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about bringing food into someones house

33 replies

biddysmama · 15/08/2012 13:12

my 15 year old brother works around the corner and he came round during his dinnertime with pizza and chips and wouldnt share with the 2 and 3 year old

wabu to think thats quite rude and selfish?

if hed told me he was coming i'd have said to get them something and paid him back

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Shutupanddrive · 15/08/2012 13:15

Yes he could have given them a few chips, but to share his lunch? Why should he? Didnt they have their own lunch?

wannabedomesticgoddess · 15/08/2012 13:16

Tell him your house isnt a canteen and to eat lunch elsewhere unless he can surrender the odd chip.

But teenagers are a bit self absorbed at times. Yes it was his lunch and he did pay for it but thats a bit rude and immature!

NatashaBee · 15/08/2012 13:32

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Pandemoniaa · 15/08/2012 14:03

It's his lunch though, isn't it? It's a bit churlish to refuse to share even a chip or two but I'm assuming that he probably thought you were going to feed yourselves. Not expect his lunch to be shared with your children.

But I agree with asking him to check whether you'd like him to buy stuff for you if he plans to come round to have lunch at your house again. It's the least he can do if he plans to use your place as a cafe.

wankpants · 15/08/2012 14:22

YABU, it's his lunch. I don't assume everyone that comes to mine with food wants to share with me!

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos · 15/08/2012 14:23

He's 15. 15 year old boys tend to be possessive over their food.

He's working and visiting his sister and neice and nephew in his lunch break. He sounds nice to me.

lisaro · 15/08/2012 14:27

Ivan see your point, they're only little and wouldn't have had much (unless they were mineGrin).

DozyDuck · 15/08/2012 14:31

Why should he share? I would share but I wouldn't let DS pester someone else for their food.

Margerykemp · 15/08/2012 14:31

You are happy with a 2 and 3 year old having junk food for lunch?

He probably didn't think his artery clogging lunch was suitable for them.

If someone tried to feed my toddlers that I'd have a fit!

squeakytoy · 15/08/2012 14:32

He has probably read on here that you would go mad at him if he fed them pizza or chips Wink

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biddysmama · 15/08/2012 14:35

lol its not perfect and yes they had had their dinner but i didnt know he was coming and its something they wouldnt usually have so was interesting to them

i didnt wonder if my mum had put him up to it, nope not at all

i would have made him some lunch if hed said he was coming round

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MrsNouveauRichards · 15/08/2012 14:56

For most people, pizza and chips is a treat. A 2 and 3yr old might struggle to understand why their uncle is having a treat in their house but they are not. YANBU.

A friend came over once. She had brought packed lunch for her kids including sweets, fruit shoots (treat stuff) but hadn't brought any treats for my DD (3yrs at the time) she then asked me to share my lunch with her kids because they wanted it Hmm small children just don't understand the same.

WhereYouLeftIt · 15/08/2012 15:02

"Tell him your house isnt a canteen and to eat lunch elsewhere unless he can surrender the odd chip."
I agree. He didn't come to visit you and the DC, he came to have somewhere to eat in comfort - pretty thoughtless of him. His food but your house, so what you say goes. No share for the DCs, no seat in your house; he can go and eat his precious pizza&chips in the works canteen, in a bus shelter, or pay the extra to eat in at a cafe.

squeakytoy · 15/08/2012 15:07

"For most people, pizza and chips is a treat. A 2 and 3yr old might struggle to understand why their uncle is having a treat in their house but they are not"

I would disagree. OP could easily say "no kids, you have had your lunch already, that is Uncles lunch".

He is 15yo, and probably just wanted to go and see his sister rather than sit on his own at a bus stop.

Zondra · 15/08/2012 15:12

No big deal, op!

Mountain out of a minute molehill here!

Give him a break, he's just a boy still himself, teenage boys are notoriously daft & unthinking.

wankpants · 15/08/2012 15:14

I don't think it's a crime to tell the young ones "no" every so often.

SavageGarden · 15/08/2012 15:16

YANBU. Tell him that the next time he's going to come to your house waving something your kids see as a treat at them, that he can either eat it outside or offer a chip or two to the kids.

BrianButterfield · 15/08/2012 15:17

There aren't all that many places a 15-year-old would feel all that happy about eating on their own. Now everyone will say how much they love to eat alone but I know teenagers and they mostly like company! If he were 25, then it would be selfish but honestly I don't think it is in this case. And why should he share his food he bought with his own money on his lunchbreak from work? He's 15, working, probably starving and all he wants is his pizza, a chat and a sit down.

WhereYouLeftIt · 15/08/2012 15:21

"all he wants is his pizza, a chat and a sit down."
Well he can 'pay' for his sit down with a couple of chips for the 2 and 3 year old.

amicissimma · 15/08/2012 15:30

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TheEnthusiasticTroll · 15/08/2012 15:39

I think you sound pretty childish posting an aibu about your 15 year old brother. im surprised yiu didnt just "tell on him".

Though if it where me I would have ribbed him enough till he gave in and gave them both a chip.

OHforDUCKScake · 15/08/2012 15:41

Joey doesnt share food!!

Its his food, leave him be.

MAYBELATERNOWIMBUSY · 15/08/2012 23:23

eating in company of kids and didn"t offer a chip or three ? not good ! so very not good!

MammaTJisanOlympicSumoWrestler · 16/08/2012 06:44

15 year olds default setting is Unreasonable. That does not mean you have to allow it and leave it unchallenged though.

gamerwidow · 16/08/2012 07:36

YAB(a bit)U it's his lunch and seeing as he was going back to work he wanted to make sure he wasn't hungry all afternoon because your kids had eaten half of it.
On the plus side at least he brought lunch with him instead of expecting you to cater for him. He was a bit mean not to let them have a few chips but he is still a child himself so you should have pulled him up on it at the time.

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