Long story short I went through 'D'P's phone in the early hours of Wednesday morning and discovered he's been having an affair...whilst DD slept peacefully next to me. He was asleep in DD's bed, so I waited til 6am to say I know what you've been doing, get your stuff and go!!
He has now since returned (after slinking off to his Mums and the OW) and is stopping on the settee. We have both agreed it is over, and he needs to get somewhere to live ASAP.
He claims that this is my fault, as I have done nothing but push him away since DD has been born (she is 2.8), and he has 'loved me like a sister' for the past year.
He is mad that all of his family think he is a major twat (as do I!!) and that they don't see 'the bigger picture'.
When DD was born, I had an episiotomy that got infected and I had to have surgery to have it corrected. Then I had the usual body issues that I think everyone has after a baby. We were living at my mums at the time and 3 days before DD was born his DB was sent to prison for death by dangerous driving so it was a really stressful time.
I have 2 jobs (one is the family business), look after my elderly Dad whilst my Mum has to work away a lot of the time and then DD to look after. I've always been the one to organise family trips, holidays etc and any rare nights out as a couple. DP can't drive (or should I say won't learn!), so like an idiot I have got myself and DD out bed to ferry him to work and back. So to be honest, it really is no wonder that I don't want to have lots of sex every waking minute.
He went through a stage of 'pawing' at me everytime I was near him - trying to put his hands down my top etc and I found that really uncomfortable, especially infront of DD.
So, I am really struggling to understand how, or why his affair is my fault? AIBU???