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Original poster

to think overtaking a funeral cortege is beyond discourteous

118 replies

ChaosTrulyReigns · 14/08/2012 14:08

3 times on 2 mile journey the procession was overtaken by impatient twits. I wasn't in the process in, just the first car behind the 2 ca s following the hearse.

Really? Have people got such low levels of respect these days.

[auld]

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squeakytoy · 14/08/2012 14:08

yanbu, it is very disrespectful.

Thumbwitch · 14/08/2012 14:09

YANBU. It is very poor behaviour, but much what I've come to expect these days, sadly. :(

Original poster
ChaosTrulyReigns · 14/08/2012 14:09

My punctuation was woeful there, alopogies.

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Original poster
ChaosTrulyReigns · 14/08/2012 14:10

My punctuation was woeful there, alopogies.

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Tee2072 · 14/08/2012 14:10

Very disrespectful. But also, in my experience, easily done by mistake.

When I was young and a new driver I did it at least once without realizing.

OhNoMyFoot · 14/08/2012 14:11

Totally, one I attended we were over taken by a motor bike and they funeral was for someone knocked over by a motorbike Sad

danteV · 14/08/2012 14:13

I said this to dh yesterday. We were behind the family and people were overtaking and cutting the hearse up. I was horrified.
I was sharing a taxi with a work friend and a the funeral of a solider was in front of us and our taxi driver went to over take. My friend told the taxi driver straight that it was unacceptable. Of course the driver has a job, but I could've cried as my step brother had just been killed in afganistan.
I could have also cried at the respect my friend showed.

solidgoldbrass · 14/08/2012 14:14

It depends. The overtakers might have been in a desperate hurry to get to the hospital to see their own dying relatives, for all you know.

I think corteges, especially on narrow roads, are an anachronism, really.

lurkedtoolong · 14/08/2012 14:14

It depends. I was in the first car following my aunt's funeral cortege the other week and on the city streets it was fine, but on the motorway we were travelling at 40mph. It was hard enough for me not just to over-take and get to the cemetery quickly so wouldn't expect other people to trundle along slowly.

mayorquimby · 14/08/2012 14:14

I've done it by mistake a few times.think I may have even beeped one. All completely by accident and felt very very guilty afterwards.

What's the etiquette on 2 lane roads?

fruitysummer · 14/08/2012 14:17

Absolutely disrespectful

I once held up all the traffic on a roundabout for 2 funeral cars and several other family cars behind. I could tell they were very grateful. I had a police van right behind me too.

I was newly passed so that is not an excuse.

I do understand how cars following behind the funeral cars might get separated though as it's not always obvious.

worldgonecrazy · 14/08/2012 14:19

YANBU.

It happens a lot near me as the main cemetery has a dual carriage way next to it, which the hearses often use. It is tricky on dual carriageways or motorways to know what to do. Sometimes people are alongside before they realise that the cars they are overtaking are a funeral procession.

drtachyon · 14/08/2012 14:19

If you're in a built up area, or on a single-carriageway, then YANBU. It's very disrespectful.

But I do think that overtaking is acceptable on a motorway / dual carriageway. That's what the extra lanes are for, after all.

Tee2072 · 14/08/2012 14:20

"Sometimes people are alongside before they realise that the cars they are overtaking are a funeral procession."

Exactly. It's hard to tell it's a funeral procession if you're completely behind it.

peggyblackett · 14/08/2012 14:21

Bloody rude, that's what it is. Sign of our entitled society sadly.

singinggirl · 14/08/2012 14:21

My husband overtook a cortege once, he was driving to hospital to get to me and our seven week old DS2 who had just been sent there by ambulance with breathing problems. Not something that you should ever do in normal circumstances, but you don't know what good reasons some people may have.

Paiviaso · 14/08/2012 14:22

I accidentally drove into the middle of a funeral procession earlier this year. Met them at a roundabout - it was my right of way, the car to my left stopped, so I went, then realised what I'd gotten myself in to!

Luckily my turn off was only 50 metres down the road but I panicking in the car going "oh fuck oh fuck oh fuck." I felt I was being really disrespectful.

TheQueenOfDiamonds · 14/08/2012 14:22

Yanbu - We attended my friends sons funeral, there were people cutting infront of the car the parents were in (it was obvious what it was! The hearse was in front of it! We were behind the parents)! One even gave the procession a load of abuse and V signs as she went round the roundabout. I wanted to lamp the ignorant bitch.

nickelcognito · 14/08/2012 14:22

i agree, dr - it's okay to overtake on a dual carriageway or motorway, but you don't just go back into that lane, you stay in tghe overtaking lane a bit longer - that shows respect.

squeakytoy · 14/08/2012 14:24

failing to see how anyone can do this "without realising" unless you are driving like a twat in the first place if it is on a single lane road

If it is on a dual carriageway then it isnt rude or disrespectful

Bunbaker · 14/08/2012 14:25

" on the motorway we were travelling at 40mph. It was hard enough for me not just to over-take and get to the cemetery quickly so wouldn't expect other people to trundle along slowly.2

I think it is unrealistic to expect the other traffic to trail a funeral cortege for several miles on a motorway without overtaking.

BitterAndTwistedChairDodger · 14/08/2012 14:26

I was behind one when I took my driving test. I told the examiner there was no way I would overtake it, even if it would cost me my licence.

fruitysummer · 14/08/2012 14:28

Queen

I want to lamp the ignorant bitch too and I don't know you or your friend.

My closest friend is cremating her beloved father tomorrow. Now, SHE would get out and punch someone for that!

Bunbaker · 14/08/2012 14:28

Did you pass Bitter?

5madthings · 14/08/2012 14:33

yanbu it is disrespectful, but then i posted on another thread the other day about graveyards as when we were in whitby last summer we were watching a red arrows display at the top of the hill in whitby and people were standing and climbing on the gravestones and war memorial to get a better view Shock Angry so sad as it is, people ovetaking a funeral cortege doesnt suprise me :(