To think that entering a person's house without knocking is rude?

[Nancyclancy]

I am quite a sociable person and I'm happy for friends/family to knock at my door, open it and call out to me.
However this morning I was sitting in my front room with my eldest when I looked up to see my dh uncle standing in my front room doorway. I was a bit [shocked] as I wasn't dressed (in dressing gown.)
He needed to borrow something from our shed. When he left, I asked my ds if he'd heard him knock, he hadn't.
This is happening more and more and it's starting to annoy me, especially as the family members doing it aren't even close.
I went through a phase of locking my doors and found that if I didn't answer really quickly they'd peer through our windows!!!

It's not so much the just walking in that grates me. It's the appearing in the doorway suddenly that pisses me off as it's invading our privacy. I could have been naked ths morning!!

Op you really should lock your door anyway. I didn't use to until my DSs dad told me that there were a number of crimes reported in the area where thieves were opening the door and grabbing stuff near it (usually keys, wallet, phone)

So it isn't safe to have unlocked doors

My fil used to just walk in to our old house, we lived far enough away that prevented them just dropping by so i would be expecting them but i still didn't think it was ok to just walk in so i would make sure the door was always locked, he still tried it every time, i'd of thought after 4 years of not being able to open the door he would realised and stopped trying to just walk in.

I think you need to say something, after all you could of been in the middle of something very passionate.

On a more serious note, as i was putting the cat away for the night at about 11pm i heard someone try to open our back door (they pulled down the handle and kind of rattled the door back and forward) i froze, was in the house alone with dd as dh working nights, thankfully it was locked but it isn't always locked in the evening as i go around all the doors before bed to check them, the door hadn't been used on this particular day otherwise it would of been unlocked.

Oh no how scary for you lexi!! Yes people do this to grab stuff left near doors...although a back door while someone is obviously awake is very very scary!

Lexi how frightening. From now on our door will be locked!! All of our doors have to be locked by a key with the handle held up.
My front door and french windows are always locked, it's the back door that is always unlocked - so the kids can come and go!

Open doors for friends and family, here too

My mums next door neighbour had her handbag stolen in the middle of the day while she was at home in the next room. Someone tried her door on the off chance and found it open!

My ILs ALWAYS try and open the door before knocking. After 2.5 years of living here you'd think they'd get the hint that we keep our door locked

lock the door. daughter had a cold caller/chugger walk right into the house - through the porch/vestibule and into the hall, without so much as a knock. and there was nothing about the front door to suggest it wasn't locked - he must have been in the habit of trying the doors of houses...

I have 2 cases of this, my 1st was when we had 1st moved into our house, we didn't have central heating and it was bloody freezing so we brought our mattress down, lit the open fire, shut the doors to have a cosy film sunday untill the living room door flung open, there was my sister, bil, nephews and bils parents, who decided on a wim to pay us a visit to see what our house was like, I could of died. The state of the house was bad enough, but us snuggled up on a made up bed in the middle of the afternoon just topped it off! Still cringe now!

My 2nd was a colleague thinking delivering something by hand when I was on maternity leave, meant hand to hand! There I was, manky hair, shit tip of a house, 3 mnth old asleep, me in my pjs, knock at the door, thought to myself, bugger that, they'll go away, WRONG!
In she walked, "eeh did you not hear me knock?"
Couldn't exactly say, "no, i thought it was a giant bloody woodpecker knocking my door down, calling my name through the letter box"
told her I must of dozed off, she believed me, believe it or not, my door has remained locked ever since, ds is 3 and a half now ha ha ha

so no, YANBU, try an 8ft fence with razor wire around, that should get the message across! If not, 2 savage guard dogs...

yanbu.

thats very rude but i would probally prepare myself for thenext time by dancing naked in the living room as it would embarris them more than me

Those PVC doors with the 5 bolt stuff sound safe, except your doors open from the outside unless you lock it . I've always had yale lock doors so nobody can actually just open the door. My partners parents on the other hand have one of those PVC doors, his little brother forgot to lock it when he returned home one night and they were burgled whilst we were all upstairs. His mother had a handbag stolen from hallway table whilst in the front room once too... I really don't understand doors that have to be locked with a key whilst inside to remain safe.

Next time scream and say you thought it was a burglar.

Seriously though please lock your door!

Can't stop laughing at the thought of a giant woodpecker hammering at the door!!

I have a friend who I've known since school, I don't knock on her door, or her mums door (we were very close friends) I just walk in. Doesn't bother her. I used to have a key to her mums and used to let myself in and make myself a cup of tea if they weren't there haha.
She could do the same with mine but it locks when it shuts.