To ask for my money back even though they're having a baby soon?

[SometimesEverything]

I have a bit of a crappy history with my brother and SiL:

link to previous thread

Yes, I know. I didn't have the balls to take my money back then but alot happened over the summer when everyone was busy with fasting and I just put it off.

Today SiL has told me she is pregnant. She is due soon. They still owe me money (£5K). If I asked for the money now, would it seem like I'm being a mean bitch?

Oh and although I am overjoyed that another baby will be coming into the family, I can't help but feel this is another competitive thing for SiL. I told her about my pregnancy when I was 20 weeks due to having loads of previous miscarriages. She's told me at 30 weeks. She is already comparing if she has a boy, how my son will not be the youngest boy in the family anymore. She just told me how her daughters were saying that when the baby was born they will show off and make everyone jealous with pictures . I am scared that my son will be put into a one sided competition by SiL for the rest of his life.

Should I phone DB and tell him we're going into overdraft now, and that we need our money back. We're not in overdraft yet, but can see it happening in the next 3-4 months. I'm still job hunting.

Stick close with your DH and be firm. Are you able to send less time with them

Perhaps they are thinking that if they ignore it, you wont bring it up.

She is relying on the fact that you won't have the courage to raise it with her or her DH. She is a bully and we know what we do with them!

Ok they've gone. I got a minute alone with db and asked him of he'd received my email. He had replied this morning but I didn't check. He says he will get the money by the end of september. I told him I didn't want to go back to work yet and that I needed the money to stay off work a little longer to stay at home with my baby. I think he got the hint.

Dh and I are also thinking of moving to another city where we have a chance of getting on the property ladder. So the next step is to tell him to pay back the loan money so I can be free to apply for a mortgage.

Db looked really worried today, but I'm too angry to care at the moment. I have children too, and they seem to think theirs are more important than anyone else.
Sil has given dd a bag full of her daughters old clothes as she won't be needing them again. I'm never going to hear the end of her having a boy now. Silly woman.

PLEASE stop loaning them money OP!

Oh, X-post. I do hope you get it all back OP. Can your bother take out a loan in his own name to wipe out the one in yours?