Should I get my dog put down?

[andypandy30]

Really don't know what to do for the best. Had our dog nine years, she is a mixed breed, nor really sure what she is a bit Spanial, she has always been lively jumping up etc.
We took her to training a few years back, it didn't really work to be honest. I have 2 ds one who is five and one 2.10.
A few years back the dog bit the next door neighbour, we were at work she got out in the rain so he tried to put her back in. The nice next door neighbour played it down but had a plaster on.
We let it go and watched her closely. She has growled at the kids a few times and nipped the eldest once when he was a toddler but the child stood on his tail accidentally. Both ds know not to be cruel to the dog and never are. Today ds tried to take a bean off the dogs plate, it was left over from his dinner and given to the dog. I heard ds scream I was washing up he was crying hard his arm was very red and swollen and has teeth marks but it didn't bleed.
Not sure what to do, everyone telling me we have had enough warnings now and next time it could be the eye.
Dog is walked everyday has massive back garden and I only work part time so it's rarely alone.
Please give me some advice sorry it's so long didn't want to drip feed

Glad you've found a way forward.

This gets more and more unbelievable with every post. A trainer has now told your dog can't trained because of her age???

Although I do agree with the trainer, the biting probably will happen again if the dog stays with you.

It would almost be amusing if a dog's welfare was not at stake.

I need to leave this thread now. I am becoming very tempted to post against MN's talk guidelines.

OP - please don't get another dog. I hear those sea monkey things are good pets. Try those instead.

OP, no one says you're a bad parent.

It seems you've made up your mind about the dog. This thread serves as justification to get rid of it.
Good luck whatever you decide, I would not consider any more dogs in your place, will be easier that way.

That's okay. I feel sorry for my kids most of the time too. I am truly evil

It never fails to amaze me, that people who know absolutely nothing about an animal will go out and get one.

OP, you ask how many warnings you need? The first time should have been enough for you to be vigilant and seek professional help in preventing any further situations developing.

OP, I would leave it now.
You took the advice you wanted.

Karma? Bullying? Pent up anger? No OP. No one is bullying you. You asked on an opinions board. You got opinions. Pent up anger - No pent up anger, just frustration building the more I read your comments because you make it blindingly obvious you know sod all about animals, and Karma? Again, no. I won't be in your situation because I actually research and learn about animals before I buy them.

Training can be continuous, consistency is the answer, the DC need training too, an almost 3 year old is old enough to be taught how to behave around a dog. Start feeding her apart from DC straight away. The incident with your neighbour sounds like a one off, more than likely cornered, frightened dog..quite forgivable as your neighbour understood. DC need to understand that a growl is a warning to leave her alone, a nip is the next warning. It should be quite easy to retrain your DC to leave the dog alone if she's eating or sleeping. Good luck OP, don't give her to your SIL unless you get a guarantee she will get walked.

I was going to add something facetious about the word dog being substituted for teenager in your op but thought better of it

I feel sorry for that dog.

What is your sister going to do about walking it?

"The dog is NOT getting put down my sil is taking her. This is the best I can do."

You say that like it wasn't the title of your AIBU.

If you'd said what I can I do about my dog, you would have found the world on your side. You suggested having your dog killed in your title. I don't know if you did that to make the thread high volume and get more advice and perhaps weren't expecting it to be so harsh, or if you honestly thought this would be the best option for you, your family and the dog.

I'm glad you have found a solution.

It sounds like the OP has gone off the killing option since she found out it would cost her £175 .

It's not my sister it's my sister in law. I don't know what she is going to do about waking the dog, she said she will do it.at r she will but I doubt it as she can't walk far, maybe this will help her.
Really can't force her to walk the dog, it will be her dog now, I will be paying for it but it will be her dog.

OP, I feel for you. If people haven't had a difficult dog then they can't understand. Our dog was great 95% of the time, but could be aggressive 5% of the time, and often unpredictably. We tried many different training techniques and dog psychologists, etc. He was just a dominant dog, but did chill out as he got older. We didn't have young children in the house so he was manageable, although their were a few discussions after biting incidents throughout his lifetime as to whether we would have to get rid of him. In the end though we couldn't do it.
Getting him out of the house is a good idea though. He is obviously not child-friendly so staying with your sister may calm him down again. I think you are doing the right thing, and people on her are being way too harsh.

I've reported your posts containing personal attacks, OP, as they clearly violate the MN talk guidelines, and while it doesn't worry me personally, it's not very pleasant for people to have to read that sort of thing.

Do you think it might be helpful for you to step away from the thread for a while (and stop with the PMs as well)? I don't mean to be rude, but you are starting to sound a little overwrought and irrational, your recent posts really are all over the place.

I have to agree with others and hope you don't get another dog (or indeed any animal). It isn't for everyone, and unfortunately I'm not sure you have the patience or the maturity.

What 'behaviour expert' have you spoken to? There are no male dog behaviour 'experts' in Northern Ireland. The only APBC accredited behaviourist is a woman.

So your giving your sil your dog, but you will still be paying for it, but its 'her' dog now so if she doesn't walk it thats up to her?

I personally think this is shit, that dog will be pts and that will be that. Your mind was made up before this thread was started.

Lets just hope you don't get any more animals ! :(

Midori, the OP is probably organising a hit on you

Maybe you should get LookBehindYou to look behind you Midori

Sadly, your children have to come first.

I think this was a "please all agree with me that my dog should be killed so I can do it without guilt" post that slightly backfired.

We have now gone from time being an issue, to dog walkers costs being too high, to cost of training sessions being too high....

So you are giving her to your SIL who you KNOW and have repeatedly stated is highly unlikely to walk her, but hey the dog isn't yours any more, so what can you do? If your SIL neglects the dog (which is what failing to exercise is) then it's nothing to do with you - it's not your dog any more.

You have refused to DO anything that will cost you time or money - and now you are rehoming to a person who may love your dog - but, according to you, won't actually be able to meet one of the fundamental needs of a dog because it's easier for you - and hey, as long as you pay out what you've always paid, the fact that the dog's needs aren't being met doesn't really matter.

Yup - you really LOVE that dog OP.

If as you keep saying your darling child cant possibly do any wrong or be at fault by pinching the dogs food as he is only 2.10 yrs why the hell leave him near a dog that has been known to be aggressive? Or you thick? You know your dog has been aggressive yet risk just turning your back to wash up whilst your child torments him?
Terrible, poor dog