and we've agreed that I will go away for a few days Christmas shopping (although I'll be going with girlfriends to Shanghai -im not Uk based before I have my throat ripped out for ridiculous flying- so not the splendid isolation I'd hoped for but still lovely)

The business trip will of course be on again at some point but since it will be a real business trip I shall be working so no crisps in bed!