to think my mate and her oh..

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Are being Wankers?
Friends oh has a 13 yr old son, with learning difficulties.
Just seen that they have put a pic on fb of the child having a tantrum, to shame him into changing his behaviour.
Now correct me if I'm wrong but a child with autism having a 3 hr crying fit over something really doesn't need someone doing that.

well id rather loose a friend than loose respect for myself and my beliefs.

I think that is a brilliant attitude

Good for you advise!

If you're all for burning your bridges with your friend, I would comment on the picture that you've reported it to FB as you see this as a way to safeguard a vulnerable person, due to the fact that the young boy is autistic.

My DD has ASD and LD

If her "father" and his new wife did anything like that to my DD I would rip their eyes out with my bare hands.

The stupid one, OP, is your friend. She hasn't a fucking clue and should be ashamed of herself.

Sadly, it would appear that she has the skin of a rhino.

It is the poor wee lad I feel sorry for. Vulnerable children need to be cared for by people who understand and empathise, not take the fucking piss.

oh, I am still mad!

I would text back and it would be really? well show his mother what you've done then. Because I will track her down and I will show her.

What a bitch. How dare she treat a vulnerable child like this. And the father too.

I want to take a bat to the pair of them.

I am a parent of a child with autism. My boyfriends children also have autism.

Never in my life would I ever post something like that on fb!!!!

Just no. NT or autistic it isn't ok. It's opening the child up to a world of bullying, especially with the new 'share' feature on fb.

Send her a link to this thread! That poor kids mum needs to know! I hope she doesn't find out on the back end of the bullying

If the photo is still up I would definitely comment on it as advised above and also put a link to a charity such as national autistic society so that those who want to be informed can be.

How sad and respect to you for acting on it. Is it even legal to put up a child's picture in this way? Maybe you could take a screen shot of the page and call nspcc helpline and see what they say?

Also her saying she is the boys stepmum when she isn't is a little bit odd isn't it

It's emotional abuse plain and simple.

My suggestion on what to do:-

1. Print out and save a screen shot of the facebook entry. Do the same with any email correspondance you've had with the Dad's girlfriend on the matter.

1. Email the local SS team + police station with the screen shots of the abuse + email.

Sit back and let the evil woman explain to the appropriate authorities WHY she felt the need to humiliate a vulnerable child in such a wicked manner. Hopefully the evil bitch and the father will be forced to do some proper autism behavioral management training before they are allowed to be left alone with this child again. Great result for the child as it'll protect him in future.

The Mum will probably be grateful as your intervention will enable her to avoid a potentially expensive court battle to obtain supervised contact & protect her child. There can be nothing worse than being forced by a court order than to leave your disabled child with someone you KNOW is cruel and unsuitable - yet sadly this is the position the poor mother of this child is probably in legally.

We have agencies in this country whose role it is to protect children from abuse. I'm usually the first to criticise them, but the fact remains that the police, courts, social services and parents cannot protect children if they don't know the abuse is going on. You HAVE to report this!

i'm just fucking pissed off.
i have lost all respect for her.
as far as i can see the photo has gone. no idea if its her of fb who have removed it.
ive had a look but cant see anyone on his or her fb who stands out as being the kids mum, so i cant even let her know.
i just have a horrible mental image of them laughing at him and taking pictures while the kid was having a total melt down.

I have a child with ASD.

I would beat the shit out of them both. How DARE they .

Just unbelievable at their level of ignorance

I think you've been amazing op. good on you. At least now the photo has been removed. Maybe she did actually stop and think about her actions after your text.

Please find the Mum if you can. It breaks my heart to think of her not knowing how her poor boy is being treated. I imagine it being my ds and just want to cry.

ive tried akaemmafrost but i can't. i dont know her name, the kids arent on fb, so i cant even narrow it down.

Do you know where the children go to school?

no, ive only met the kids 4 times, dont really know the boyfriend. and we dont live in the same area, so schools havent been a topic.

I'm really, properly disgusted by this. I'm not the type to get all hysterical and upset by things I read on here, generally, but this both really angers me and makes me feel like crying. How fucking dare they?!

Agree with PPs - the boy in question is a vulnerable child who needs protecting and understanding and support. That his caregivers (albeit it part time) could do something like this sickens me.

OP, fair play to you for speaking up to your friend about this.

Well, at least you know the type of person that woman is.

It just breaks my heart to think of that poor child stuck there with them even part time.

I am hoping against hope that your obvious disgust will penetrate their thick skulls and make them think.

WTF!!

As a parent of a child with Autism it makes me so angry to see this sort of behaviour to a SN child.

Morons!!!!

advise - you have made a stand and the photo has gone.

A lot of people would not have had the balls to do that. Fair play to you.