To wonder if dh and I are too dependent on one another

[rubberglove]

My dh and I met when we were teenagers, married young and now have two beautiful children. We are best friends and soul mates and rarely do anything apart.

He works, but socially we are both a bit introverted. Apart from the odd meet up with friends together, we mostly do our own thing.

What prompted me to think was another thread about being lonely. I have never really considered myself as such but I have few friends and when dh goes back to work after a holiday I cry because I miss him so much. He phones me from work, sometimes twice a day.

I just wonder if other couples are like this? Or actually, that I am lonely and rely on dh too much. I do have my own interests but they are lonely types of hobby e.g. writing

Dh has loved and supported me always, and through terrible pnd after my firstborn. I wonder though if he should have more of a life outside me too.

rubber you can have both a close relationship with your DH and DC and a life of your own independent of them.

You really can .

Perhaps you just need to give yourself permission?

Have you thought of doing something as a family, such as join a walking group? You could then talk to each other or to other people.

Your lucky family to have you.

A job....some voluntary work...a class...world's your oyster really. Enjoy!

You shouldn't have to force yourself to get out and take up new, social hobbies just because that's what other people like to do! If you are happy in your own company and hanging out with your partner then do it. All these people saying it's unhealthy... It isn't unhealthy for everyone. If you are both happy then nothing is being damaged by your lifestyle. My husband and I are lazy socialisers. We love solitude.

From her last post though it sounds like she's quite interested in exploring new things, things outiside of her direct homelife.

Wow you should live with my dh. He is suffocatingly clingy, won't socialise without me and phones and texts me at work with trivial crap that could have waited until evening.it does ,y head in - I feel more like a comfort blankie than a human.

Good point squoosh. I see that now.

"During the day we probably swap texts and emails about 20-30 times,"

Blimey, I couldn't be doing with that. I hate texting at the best of times. To be constantly interrupted would annoy the hell out of me. I agree with Wordfactory, it is possible to be close yet independent. I think that makes for a healthy long term relationship. OH and I met in 1978 and are still together.