to think friends and family would congratulate DS1 on his GCSEs?

[TheSpook]

Or am I am being a bit PFB?
He worked really, really hard and got a clutch of As and A*s (although I would have been proud of him whatever he got as he did his best). My mum made a big fuss and sent him a card but my sister and best friend zilch. Not even a text.

Do they all know his results?

No yanbu-I'd be peeved, Well done to your son, you must be really proud.

I think your family sounds normal tbh, the grandmother is usually the only one who bothers to take an Interest in their grandchildren, as for the rest of the family I would mentioned it several times laying it on a bit thick to embarrass them if it were me congratulations to your dc!

YANBU. I sent my nephew a card and some money to celebrate with his friends. I am v proud of him.

I think you are being a bit PFB to be honest.

When my neice got GCSE/A-level results my DH didn't do anything other than 'like' her status on facebook. I never felt the need to do anything.
I've got a 15 year old. I don't expect my Dsis or Dbro to comment.

Depends doesn't it? Closeness/interest in education that kind of thing.

Yes they know. It's actually DS who thought they might have said something, although I'm a bit miffed on his behalf. Of course his world has revolved around these exams for a while and he doesn't realise that they don't feature as highly on everyone's radar.

is he jsut eyeing up the possible cash rewards?

I'd be a bit pissed too. Well done to him!

YANBU - my family are terrible and barely even remember my existence but they all made a fuss and at least said congrats when I got my GCSEs. My cousin has just started his first GSCE year. I intend of making a fuss when he gets them, regardless of what he gets!

My dnephew and god-daughter got good GCSE results and I posted on FB to say how fab they were and sent both a card but tbh I think if it had been the other way round and my dd was the first to do GCSEs they wouldn't have made a fuss at all. I always try to keep treating people how I'd like them to treat me but it doesn't always work. So YANBU but I would have expected the same realistically!

you must be so proud - amazing feeling.
well done to your ds

I texted my son's results to relatives and they texted back congratulations which I passed on to him. That was all that was expected. If they said great/ well done etc when you told them isn't that enough? If they said nothing when you told them that's weird. Do trees have to die for this though? Some people have card obsessions and don't value any thanks, congratulations etc unless a card or letter accompanies it.

Listmaker That's a very good point. My Dniece never sent my DCs a birthday card until she had a child of her own.
Yes I will make sure to remember when my nieces and my friend's DCs do GCSEs.
Slarty You could be forgiven for thinking it but DS is the least mercenary child I know.
Anyway we are very proud and have celebrated as a family.

Personally i would be very surprised if anyone other than me and DP cared or even asked (or remembered the date) of our dc's exams or anything like that. I have never been in a situation where anyone else would care so think that's normal. I don't even think my parents knew what i got or asked. I think dad said did i do okay and i said yes, got enough to do a levels and he said fine otherwise i would have to leave school and get a job. That was about it and i think that's okay tbh.

I have never know GP's, aunts or friends to be remotely interested or bothered. Depends on your relationships i suppose.

I was sooo proud when my grandson (11) was Cub of the Year at his group that I sent him a congratulatory card.

What shall I send when he has GCSE results?

Actually I don't have a card fetish, a simple well done is all I thought.

What did they say when you told them if not well done?

I wouldnt expect this from anyone.

If he doesn't realise how unimportant GCSE results are to everyone else - then I really wonder how he got A and A*'s they are not important to anyone else, they're barely important to him other than in not closing doors to what he could do had he not got them.

YABU to expect anything more than a "congrats" / "well done" next time they speak to him. Surprised you even told them specially really - why not simply next time you spoke?

So, fredfredgeorge I take it you don't have dcs of this sort of age. And if you do, then I pity them, for having a parent so dismissive of their achievements at an important (for them) time of their education.
TheSpook Congratulations to your ds for doing well and working hard. I do think, though, that some people are just not "into" cards. I'm not, actually, although I have just been out and got ds a 'well done clever clogs' one!

I think it is normal that parents and GPs remember. Anyone else, it is a bonus. I generally ask my niece about her school, but I wouldnt' exactly follow her exams timetable and ensure that I speak to her at the right time after exams. It is her job to do well in exams, and she knows that. Congratulations are nice but also superfluous.

My DD has just had her GCSE results, she got a card and a £10 pound note from her grandparents but I didn't phone around and give full details of grades to other relatives and friends.

YABU. I'd avoid commenting on results as these things should be irrelevant to whether you value a family member. I wouldn't want to give the impression that straight A/A* results meant that the person was somehow suddenly more deserving of family attention which they should receive unconditionally.

reminds me that I should get DD a card

YAB a bit U but congratulations to your DS!