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Original poster

to not want Royal Mail to leave my post with neighbours

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wiggofan · 22/08/2012 15:36

Got a leaflet this morning saying that from late Sept mail too big for the letter box will be left with a neighbour rather than returned to delivery office, unless I opt out of the scheme. I went to the website to opt out and will be sent a sticker to put by the letter box, couldn't find what it'll say - "miserable antisocial git lives here" maybe??
If I'm at home on a week day I'm either off sick or have escaped from noisy office to get on with work in peace, either way I don't want to be disturbed. If I'm expecting a parcel I put a note on the door asking postman to leave in garage. If I get an unexpected parcel would much prefer to collect it from the delivery office which is close by rather than trying to catch neighbour in. The person next door often works nights so I'd hate him to be woken up to take a parcel for me.
I can understand nominating a designated neighbour, with their agreement, but this seems a bit random, not sure what Royal Mail class as a neighbour.

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MrsGuyOfGisbourne · 23/08/2012 11:22

Very grateful to the OP as I have been keeping an eye on the junk mail, and - lo!- we received that leaflet today - wouldxa probably chucked it with teh izza ads if i had not been prepared - thanks OP!
(Just thinking of a reason to libel my very nasty neighbour on the RM website )

idococktailshedoesbeer · 23/08/2012 13:11

Bloody hell, I feel lucky with my neighbours reading this! My OH and I work from home so happily take in parcels. We also work abroad a lot in our respective jobs and our lovely neighbours will always take stuff in in return. Much easier than having to drive and then queue for ages to collect something.

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wiggofan · 23/08/2012 13:47

Royal Mail, if you're reading, please will you publish the reasons people give for opting out? Would love to hear about everyone's quirky hellish neighbours

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CouthyMow · 23/08/2012 13:50

How do you opt out? Could someone posts link for me? My neighbour STEALS my parcels, I certainly aren't having them left with her!!!

CouthyMow · 23/08/2012 13:51

(Yes, I HAVE had to involve the police before, for a stolen pram!!)

CouthyMow · 23/08/2012 13:52

And she has been violent to me in the past, and also vandalised my electricity, has and water meters (another ongoing police issue).

CouthyMow · 23/08/2012 13:52

My mother has had a leaflet, I haven't yet.

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wiggofan · 23/08/2012 14:01

Couthy - link is above in the OP

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shesariver · 23/08/2012 14:06

One of my neighbours across the road stole our RAC roof bars we ordered - delivery company confirmed they had delivered to a "red doored" building when we enquired why they hadnt turned up, which is the flats across the road so it was 1 out of 4. RAC guy made us laugh thoguh by saying "cant you just go and ask for them back".......mmmm knowing the people that live in the flats they will have been on ebay by then

So I want a sticker "Dont leave anything with those thieving gits at the flats"!

trikken · 23/08/2012 14:28

I'm lucky I have nice neighbours now but I wouldn't have been Happy with this at the old house as the neighbours were horrible. I can see why lots of people will be unhappy with this. posti is lovely too. He took a parcel to mums a couple of roads away when we weren't in.

MrsGuyOfGisbourne · 23/08/2012 14:30

in fact, thinking about it, no need to wait for the leaflet - just go ahead anyway!

JustFabulous · 23/08/2012 14:31

It only takes a few minutes to accept and sign for a parcel. You would really rather drive somewhere to get it than take a few moments out of your day, OP?

BreconBeBuggered · 23/08/2012 14:35

I'll be amazed if that leaflet appears through my letterbox. Standard practice here appears to be Knock door - Leave parcel in doorway - Bugger off. Which saves time trekking down to the sorting office, but isn't much help when items go missing.

Kendodd · 23/08/2012 14:47

I think it's a great idea and our postman already does this, much easier than going to the sorting office.

But, our old next door neighbor (we have moved) took post in for me and would open it to see what it was!!! I asked her about it and see said she did it in case it was important!!!

YBR · 23/08/2012 14:59

I can see this really depends on your neighbours.
I'd much rather things were left round the back and a note put through the door (I've no idea how long one package sat in my greenhouse) unless a signature is needed. In that case I'm happy for some neighbours but not others, simply because some are not there often at the times we are so it would be hard to retrieve - again I'd want a note to say they'd delivered.
A regular local postie should know which neighbours to go to.

Great example: a courier driver, having tried to deliver when we were out, drove round to by DH's workplace (to which he regularly delivered) because he recognised the surname.

UKSky · 23/08/2012 15:15

We take in stuff for the whole street as there is always someone in. Usually then deliver it on if I see recipient has arrived home. DD loves being the postie.

We get do much stuff that if we aren not at our warehouse, couriers bring it to the house.

Come Christmas time we. Sometimes get a dozen parcels in a day. But it helped me to get to know the neighbours.

BulldogDrummond · 23/08/2012 15:23

My mother - in her 80s - was asked to take in a parcel for a neighbour. A week later, it was still in her house because she had forgotten it and the postman had not put a card through the neighbour's door. It was only after we turned up that things were dealt with.

mimimomma · 23/08/2012 15:33

I recieved the leaflet this morning, and it actually made my day. I HATE treking off to the depot, 24 hours later to stand in a huge queue with a toddler and baby in tow. I'm more than happy for any of my neighbours to collect a parcel for me, and am happy to do the same.

I used to work nights and would unplug the phone etc during the day to avoid being woken, and would be very cheesed off if someone woke me with a delivery for a neighbour, maybe suggest they put up a sticker too!

Xayide · 23/08/2012 16:03

Just opted out.

Any other addresses we'd lived at it would be be a good idea.

It's annoying when I'm in and visibly so and they leave a card - caught them doing that more than once to find they didn't have the parcel .

Still easier and less likely to' go missing' if its at the sorting office and we near it fairly frequently anyway.

I hate having to leave a record that I'm not on god terms though - god know why I feel that as it really isn't my fault.

Bellyjaby · 23/08/2012 17:09

I tweeted Royal Mail just in case, but apparently this scheme is either in or out.

OH and I just had a discussion about this as we really don't want to appear bad to the other neighbours who've kindly taken our parcels in before (and of course, we've taken in for them too). We decided we're going to print a yellow label up with "No delivery to 46" on it, and place it next to the letterbox. We're hoping that will work. Though the likelihood is the nutter wouldn't take the mail in anyway, so I'm likely worrying over nothing.

MrsGuyOfGisbourne · 23/08/2012 17:12

Maybe would be better if we could all just make a sticker of our own to go on the door - ie if out, plese deliver to no 42 or no43? like you sometimes see on shop doors.

DuchessofMalfi · 23/08/2012 18:17

Our neighbour situation makes me so sad because we had lovely neighbours at our old house. They took stuff in for us, were friendly and even babysat for us at times.

Our postie there lived in the next road and would pop round with parcels for us or leave them in the garden for us. I miss that easy friendship so much when faced with so much vile hostility where we are now. I've never been so utterly depressed at the situation we're in.

firawla · 23/08/2012 19:10

did someone say in this scheme they wouldnt be leaving a card to tell you which house they left it in?! if that's true that is really silly - we need the card!!!

i was on this thread yesterday in favour of all this, but am annoyed today because our next door neighbour had a parcel delivered to his, brought it round today but he had opened it . he never mentioned anything to excuse himself like oh opened by mistake, he just kinda folded it back down and handed it over but it was very clearly opened - so not too pleased. it was only a book from amazon but what if it had been private..
still wouldnt wanna collect from post office though

mumtocuddlebundle · 23/08/2012 19:23

I haven't read every post here, so not sure if someone already said this, but in my opinion, I think it's great - would my much prefer picking up parcel from neighbour than having to go to post office. Only thing is, I might very occasionally have a parcel I wouldn't particularly want my neighbours seeing. Like some new underwear from figleaves. I'm pretty sure it says figleaves on the outside. I'm easily embarrassed! But don't suppose you can opt out for a specific parcel.

MrsGuyOfGisbourne · 24/08/2012 09:34

How much time is this goign tot add to the postie's round? May have to try a few houses, before hitting on one, then going back to original house to write number on card and put that through. Would have been easier just to take the package back as he does now.

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