to be so upset that DH let FIL shave son's head?

[mumof2lovelyboys]

that may be a little melodramatic, but this morning I had a 2 yo with lovely curly locks and this evening he now has short, straight back and sides and a side parting.
Bit of background. DH has been looking after the boys a lot lately, whilst I have been working. I feel lately that he hasn't been listening to my input about the boys as he has been spending the most time with them.
I asked him not to let FIL cut their hair as I was growing it (FIL is lovely and very kind, but does have a bee in his bonnet about hair longer than 1/2 inch). I'm really upset about this, but when I asked DH why he had done it, he just replied, 'it was long and someone had to do something about it'. ...it was not very long at all I might add.
Am I making a mountain out of a molehill?

YANBU! My DS2 has curls and always gets complimented on them. I would be absolutely furious if anyone cut them off, let alone did what you have described on your DS's head ("shaved at back and sides..." ).

YANBU

I'm with bobbledunk I would go nuts if someone cut off my dd's curls and I would be letting everyone involved know in no uncertain terms and I would probably be crying and yelling a lot too.

I'm amazed at the amounts of 'it will grow back comments'. Not over night it won't, particularly with curly hair.

The 'curls' never came back on my two darlings. :(

Most toddlers don't have proper curly hair anyway. They have a fine, straggly, wavy mess on the tops of their heads. I despise the current trend for toddler boys with long hair.

My only caveat to this is proper curly hair. The kind that corkscrews when wet and you have no chance of getting rid of because it grows back. THAT kind of curly, long hair on boys looks beautiful.

So I concur that you are probably BU on the basis that he looks better now and it will grow back anyway.

I would be livid too!!

My (irritating) FIL threatened to cut off DD's curls at about 12 months as he thought her hair was too long. he's the sort of person who ignores both my and DH's opinions on everything. DH has grown up with his opinionated father so he's just like the rest of the family who let him do what he likes.

FIL knows better about EVERYTHING, not just curls (extra salt on toddler's dinners, wanting to use a 35yr old baby carseat! lots of other safety issues, etc etc).

I the end I told him very straight. DD was our daughter and NOT his and if he didn't recognise that then I wouldn't bring DD to see him.

It worked! Our relationship with him is a lot better now.

How can you say something to FIL when your husband OKs it?

Mumof2 I can completely see why you're so upset. You specifically asked you DH not to let FIL cut your DS's hair. He agreed but then went ahead and did it even though he knew you had strong feelings on the sibject. You trusted him and he let you down. Relationships are based on trust, which is why this isn't all about hair and a lot to do with your DH not being reliable and on your side on this. Hair grows back but you need to be able to trust him to respect your wishes in the future and can you do that? I think you need to tell your DH why it's upset you so much so that he doesn't just say "it'll grow back" and think you're making a big fuss over something so seemingly trivial as hair.

I'd be mad too, not because it was cut but because you'd specifically asked it not to be and presumably you DH hadn't disagreed when you had the conversation.