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Original poster

To think this guy is a complete twat???

46 replies

YeahBuddy · 17/08/2012 22:18

So I'm talking to this guy I met online, he knows I have twins and also I assume knows I am a single mum. Honestly, I would have cut the conversation dead a long time ago if it wasn't so funny. The shite he has come out with so far is;
I should wait 10-15 years to date someone, when my kids are teenagers and they're not a problem anymore.
He spoke to the bitches girls in his office about me and they all say I want everything (kids and a relationship) but I can't have everything.
I must be in a massive amount of debt because I live in a council flat and am a single mum.
And finally, I should not have an iPhone (especially not on a contract) because "when the bills come in, an iPhone should not take priority" and "a single mum having an iPhone is like a bald man using a comb" Confused

Oh and he's just come out with "You only got a iPhone cos your mate had one or you thought it was cool or you got it for free"

AIBU to think this bloke is a complete wanker or is he having me on?? And more importantly, should I stop communication or carry on to see what other sexist and quite frankly confusing shite he comes out with?

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crocodiletears · 17/08/2012 22:20

Just block him. Why in god's name are you still talking to him?

Secrecy · 17/08/2012 22:21
Shock

You need to end contact.

But you need a good 'final line'. Mumsnet can help, I am sure!!!! Grin

NameChangeGalore · 17/08/2012 22:21

Definitely keep up the communication. Egg him on.

NameChangeGalore · 17/08/2012 22:23

This could be fun though. Tell him you bought a LV bag for yourself the other day; the kids didn't mind not having new shoes. Wink

Secrecy · 17/08/2012 22:24

Actually, name, I like your thinking!!!

BagofHolly · 17/08/2012 22:27

No good will come of this. Bin him, right now.

frustratedpants · 17/08/2012 22:27

I think he is being a twat winding you up.

missymoomoomee · 17/08/2012 22:27

In all honesty I wouldn't be giving quite so much info away to someone who is obviously a total nutjob please be very careful if you continue to talk to this guy.

AgentZigzag · 17/08/2012 22:29

Why would you want to play games with what sounds like a total tosser?

It won't be that difficult to find someone nicer with him as your benchmark.

lentilweavinghippy · 17/08/2012 22:34

Whether he's having you on or not, he's still a wanker!

AWhere the hell did you find him??

shezzle · 17/08/2012 22:36

YANBU. He obviously is a bully and dislikes women, don't disclose anything more about yourself or your children. Tell him you have met someone amazing and you would rather not talk to him anymore, thank you very much. I would also add that Your children are definitely not a problem but speaking to him is.

zookeeper · 17/08/2012 22:37

Why would you bother taking to him??

zookeeper · 17/08/2012 22:38

talking

carernotasaint · 17/08/2012 22:38

Agree with shezzle. He is a mysogynist who reads the Daily Mail. Block and ignore.

Original poster
YeahBuddy · 17/08/2012 22:42

Missy, I'm not giving out personal info like where I live or phone number, don't worry, he doesn't even know my name.
It's a definite wind up which actually makes him more of a twat than I first thought. His advise was that when my contract runs out, I should not upgrade because that would be selfish as it is a non-essential bill and should get an old PAYG phone instead and use that. I thanked him for his advice but told him I would just probably ignore him and do what I wanted to which he replied the 'pub girls' said I would do that...

It was fun but I'm bored now, that block button is looking rather inviting.

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Original poster
YeahBuddy · 17/08/2012 22:43

*advice - that's his terrible spelling influencing me. True story :)

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AmberLeaf · 17/08/2012 22:46

Why are you even bothering?

shezzle · 17/08/2012 22:46

What a fucking control freak. Office girls? Pub girls? More like the little voices in his head. Block him!

shezzle · 17/08/2012 22:49

I absolutely cannot believe I swore, so sorry I just cant stand men like this. I never swear.... Bloody mumsnet!!! In a good way obviously Grin

Original poster
YeahBuddy · 17/08/2012 22:51

It's weird, it's like a freaky sort of entertainment, I don't quite understand what he is trying to achieve. I'm going to stop using POF, he's just the latest in a long line of nutters that I've spoken to on there. I only started chatting to him because he didn't start the conversation with 'Want to fuck?' or words to that effect.

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shezzle · 17/08/2012 23:04

It's such a shame there are all these idiots out there. I was a single parent for quite a long time yeahbuddy, people always try to tell you how to do things don't they!

Original poster
YeahBuddy · 17/08/2012 23:16

I thought I'd try it Shezzle because one of my friends found her dh through pof, although it did take her quite a few months of shifting through idiots before she found him. I keep hoping its going to happen to me too fat chance Grin

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SoleSource · 17/08/2012 23:17

You are lonely and accepting his vile chat because anybody will do.

hatesponge · 17/08/2012 23:18

Definitely block him. Twat - how dare men feel entitled to comment in that way on how we live?!

I went on a date once years ago with a bloke who was quite friendly til he found out where I lived (it's a v expensive area, albeit I live in the cheapest part - but didn't tell him that!) and that I didn't just have a normal 3 bed semi. Cue him then coming out with comments to the effect of how much was my Ex coughing up to keep me there etc Hmm - somewhat ironically my Ex hasn't ever paid me a penny in maintenance! Needless to say I never saw him again.

I've had others who have said in messages how they don't want to get involved raising another man's kids Hmm, or asked me how do I manage financially Shock It really beggars belief!

Empusa · 17/08/2012 23:21

"You are lonely and accepting his vile chat because anybody will do."

Bit of an assumption.

When I was on dating sites I used to get some real nutcases I married one of them. some I'd just block, but sometimes they'd be so OTT weird that I'd keep chatting for pure entertainment value.

My favourite was the bloke who had a go at me for aborting his imaginary baby!