To think this guy is a complete twat???

[YeahBuddy]

So I'm talking to this guy I met online, he knows I have twins and also I assume knows I am a single mum. Honestly, I would have cut the conversation dead a long time ago if it wasn't so funny. The shite he has come out with so far is;
I should wait 10-15 years to date someone, when my kids are teenagers and they're not a problem anymore.
He spoke to the bitches girls in his office about me and they all say I want everything (kids and a relationship) but I can't have everything.
I must be in a massive amount of debt because I live in a council flat and am a single mum.
And finally, I should not have an iPhone (especially not on a contract) because "when the bills come in, an iPhone should not take priority" and "a single mum having an iPhone is like a bald man using a comb"

Oh and he's just come out with "You only got a iPhone cos your mate had one or you thought it was cool or you got it for free"

AIBU to think this bloke is a complete wanker or is he having me on?? And more importantly, should I stop communication or carry on to see what other sexist and quite frankly confusing shite he comes out with?

I don't understand why you even needed to validate your opinion on MN. You must have had some doubts about it, otherwise you would have
A) Stopped talking to him, and
B) Not wasted your time posting on here.
Christ.

I'm sorry hehaditcoming I assumed that this was an Internet forum where I could (within reason) post what I like. Please feel free send me a list of 'approved topics' that you would find acceptable and I will be sure to post about those in future.

Tell him you blew your money on a new handbag, but saved money on new shoes for the kids by taking them to one of those fish pedicure places, and making them keep their feet in until their old shoes fitted again.

I think that was a top tip from Viz. See if he swallows it. Then block the freak forever.

Yeahbuddy, all in good time. My mum met her bloke online and they are getting married next year. They have been together for a long time now but we all wanted a good wedding! You have to try these things and there are good ones out there. I ended up moving abroad to teach just to get away( crappy life, controlling ex partner) I took dd1 when she was 4. No more kids ( even though dd1 is wonderful), definitely not getting married I told myself! Ended up meeting someone I used to go to school with out there, now married with two more. Prior to the move away I went on a date, someone I worked with said this guy was really lovely the only reason I went along, he asked my age as I was a little younger than him and he said ' oh let me have a look...' stared closely at me and said ' good you do have wrinkles ' he was not joking. I even asked him. Idiot! I did have a bit of a complex for a while I was under thirty at the time, I now realise he felt old and wanted me to feel bad. Nice!

at fish pedicure

Oooh I love those fishy feet things!!
Shezzle, that is awful, I would have punched him in the face! I thought I found a nice one, we went out a few times but then I realised he was thick as two short planks not the guy for me. I'm not even that bothered really, not desperate or anything, I'm just so used to talking to different people all the time through where I used to work that it's been a bit of a culture shock becoming a mum and having to stay in all the time

I get that completely yeahbuddy, it's definitely not desperation! Just being sociable and if it happens then it's a bonus! I was too busy with dd1 to seriously consider a real relationship, you must be too with twins! How lovely though. As she got older i found dd1 such great company when I was single. We have a really special bond even now, she is 20 ( I ACTUALLY have wrinkles now ) how old are yours? kids not wrinkles obviously.

They are just coming up to 10 months and to be honest, I'm so bloody exhausted by the time they go to bed the last thing I want to do is entertain somebody else This guy really was something else though, I just had to share!

"bald man using a comb!"

That cracked up. Op, the things he is saying are so pathetic I couldnt possibly take him seriously so I wouldnt be offended.

I can see the temptation to keep going to see what other gems this fine gentleman comes out with!

I might steal the bald man thing. Quite a useful phrase.

Why engage with someone who has no respect for you and is obviously laughing at you?

YABU. He has clearly shown he is a twat even if he thinks he is joking. Why waste anymore time on him.

yeahbuddy, I posted earlier to ask why were you even talking to him, but wouldn't want to put you off.

When I split up with my dp and the dcs were young I used to chat online and chatted to a load of idiots. I also chatted to lovely people, some of whom are still friends. I met my dp two years ago online and he's lovely.

I would justt say don't spend too much time talking to the idiots because although of the face of it it can be a bit of a laugh to wonder at their awfulness actually they will drain you.

Crapbag, read the whole thread perhaps?

Well done OP, the right decision and now you and DD can have your own quiet remembrance at the grave.

Oops, sorry - wrong thread!

Yeahbuddy-Internet decided not to work last night, was enjoying our chat! I am often up with the baby and mumsnetting till late so if you fancy a chinwag let me know

Whats with the crazy fazcination with an Iphone?

Seriously, why are you even asking? He sounds lame.

Thanks Shezzle
So anyway, after a lecture about how selfish I am because I have an iPhone on a contract and it is a 'non-essential' item (which incidentally I can afford but apparently that doesn't matter when I am a single mum with two children ) I gave that one up as a bad job and put the block button to good use. You know, in case anyone was interested... :)

Good for you for blocking him. Really, I was a single mum in a council flat for years and I had no end of idiots with similar comments. There are definitely a group of people out there (not just men - like this guy's office colleagues) who are really keen for single mums like us to stay down, don't want us to have social lives or to have new relationships.

POF is a pretty dodgy website tbh, there are a lot more decent sites for dating. I met my current DH on Match and am now enjoying 'having everything' i.e. kids and relationship .

befor you block him could you ask him to ask the girls in the pub why exactly it is that you shouldnt have a iphone?