to be fucking sick of everything?

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just don't to opt out

what is getting you down in particular?

That sounds too drastic. Tell us some more about what it is you are sick of and I'm sure some of us with try to help with support and advice. You are not alone while you are on here.

work/love/money/kids??? whats getting to you the most? it IS a slog everyday, I think for the most of us! I often wish I had the balls to opt out, buy a camper and feck off out of it all

no work, can't get a job
worried about money
hate my husband, dont want him to come back
ds is such hard work, constant battling
not spoken to anyone for a week

I feel like you OP. Everything is just shit. Talking on here really does help though. I'm on a couple of support threads for what I'm going through, maybe that would be an option?

What's happening that's got you feeling so bad?

Oh x post sorry.

One thing at a time. What's your H done?

how old is ds? the work thing is a real issue and I feel for you when you want to work and can't, money is route of all evil...it really is! life shouldnt be soe dependant on money its horrid

When a person has multiple issues going on,it can get overwhelming.

Sometimes they are indeed 5 different problems,sometimes a couple of issues can make the others happen.For instance,before your money worries,did you still hate your husband?
And you may have been able to cope with your ds before your money worries came along.

He's nearly 5
I can't even come to the toilet without him yelling for me

Dh is abusive, emotionally. He's very low
Struggling to get him to leave the house
But he's away at the moment

He is the main problem, but even divorce won't get rid of that problem, he will always be on at me.

I think your 5 year old may try that until he is at least 7 .

Has your DH got depression,not that that excuses him from every behaviour he does.

I can vouch for the dh with depression thing.....its exhausting to live with and you often end up dealing with everything because they are not (or you think they are not) strong enough to deal with it, overloading you with the burden of debts and challenging children and you lose respect for them and end up hating them for leaving you unsupported!!! sound familiar?

I forced him to go to GP re depression and he got antidepressants

He says he thinks they are working, but he hasn't really been around for me to have an opinion

He's at his worst when stressed, so been avoiding those situations
But he's just a nightmare.
Now sending me messages telling me how much he loves me and what a good mother I am
In reality he can only deal with spending a couple of hours a week at home

DS
This morning we have made a den, played a game on computer, done some drawing, made a robot/monster thing
Played fireman sam, done the gardening, set the paddling pool up.

I have given in and put the telly on

Nothing wrong with the telly being on :) you've done more with your DS this morning than I've done all week.

Wow you've done loads with your ds!!! :) ... If he's playing up don't feel bad, let him have a paddy if he must :)

My dd aged 9 has spent the morning in her pj's watching tv and playing on her kinect :)

If your dh is an arse can you secretly open another bank account and siphon money into there or arrange to have child benefit and tax credits paid in there, save it up and rent somewhere else and move while he's out ...? (Drastic yes).

You have done so much this morning, you don't have to be the perfect mother. What would you like to do just for yourself?

We've done that much, because that's the way he is

Moves at a frantic pace, and I have to have to go straight on to the next thing
I have to keep him constantly entertained

it's hard as well because I am constantly saying, don't do that, you know you cant do that, you know you shouldnt be doing that, going near the fan, etcc blah blah.

That includes jumping on me, sawing me(!!)

Nothing I say sinks in

Firstly, wow that's an impressive amount of activities to do with DS in a morning, you should give yourself a pat on the back, that's way more than I typically do with my two (age 5 and 6).
Secondly it sounds like your dealing with a lot and it's completely normal to want everything to go away sometimes, especially when your under so much pressure.
As far as DS being clingy goes, partly that will be his age and the fact that (I assume) he's off school for the holidays. However, it may well be that he is also reacting to the problems he is witnessing at home. Even at 5 children take on board far more than we think they do and often internalise responsibility for it. Once you deal with the surrounding issues this will probably improve.
It sounds like talking to someone like a counsellor or a hypnotherapist could really help.

have you asked for help with your ds? keep a diary for three days (get him to help) of all the things you do, the changes of activity, the demands for attention and take it to your gp. it might be that he is in need of some kind of support. if you are coping, for example, with an asperger's or a d d child on your own, without information, you will find it very hard.

add a d d attention deficit disorder - sorry, that wasn't clear.
and i'm not saying 'there's something wrong' with your ds - just that if he does have additional needs, it will help you to know.

Following on from what lovebunny said, have a look at this. It is an ADHD check list.

Ticks every box on there mamma

He starts school in 2 weeks, so big transition coming up.
Nursery don't think he's a major problem, more like the extreme end of normal. He loses interest quickly, but he finds learning some new thing fascinating.

I've talked to the GP, started him off with hearing tests.
Seem reluctant to do anything without report from nursery/school

I don't mind admitting that he exhausts me.
He's also beautiful, affectionate,quick, funny, adorable really

i swear, everything is just shit

:(

With DS it's really good that you've started him off with some hearing tests and hopefully they will continue investigating until they find an answer. If school believe there is a problem then they will refer too and this should speed things up. Alternatively you may find that being at school really helps him, by giving him a bigger outlet. This happened with my DD. Make sure you communicate with the school and keep them informed of your concerns.

I am not saying this to belittle everything you're going through, but do you think antidepressants may help you too? They won't change what's happening but they may help you cope. Or counselling may help if you can talk through it all.

If you had to make a decision right now - do you want a divorce?

yes, I think I'm going to have to give in, and ask for them
I have discussed it with the gp
but then she left
and the last time I called for an appt, the receptionist made me cry

I can't deal with anything
been in tears this morning
been on phone for an hour on hold for insurance companies, only to be told not covered
now I have to find contractors that will turn up and not rip me off
and we don't have the money

my stairs are going to collapse soon

i have so much to do

a lot of this is pmt, I know it, but it doesn't make it any more manageable

now been on hold with doctors for 9 minutes

yes I want a divorce
I don't care if I never see him again
he causes me more hurt than anyone/anything