freshly washed bed - unwashed husband

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bit fed up with this and can't even remember the last time he brushed his teeth. I do love him but am getting really pissed off with his lack of personal hygene

He works really hard (I'm a sahm) but it's no excuse for letting yourself go imo?

Wtf does working have to do with it?

I'm sorry but there is no way my DH would get within inches of me if he didn't bath every day and brush his teeth.

It's basic hygiene

Yuck. Time for a discussion methinks. When did he last go to the dentist? Perhaps you could book him a check-up - they will certainly have something to say re not brushing.
Is he depressed? Quite a common reason for letting yourself go.

There's never any excuse for soap dodging. Is it laziness or some sort of bath phobia?

Not depressed just can't be arsed. I have booked him dentist appts in the past but he doesn't turn up. His teeth are gross and his breath smells like something crawled in and died in his mouth. I frequently sleep on the sofa to get away from the smell and his snoring. I need to buy a comfy bed for the lounge or find another husband [tempting]

I used to live with someone who having a bath was a major event.

He wasn't made to do all the boring stuff most other people do without thinking just to keep himself clean when he was a DC.

House was just the same.

Disgusting, but I felt a bit sorry for him.

Has your DH always been like this though? Has something brought it on?

Is he scared of going to the dentist if he thinks his teeth might have gone a bit manky?

Do you still kiss him with minging breath?

I wouldn't say he's a soap dodger (bathes every 2 or 3 days) so that's tolerable but the lack of teeth brushing is horrible and he's always been like this - plus he's a smoker (I've never smoked) so it doesn't exactly add to the perfume of his breath!

I won't kiss him and I miss kissing!

Teeth DH is very good with.

Showers rather less so.

DMIL used to make him have a nightly bath in 3inch of tepid water in a freezing house.

And it was freezing even in high summer. I used to have jumpers I kept especially for visiting her.

I think he's been rebelling ever since.

I had a full and frank discussion with DH, and told him that if he brushed his teeth and ensured he was clean before bed the chances of him getting some sex would greatly increase.

Would that not work for you?

Bathing every 2 - 3 days is definitely soap dodging!

What worra said.

2-3 days?

That is really not on.

It's not normal, do his workmates not complain?

Nagoo it's worth a try by he is a champion sulker/always has a reason why he can't brush his teeth etc

There is no reason not to brush teeth! Is he at J Vile stage of teeth rottoness?

In response to title you should respect the washed sheets! I change mine when DH is at night work so I get a good 6 hours of lovely fresh non man fart bed or used to before dd2 now just gaze longingly at it from nursing chair

And as such you will always have a reason to sleep on the sofa :(

Sulking is a really crap way to deal with this ... you cannot be the only person in his life to have an issue with him if he's like this. It's not like it's a matter of opinion: you brush your teeth!

you said he always has a reason not to brush? what are they?

put the dirty sheets back on the bed and sleep elsewhere. when he asks why, tell him.

you can tell him about my toothache too. its agony. i went to bed at 1 but have had to get up again because of the pain. at one stage it was so bad i couldn't breathe. there are no painkillers in the house. owww!

Yuck, how can you stand it?

If you won't kiss him, presumably won't shag him if he smells what's the point in being with him? He's the kind of smelly fucker who goes into work and exudes his Ming-smell all over his colleagues. They all wonder how he's managed to bag himself a wife and conclude that either you smell too so you don't notice it, or you're a mug.

What possible excuses can he have not to brush his teeth? Ew what a foul individual. I bet he absolutely reeks.

hmmmm.....My Dh has comparable showering habits. His teeth are dreadful but he is terrified of the dentist. All I can do is wait for the pain to become intolerable which will have to happen sooner rather than later.

YANBU, obviously. Why are you with him? Lack of personal hygiene has to be up there on the scale of things that put most women off.