AIBU to not be upset about offspring's break-up?

[Lonelylou]

Has anyone else been a little relieved when their offspring's serious relationship ended as they felt all the time it changed their offspring into a different person?

Ahh it's time to relax and you know what that means a glass of wine your favourite easy chair and of course this compact disk playing on your home stereo

Also clicked thinking it was the band (I'm 23)

Op don't say anything until a year atleast down the track! My mum did then I got back together with sbx, and hated her for what she said, then we split up again and saw her point later if that makes sense!

Rejoice silently OP. noth

Oops

Nothing like parental disapproval to push teenagers together!

How about the other way round? I was really upset when DS's last girlfriend dumped him she was great. and it was all his fault anyway, silly bugger--

We made the partner welcome hoping we could meet the person the offspring saw but I don't think we ever did.

This is happening to our family too. I don't think the closed book is ever going to open beyond the preface, to be honest.

Meeting face to face with DC tomorrow and will try to not cartwheel at greeting!

Just take your cues from your DC - but for heaven's sake don't get carried away when they start bagging the ex. Just say "mmm" and "plenty more fish in the sea" and other platitudes. Good luck!

Ta Thumbwitch

YANBU

My brother's marriage is all but over, and while I am heartbroken for him because his dreams are shattered, I am just so pleased because he has returned to 'normal' for want of a better word these 6 months they have been living apart. They have only been married 2 years, no children.

Another one who clicked thinking it was the band. I was listening to them in the gym this morning. (I'm 47 )

I hated my sons first girlfriend and was so relieved when they broke up after a year. She was hysterical, pathologically needy and encouraged him to lie and steal. He really turned into a different person.

Loved the second one, with her he was the outgoing, lovely lad that he'd been before. I was quite sad when she dumped him for some crusty with waist length dreadlocks, a dope habit and a dog on a string. Sadly I hear that she's now pregnant and dumped at 18.

I think my mum was relieved when i broke up with exH.

I am waiting for the day my sis ends her relationship. Her dp is a useless, lazy nightmare.

I think when my dd is old enough for a partner i dont think il approve as shes my baby & it will be like shes growing up.

I didn't think I'd care so much as I brought my kids up to be independent. Turns out I didn't understand one of the choices but at the moment can't question it.

I'm trying to be very supportive and not to be terribly happy because I've been silently worried sick about the children's future that someone's single mum status will be remaining that way for now.

I never knew I'd feel this way either.

YANBU I want to say the same as I can't stand him TBH (very much a pampered mummy's boy) but I can't deny that he's been bloody good for her and to her, so in that respect I suppose IBU.

My DC is going to siblings place tonight. Just texted them to say not to diss the ex as they may get back together...just encourage DC to talk about the downside of the relationship and agree heartily

Is this OK or AIBU?

That's fine, Lonely and good advice

Sounds like very good advice lonely.

My DD is tiny so no experience of offsprings' break ups but when my sister and her boyfriend broke up a couple of years ago Mum, Dad, DH and I were over the moon as he was awful and treated her terribly.

I am also sure my parents were thrilled when I came out of my two long term relationships pre-DH.

I've generally been relieved, but then mine are both under 16. They haven't been particularly upset by the break ups either. I think serious relationships are too distracting for young teenagers so generally feel relieved when the current girlfriend/ boyfriend thing bites the dust.