freshly washed bed - unwashed husband

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bit fed up with this and can't even remember the last time he brushed his teeth. I do love him but am getting really pissed off with his lack of personal hygene

He works really hard (I'm a sahm) but it's no excuse for letting yourself go imo?

On the other hand, I don't think bathing every couple of days is necessarily disgusting as some posters seem to think.

I could deal with the every 2 or 3 day showering, but the teeth, yuck! And he's a smoker - his breath must stink. It should be him on the sofa, not you.

There is no such thing as a reason not to brush your teeth.

Yanbu.

Get him to lick his fore arm with his tongue. From the back of his tongue to the front. Then let the spit dry and tell him to smell it. If he's not ashamed of the smell and promises to brush his teeth everyday, then he is a proper twat.

How did you ever date and subsequently marry someone who doesn't regularly brush their teeth? Did he make more of an effort in the past?

Are you sure he doesn't have some kind of mental health issue with hygiene? This would be a deal breaker for me. I wouldn't have married such a smelly skunk in the first place.

Does he not realise that this behaviour is not normal and unbelievably selfish? His workmates must have to put up with a lot. Sorry, but this is gross.

What excuse does he give for not brushing his teeth?That is gross,it really is :(

I'd be tempted to send him an anonymous note with 'wash yourself,you stink' on it.Just to make him aware it's not just something that wives nag all husbands about.

And it wouldn't be me on the couch,it would be him!

Sorry but this is rank!. Teeth brushing and showering are basic and essential. I feel for you, that's awful.

Does he know that his foul hygiene is the reason you don't kiss him or sleep in the same room? do you have sex with him? - If you do - WHY?!!

He needs a good hosing down!

Eww. No. Clean sheets for you, couch with a plastic pillow protector for him.

Sorry, this would be a deal breaker for me. Not cleaning his teeth is beyond foul. Not washing daily - especially during the summer - is equally foul. DH and I will always shower in the evening during the summer. Getting into bed stinking of sweat is just urgh. Never mind your sheets, your mattress & pillows must be rank too.

I really feel for you OP. I think you have to be really blunt with him. Do you really want to stay with a man you can't bring yourself to kiss?

Why does he never brush his teeth ?
There are no excuses, do you have sex with this stinky, foul breathed specimen?

The tooth thing - could he have a dental/dentist phobia? DH does, and at its worst he cannot bring himself to brush his teeth. He hadn't visited a dentist in 10 years. I had no idea - he was very good at covering it up (he felt it wasn't manly to be phobic), and booked him in with a dentist who specialises in dental phobia. They taught him to brush his teeth, and he gets check-ups under sedation.

Is it possible this is the problem with your DH? The washing thing may be a different laziness issue?

I would have thought that having a phobia of the dentist is all the more reason for brushing your teeth though.

Yes, I know a woman who is petrified of the dentist and she is the best flosser and mouthwash-user that I know!

My DH has a phobia of the dentist and bizarrely becuase of it doesn't brush his teeth as much as I think he should!

He however thinks I brush mine too much I have an unfounded phobia of having stinky breath and for to long. But I don't, it's twice a day normally, more if i'm going out or eaten something really sugary.

He 'tickles' his teeth sometimes twice a day but normally just on a morning!

He's not stinky in any other department though apart from general man stink that is!

YABVU to put up with it. Where the hell is his respect for you, if not for himself? Why are you putting up with this with such apparent good humour?

I hate manky teeth but I seem to of ended up with someone who has a missing tooth and one broken, he has had loads of fillings over the years, several crowns and hasnt replaced the crown that broke (hence missing tooth) due to financial reasons

The difference is he is scrupulous about brushing at least twice a day. As is my DS1 who has told me recently he hasnt been to the dentist for 9 odd years due phobia, he says his dislike of the dentist MAKES him on the ball with brushing as you should be anyway

Your husband sounds horrible

he also doesn't respect you, nor does he respect himself