Would love your opinions on this one. Basically I've had the regular 5 or 6 antenatal appointments for DC2 and out of 6 of them I have seen 3 different midwives. None of them know me by face or name. Eg when I'm in the waiting room, they will come in and call my name and not have a clue who I am.
Although this isn't ideal, I do understand the whole shortage of midwives thing etc etc so I just accept it.
However what I do find hard to accept is when they pretend to know me, my history etc etc
Everytime I go they treat me like I'm a first time mum. I have to remind them that I have a DD 3 & 1/2.
Each different midwife has asked about my previous labour or my plan for this one.
Unfortunately I didn't have such a great experience first time round so I have some quite strong opinions about any future labors. For example, NO pethidine.
Anyway, to cut a long story short, after having to go through my story for the 100th time with a midwife who had only met me for 10mins and kept suggesting I should have pethidine, I ended up crying.
Please note, I was 37 weeks pregnant, tired, hormonal and having to justify myself to a complete stranger my choices for birth no.2.
Well, anyway, she then said I think you should speak to someone at the hospital. I naively thought she meant another midwife. And she said no a psychologist.
I have no issue with seeing a psychologist if required but I do not think that in this case that I do. How can someone who has met me for 10 mins possibly make that call.
I am now worried that because she has written on my notes that it will be what I am judged on when I go to hospital to have my baby.
I've got my nxt (hopefully last appt) next week and I was thinking about complaining and asking them to remove the referral from my notes.
What d'you reckon?