Socknickingpixie, I want you to be right but HMRC are absolutely adamant that you do have to be in receipt ofDLA to qualify for disabled child tax element to be paid, :) and it is specifically because he was not, yet was given it, that it was deemed an overpayment.
They wrote to me asking if he was in receipt of it or not, and I phoned up and said not. They thanked me for being truthful with them and said he shouldn't have been getting it and it was therefore an overpayment.
If you can show me how I can show them this is wrong, please do go for it.
They are also adamant that I must have at some time said he was receiving DLA, as that is the only way they would have paid DCTC. I know I've never said this, there's no reason why I would have.
He's 17 cusp of 18, diagnosed ASD Gt Ormond street, and has other unspecified connected difficulties, such as poor core balance, so falls frequently etc, big hyper-mobility problems, but no longer seeks help, can put his own shoulders back in, after a few hours, finds pain preferable to clinics and hospitals.
He now only see Dr's once in a blue moon as emergency treatment, as he wont go alone.
His SEN statement and disabled swim card's, are the only real evidence of how different his needs are, outside of me saying it's a full time job, if he won't admit the situation, and tbh, if you sat down and talked to him, I'll bet he could convince you there's nothing 'wrong' with him, but if your in 'authority' he will either hide from you, or attempt to 'pass' by nodding in whatever places he thinks are appropriate. So someone wanting to find out what's underneath could because he'll say yes to anything if the tone suggests a yes to be good, so someone who wants to prove him not needing help has no problem.
I've sat and watched him agree with a policeman that he may be confused and nothing has happened to him, when the evidence to the contrary was all over bloody you tube. :(
I can explain until I'm blue in the face how odd and uneven his profile of can't do, and can do skills are and how sadly different his life as a young man is, and how very vulnerable he is, but to many people he just looks like an academically intelligent but failing, real life stupid, intense, lazy, sometimes out of control, spoilt, unthinking, arrogant, mummy's boy, because when you look at and listen to him, you simply wouldn't guess that he really can't do, or not do, or work out how to do x or y, and would love to. :(
People around me love to tell me they can't believe if I leave him in the freezing water, unfed, or with a pan on fire long enough, he won't just apply knowledge and be magically fixed and normal.
One of his siblings is severely brain damaged, and she's honestly an awful lot less work.