To not want to leave baby to cry?

[raininginbaltimore]

DD is 3 weeks. Ds was a screamer of a baby. Hours and hours every day. He was later diagnosed with reflux. Anyway it was hell, weeks and weeks of colicky evenings. But I never left him, always tried soothing him.

DD hates being put down, won't tolerate bouncy chair, swing etc, much like her brother. She will go in sling, but tonight is screaming and won't even tolerate that.

Some friends have said I should just put her down for a few minutes to deal with ds. But I can't bear the idea of leaving her when she iscrying. And putting her down makes her scream more.

The screaming is doing me in. I can't believe I have had two babies like this. Doesn't seem fair!

I have been told if I leave her a bit she will become more chilled as she learn. Am I being soft for holding her all time?

I feel for you OP, - YANBU, Try Colief - best thing for reflux apparently and you can get over the counter, until you see a GP - its worth trying, it does something to counter balance the lactose in the milk or something like that.

Yanbu.are you bf?perhaps she wants to latch for comfort? Dr Sears website is great and reassuring, explains why CIO is damaging to babies. If you feel yourself getting to your wits end, do put her down safely thoufg so you can have a few minutes in another room to collect yourself.

Congrats on your baby :)

I had 2 with reflux and did everything one handed for about 3 mths after DD2 was born (ice cakes, wipe bottoms, push swings etc), usually with one tit out. Unsurprisingly I slipped into PND.

Get yourself to doctors tomorrow as top priority. If you have family/friends coming then make them make themselves useful by looking after DC1 while you see the GP. Don't leave until he hands over the prescription for Gaviscon! Try to get DC2 to take a dummy and stock up on freezer food (in the oven, out the oven meals!). Good luck OP x

It really sounds like she has silent reflux. My ds (8mths) screamed for hours and hours, usually with me sobbing at some point too. He slept on me for the first 6weeks as all I could hear was him gagging in the moses basket. You just do what you have to.

I hope the doc will give you Gaviscon, although bear in mind that it doesn't work instantly.

Sounds like silent reflux to me too! My DD had it - it was a nightmare til we got it diagnosed at about 3 months. She had loads of the symptoms mentioned on that website - hiccups, gagging, coughing, arching, screaming etc
The doc will probably try gaviscon, or other reflux meds after a few weeks if that doesn't work. Chemists won't sell it to you unless your baby is over a year, so you could say it's for your other child if you are desperate. Though if you get an emergency appt tomorrow, chances are you'll get it on prescription to try tomorrow anyway.
Good luck! (And btw, I never left my baby to cry either, even though the hv told me several times that her constant crying was "normal" and I should just leave her to cry to "put herself to sleep" :-$. So glad I didn't now either, now knowing she was in such pain all the time)