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Mum is trying to con me out of money...

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Corygal · 26/08/2012 20:29

So years ago I get a set of antique chairs from the flat of my uncle, who died about 10 years ago. No one else wanted them and at the time I did and used them loads, restoring them in the process.

I redecorate and offer dad the chairs. He says, I know you're skint, I will pay you for them. Well, ok, I say, I guess I am an idiot if I don't accept it. I lost my job earlier in the year and am indeed painfully broke. We look them up on tinterwed to see how much they are worth, and Dad reckons at least 500 quid. Get in.

But mum calls me later to say the chairs are not antiques and clearly came from Woolworths in Paignton, where late uncle lived. This is unlikely, as one look would certify. She offers me 50 quid. She tells me they're filthy (just been restored) etc etc. The same mum, incidentally, who kept the cash her parents left me and told me they'd died penniless.

What do I do?

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Corygal · 26/08/2012 21:09

It was 3k and I won't see it, it was too long ago.

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squeakytoy · 26/08/2012 21:10

Get the chairs back, and put them on ebay. To be honest, antique furniture is not selling at the moment. Even if they are valued at £500, I would say you would be lucky to get half of that amount.

PooPooOnMars · 26/08/2012 21:13

That's really awful! What does your dad say about the whole thing, chairs and inheritance?

LadySybildeChocolate · 26/08/2012 21:13

£250 is better then £50, squeaky Sad

Corygal · 26/08/2012 22:16

Dad's attitude is steadfastly 'Ooh, let's indulge ickle mummy'.

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LadySybildeChocolate · 26/08/2012 22:17

I imagine your father is out for an easy life. Go and collect them tomorrow.

LadySybildeChocolate · 26/08/2012 22:17

Not easy, I mean quiet.

Kladdkaka · 26/08/2012 22:24

Did Woollies sell furniture? I don't remember that Hmm

LadySybildeChocolate · 26/08/2012 22:26

I don't think they did, Kladd. CD's, games, clothes, sweets, home stuff but no furniture.

MrMiyagi · 26/08/2012 22:27

Yabu to still be talking to her after she stole from you. No wonder she thinks your chairs are fair game. (sorry, I really do feel for you, but you need to stand up for yourself)

sarahtigh · 26/08/2012 22:38

I think your mother is behaving really bad and depriving you of your inheritance is really bad

woollies only sold very small furniture like bathroom cabinets loo roll holders maybe folding kichen steps that turned into stool ( ps if from woollies probably worth £5 not 50 so mother puilling leg either way)

yesterday I was at auction as i sell antique and collectable ceramics, a set of 6 late victorian mahogany balloon back chairs estimated at £100-150 at auction sold for £110 to dealer which he will retail in antique shop at £3-400, georgian chairs are worth more, furniture in antique terms is not doing well, on a practical level restoration must be period restration for value to go up ie upholstery tacks not staple gun, preferably reuse original horsehair, no foam, proper webbing etc

what is worth money in furniture terms is not genuine 100 year old antiques but early modern stuff, some art deco stuff ( not the factory churned out utilitarian stuff)

Corygal · 26/08/2012 22:49

Well, I don't reckon Woolies sold walnut upholstered chairs from 1900 either, as it happens.

Sarah - brilliant, thanks, I also have a rug i want to get shot of (not to them, anymore). How much do 6 x 8ft Afghans in good nick dating from 1900-1920 go for?

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Corygal · 28/08/2012 19:14

Update! Well, the mum took them to a dealer and was told that even in hard times the trade price was £250.00.

Mum has rung three times in a rage to tell me the chairs are 'filthy' and 'damaged'.

Dad is, however, sending me a cheque.....

Oh joy, thank you Mumsnetters.

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LadySybildeChocolate · 28/08/2012 19:15

Didn't you go with her??

Well done though. Remember what you've learned here, it will be useful. Wink

Corygal · 28/08/2012 19:35

I tried to go with her! But she wouldn't answer the phone.

To be honest, I'm ok with it - my price of 500 was right, but I was happy to flog them at a trade rate to my dad as I wouldn't have wanted to take the max. amount anyway. Thanks so much, you gave me strength to hold out.

And sarahtigh you are a genius - the dealer told Dad everything you said....

Thanks with Wine

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LadySybildeChocolate · 28/08/2012 19:36

How do you know that she told you the correct price?? It's not about the money, it's the principle behind this; you should be able to trust her.

Corygal · 28/08/2012 19:58

Indeed, Lady S of the sweet nature - I don't know if she did. However, I reckoned on value of 500 (retail) & the dealer apparently said 250 trade, which is about right.

Of course I should be able to trust mum. Of course I can't. This isn't the first time, and as it happens, I don't think it will be the last. It's horrifying, if you want my sad small feelings of the heart. Partic as I have been rather a wonderful DD, sniff. But accepting the truth does help, a little bit. Accepting comments and hekp from really nice and normal people like you helps a lot.

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LadySybildeChocolate · 28/08/2012 20:29
Wine
NCForNow · 28/08/2012 20:34

I know about antiques Corygal...furniture isn't my "thing" but I'll know at a glance if they're valuable...or indeed if your Mum is right and they came from Woolies! Have you the means to post a picture?

NCForNow · 28/08/2012 20:34

Oh I see you've sorted it!

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