For feeling that one child is not enough?

[mamafridi]

I had a lot of fertility problems and after 6 long years of trying I finally had my daughter. I was in my 40s when I gave birth and knew that she was most probably going to be an only child and I made peace with that fact...until that is I came back to live in the UK.

Just having been here a few months I can't get over the underlying pressure there is here to have more than one. And that there is something not quite right with a woman if she says she is happy with one.

To be honest I just feel so grateful to have been able to have had my DD at all as I really believed that I was never going to be a mum. So why can't some women just accept that there are a section of other women that are satisfied with just one child and stop judging!

I would have loved to have a second child, but I think you have to be grateful for what you have.

I do like the fact that my DD will be accepted for what she is, instead of being labelled as "the bright one" or "the musical one" or "the sporty one". I also like the fact that if she wants to do ballet, she can do it, instead of me having to say it's not possible because someone else does football that day.

My bigger worry is for the future, once we're not around. I worry that if she remains single, she will be all alone in the world. For that reason, I've made a big effort to ensure she spends time with her cousins. I am as close to some of my cousins as I am to my siblings, so I think that cousins can be the next best thing

Yeh, my DC's have a ball with their cousins - they loved spending the day with my sisters little girl the other day. They have half a dozen cousins on each side of the family - far more than I had. Cousins rock