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Mum is trying to con me out of money...

45 replies

Corygal · 26/08/2012 20:29

So years ago I get a set of antique chairs from the flat of my uncle, who died about 10 years ago. No one else wanted them and at the time I did and used them loads, restoring them in the process.

I redecorate and offer dad the chairs. He says, I know you're skint, I will pay you for them. Well, ok, I say, I guess I am an idiot if I don't accept it. I lost my job earlier in the year and am indeed painfully broke. We look them up on tinterwed to see how much they are worth, and Dad reckons at least 500 quid. Get in.

But mum calls me later to say the chairs are not antiques and clearly came from Woolworths in Paignton, where late uncle lived. This is unlikely, as one look would certify. She offers me 50 quid. She tells me they're filthy (just been restored) etc etc. The same mum, incidentally, who kept the cash her parents left me and told me they'd died penniless.

What do I do?

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frownyface · 26/08/2012 20:31

Do what you know is right. Follow your conscious. (ie sell them to your dad!)

BlueGoddess · 26/08/2012 20:32

Get an independent opinion.

wibblywobbler · 26/08/2012 20:32

Tell her to get stuffed and deal only with your father, if he backs out, you know now what they are worth, sell them at an antiques auction

LadySybildeChocolate · 26/08/2012 20:32

Tell her that your father is going to buy them off you.

Shame you can't choose your parents sometimes. Sad

Blurry29 · 26/08/2012 20:33

Could you get them valued?

If they are chairs from "woolies" then fine
BUT if they are worth more then at least you would have heard it from an expert

hermioneweasley · 26/08/2012 20:34

I don't nderstand why you're asking the question - you clearly don't believe your mother.

Corygal · 26/08/2012 20:36

Well, mum is the one who is going to take them to get valued! To my horror - I wouldnt have let them go if I thought she was going to pull this one on me.

Mum gets very spiteful and angry if she thinks Dad is spending a penny of his pension not on her keep or her holidays.

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LadySybildeChocolate · 26/08/2012 20:41

Why can't you do that yourself, Cory?

QuintessentialShadows · 26/08/2012 20:42

Do it yourself!

Dont let her take the chairs, she will just tell you they were from woolies anyway!

Rosa · 26/08/2012 20:42

If she takes them to be valued then she is bound to come back and say ' told you they are only worth £50'. Take them yourself and get a true answer.....

LadySybildeChocolate · 26/08/2012 20:43

I didn't think woolies sold furniture??

JumpingThroughMoreHoops · 26/08/2012 20:43

The same mum, incidentally, who kept the cash her parents left me and told me they'd died penniless.

have you got a copy of the will? were you left anything? was she executor?

Corygal · 26/08/2012 20:44

Well, I rather agree. I'm going to check with the guy who 'inherited' them & passed them on, then go and take them back, or at least snap them & get them valued.

I'm so shocked my greedy mother would try and steal from me - tho' Lord knows why, she's done it before. More than once.

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Corygal · 26/08/2012 20:45

Jumping - yes, yes, yes. My aunt (her sis) wrote to check that we'd received the cash, which was the first I heard of it. Mum never paid even after we asked.

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LadySybildeChocolate · 26/08/2012 20:46

So they are at your mother's already?? Give her the £50 back, and take them home with you ASAP (before she sells them). Just tell her that you'd rather have the chairs then £50. Don't take no for an answer, just do it.

Viperidae · 26/08/2012 20:49

Tell her you have changed your mind about selling them and would like them back. You can then do whatever you want with them.

Corygal · 26/08/2012 20:51

Ha! Mum didnt give me the 50. she claims she's getting them valued on Tuesday - I will go with her then take them back, I think.

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LadySybildeChocolate · 26/08/2012 20:52

Do you have a link to a picture of the chairs?

aquashiv · 26/08/2012 20:53

End the sale no good will come out of it. SHe doesnt believe they are worth it you feel they are worth more so take you business else where.

Corygal · 26/08/2012 20:53

No, I didnt snap them before they left - I mean, I didnt think she'd ring the moment she got home to say she's suddenly realised they were worthless...

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GhostShip · 26/08/2012 20:55

Get them valued! And update us :o

LadySybildeChocolate · 26/08/2012 20:58

I'd go and collect them tomorrow and take them home. You can get people to come out to your house to value them. Why is she bothering to do this herself if they are only worth £50?? Wink Just tell her that they've grown on you, and £50 is such a tiny amount that you may as well keep them. Memories and all of that.

Corygal · 26/08/2012 21:03

Right, I'll give it a go. Any thoughts on tactful wording to dissuade the old bird from trying this one again?

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PooPooOnMars · 26/08/2012 21:07

How much inheritance did she steal from you?!

LadySybildeChocolate · 26/08/2012 21:07

I wouldn't trust her at all to be honest with you, sorry. I'd start a thread in Legal about your missing inheritance also. Sad

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