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to take my dds dummy off her?

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icecold · 14/08/2012 22:36

Sad

She's only 18 months. And, she loves it
I don't want to take it away

But, I have to get up numerous times a night to find it for her. I desperately want to get a full nights sleep, and rejoin the land of the living

Any suggestions, that enable her to keep dummy, gratefully received

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WaterGypsy · 14/08/2012 22:39

Dummy clip? Spares under her pillow? My dd has a couple of glow in the dark ones, I got them from Asda I think. DD has about 6 in the cot tonight! Grin

SirBoobAlot · 14/08/2012 22:41

You'll find you get less sleep if you just take it off her! FWIW I remember reading something a while back about them going through a patch of loosing their dummies in the night as their mouth develops and the sucking reflex changes. DS certainly did similar, and it passed.

Tangointhenight · 14/08/2012 22:42

DDs cot is full of dummy's!! So she cn easily find one herself!
Don't take it away if you're not ready.

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icecold · 14/08/2012 22:43

I put loads in with her. That worked when she was in a cot, now she's in a bed she can't find them/they fall out

Glow in the dark might help though...thanks

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icecold · 14/08/2012 22:44

The patch has been going on a good 6 months though sir Sad

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Pinner35 · 14/08/2012 22:45

You need one of these.....dd loves hers. This is the second time ive recommended one tonight!

www.welovesleep.co.uk/item-193-Sleepytot_Rabbit_Baby_Comforter.aspx

WaterGypsy · 14/08/2012 22:48

Genius. I need one of those rabbits!

GiuliaRossi · 14/08/2012 22:49

It sounds to me as though she has got used to the idea that she doesn't need to look for her dummy when it falls out of her mouth.

I'd be inclined to let her look for it for quite some time, before finally relenting if she genuinely can't find it (because sometimes it really does fall out of the bed, or between the mattress and the side of the cot). Most of the time she will find it though, in the end.

It's horrible listening to her distress while she is re-learning her strategy, and I don't envy you; but it is only a dummy, after all. You'll both be better off if she can learn to look for the dummy when she has lost it.

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icecold · 14/08/2012 22:50

Oooo...that looks hopefully pinner! Thanks, ill try that

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GnocchiNineDoors · 14/08/2012 22:52

Fill a little tub with them next to her bed so she can reach out an grab another one?

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icecold · 14/08/2012 22:55

rossi she just gets up and comes into my room, if I leave her

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icecold · 14/08/2012 22:57

Also a really good idea gnocchi thanks

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happylittlebear · 14/08/2012 22:58

Second the sleepytot bunny, has been a lifesaver!

tazmo · 14/08/2012 22:59

We agree with trying to wean her off. My son had his for 2.5 yrs. had to say he needed to give his dummies for Easter eggs. Worked well tho he still talks about it. T

TrinityIsAFuckingRhino · 14/08/2012 22:59

That rabbit thingy looks fab!!! Grin

GiuliaRossi · 14/08/2012 22:59

I'd pick her up and carry her back to her own bed. She won't keep doing this for ever.

(It would break my heart, initially, because I love nothing more than when my lo falls asleep with me in my bed: but you have to get things clear with her.)

(btw Rossi is my surname!)

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icecold · 14/08/2012 23:02

Yes that's what I do rossi but it still means that my sleep is broken. My aim is to have my nights sleep uninterrupted. I'm soooooo tired

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duke748 · 14/08/2012 23:02

We also have the sleepy toy (or dummy bunny as its called in this house).

I'd also recommend air wrap. My 19 month old DS likes to take the dummies off the bunny, and this wrap stops the individual dummies leaving the cot (except when he lobs them over the top!)

Hope you crack it soon!

GiuliaRossi · 14/08/2012 23:08

icecold especially if you have already started doing this, I think you absolutely must keep on doing it.

She will learn that this is what happens, and there is no point in wandering from room to room.

And show her that you dote on her and adore her during the day!

TheonlyWayisGerard · 14/08/2012 23:11

MAM dummy clip. They sell a pack of two in boots. They've been a lifesaver here.

HSMM · 14/08/2012 23:14

My DD had a kids set of coat hooks on the wall by her bed, with 4 dummies hooked on, so she could always find the next one.

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icecold · 14/08/2012 23:15

But I want her to be able to find her own dummy/ not need a dummy...that's what I need to solve. The coming into my room, is just a consequence of that...Confused

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Pinner35 · 14/08/2012 23:15

The rabbits are gorgeous....we have two, as dd is just as attached to them as she is the dummies.

GiuliaRossi · 14/08/2012 23:20

Seriously, icecold, this is part of her growing up, and you need to help her do that.

She won't learn to find her dummy if you keep finding it for her.

The default has to be that she looks for it for herself. Only if it really has disappeared beyond her ability to find it, do you step in and turn the bedroom upside down if need be. Just as you would step in and resolve any other emergency.

But really, let her get on with it for a few nights. It's hard (hardest for you), but it's the only way, in the end.

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icecold · 14/08/2012 23:27

And that's why I started the thread rossi

And I've been given some really good ideas...

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