DP put some of my delicate items in a normal wash and they are now unwearable - one was expensive the other 3 weren't. It was an honest mistake, he assumed the pile on the floor was for washing as it was not in the normal place and it looked dirty.
When I expressed my upset (I didn't go mad just miffed) he said it was regretable and we could buy some more. I said that I accepted it was a mistake but that I felt upset and went off to watch some telly. 5 mins later I said "an apology might be nice" then he completely lost it saying didn't I get the spirit of what he was saying, that yes it was a shame but he wasn't going to apologise as he felt he'd done nothing wrong and it was just a case of "semantics". He then said I was equally to blame for leaving a pile of washing in a different location to normal. He then slammed the door and left the house for 15 mins!
Yes it's good that he's doing his share of the housework and to be fair usually he's not adverse to apologising "if he feels he's done something wrong". Today he says "he wants to move on from it" but still no apology.
He is stressed at work but still, isn't it normal to apologise if you accidently ruin something that belongs to someone else even if it was an honest mistake? Ie. isn't it just good manners? If he'd apologised straight away, then we could have forgotten about it and moved on a lot earlier in the evening.
AIBU?