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AIBU to not be upset about offspring's break-up?

44 replies

Lonelylou · 22/08/2012 21:43

Has anyone else been a little relieved when their offspring's serious relationship ended as they felt all the time it changed their offspring into a different person?

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cricketballs · 22/08/2012 21:50

I'm hoping asd praying that it does as I don't like the person he has turned into since Ds has been with his partner

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Lonelylou · 22/08/2012 21:53

We made the partner welcome hoping we could meet the person the offspring saw but I don't think we ever did.

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OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos · 22/08/2012 21:53

Well, I haven't, but then my children haven't even hit puberty yet.

But I cried when my ds was upset over missing a good swimming lesson, so I can't imagine not being upset if they are upset over something as serious as a relationship.

If your offspring is happy, then I guess you should be happy. Is your offspring happy?

thepeoplesprincess · 22/08/2012 21:55

YANBU. I'd be far more upset if it was Green Day.

Busybusybust · 22/08/2012 21:55

Yup - today as a matter of fact. He would never have made her happy. Better she finds out now what a rat he is.

But I am sorry he has hurt her so badly.

StealthPolarBear · 22/08/2012 21:55

PMSL

Mrsjay · 22/08/2012 21:56

dd1 had an awful boyfriend a few years ago she was 16 and he was just a horrible nasty boy It lasted a few months and i breathed a sigh of relief when it was over,

ChickensArentEligableForGold · 22/08/2012 21:56

YANBU if you think that the relationship was bad for your DC. Painful to watch them make mistakes, though.

AllYoursBabooshka · 22/08/2012 21:57

I thought you meant the band.

That was mean!

bronze · 22/08/2012 21:57

Princess glad it wasn't just me who thought that Grin
'not the one'

Hassled · 22/08/2012 22:03

It depends on the partner. DD's first true love - I was gutted when he dumped her from a gigantic height. I was very fond of him. DD's second true love - upset for her, very, but relieved because I had just never been able to like him and I could see how he was screwing her up. It's not so mcuh that I'm glad they've split - I just wish they'd never met.

MaureenMLove · 22/08/2012 22:10

Couldn't be happier that DD's first love only lasted 10 months! Grin I put up with him, because that's the right thing to do, but boy, was I relieved when he dumped her!

Apparently, he didn't like the way she didn't do what he told her to do. Love it - that's my girl! Grin

We saw him recently. He now lives with his new girlfriends family, because his mum kicked him out and his dad won't have him living with him either. He is just 16...

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Lonelylou · 22/08/2012 22:14

Still not understanding the green day reference? What does PMSL mean again?

DC seems resigned but then again always was a Sunshine Person. Says it was a mutual agreement, bless.

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RustyBear · 22/08/2012 22:20

PMSL= Piss My Self Laughing

The Green Day thing was because a lot of people clicked on this thread thinking you were reporting the break up of the band Offspring - thepeoplesprincess was just relieved that it wasn't Green Day who broke up (or didn't)

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Lonelylou · 22/08/2012 22:22

Grin Thank you for that RB

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Lonelylou · 22/08/2012 22:32

If I tell DC I'm pleased as I didn't think the relationship was right...what happens if they get back together again??? How embarassing would that be???

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Hassled · 22/08/2012 22:34

You keep your thoughts to yourself. This is something I've learned the hard way. You deal out the cuddles and the tissues but you don't overshare :o.

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Lonelylou · 22/08/2012 22:39

Thanks Hassled X Grin

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MaureenMLove · 22/08/2012 22:44

God yes! Keep your thoughts to yourself! I did that, even though I could tell there was no going back. It wasn't until we saw him the other week and she called him a loser (amongst other things!) and that she never unstood what she saw in him, that I said, 'told you so!' Grin

Mrsjay · 22/08/2012 22:47

oh dont say a word and dont bad mouth him either, just be there for your child, but dont mention you are pleased about it ,

StuntGirl · 23/08/2012 00:36

God thought you meant Dexter and co. at first! Weirdly, wouldn't have thought I'd have cared but my heart did sink a little. Time to dig out the old CD's I think!

Don't have kids so can't help with the actual question, sorry! Grin

MamaMumra · 23/08/2012 00:40

Who are offspring? It's like being the oldest person in a bar...

thepeoplesprincess · 23/08/2012 00:42

TBH Mama , if you don't know who Offspring are. you're probably the youngets person in this bar.

Hands over nice pint of Snakebite and black.

Thumbwitch · 23/08/2012 00:43

You can't say a word about how relieved you are - dangerous idea! Just give all the support for the hurt that your DC is going through.

My sibling was with a partner for years - there was mutual antipathy with the rest of the family but my Mum was still sad for said sibling when the relationship broke up (I wasn't) - didn't say too much to said sibling which was just as well because they got back together again. Split again a few years later, after 2 DC together - bloody shame that they didn't stay apart the first time really. :(

MamaMumra · 23/08/2012 00:47

Hurray! Like when DS didn't know who Kylie was! But I just googled them and I'm not too young princess Grin