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to be fucking sick of everything?

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uselfullife · 19/08/2012 09:40

just don't to opt out

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fuzzpig · 20/08/2012 11:48

Hope you mange to get through to the doctors and get something to help. Looks like you have to sort out the divorce (or at least separation if the paperwork is too much right now) first.

Have you spoken about your feelings with H? Where is he at the moment? Can you discuss it when he returns?

uselfullife · 20/08/2012 12:26

yes, he knows
but I think he's so in denial, that he thinks he can fix it
we really don't have money to live apart, and no friends to stay with
and as long as he is in this house, he will manipulate his way back in

made gp appt for next week

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Lostgirl27 · 20/08/2012 12:54

Try and actively make a separation plan. I done this when I knew I wanted to leave my husband and it really helped keep me focused, and I felt less stressed as I was on top my problems and seeking solutions.

Firstly sort out finances. Are you working? Check the government websites to find out financially what you are entitled to (working or not), when I done this it turned out I was actually financially better off on my own!

Next is housing. Do you have a parent near by that you could stay with temporarily? Submit a form to your local authority to get on the housing list. Also check out private rents in your area, even if it's just a 1 bed flat, anything to get you away from your husband. It may seem financially impossible but trust me, if you feel half as bad as I did when I was leaving, you'll find the funds from somewhere. You don't have to be on benefits to apply for a community care grant, which can help you when starting out on your own.

Now the fun part, plan your life! Make lists of things you want to do, places to go, anything at all just get it all down on paper into your plan. I really think it will help, if anything it will take your mind off how shit you are feeling.

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