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People who stand too close in queues

86 replies

TheMysteryCat · 12/08/2012 11:42

Just been doing the weekly shop and finishing packing, getting card out to pay etc, when the guy behind me moves up to the packing end of the conveyor belt, so right in front of the card machine. Awkward moments, putting last few bags in trolley with him practically blocking me, and then had to move the card machine around the otherside so i could enter my pin without him standing over me.

I loathe people who stand too close in queues, especially those who just can't wait for someone to finish what they are doing before jumping in.

I wasn't faffing, just taking a normal/average amount of time to do it.

Didn't happen this time, but equally annoying are the counter staff who start serving the next person before you've even put your card away or grabbed your shopping/finished packing.

AIBU to think people should just bloody wait, and wait at a reasonable distance. A couple of minutes being polite really isn't that hard, is it?

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RuleBritannia · 12/08/2012 12:59

When I saw the title of this thread, I didn't realise it was about supermarkets. Anyway, what made my husband and me laugh on holiday once was a queue of women in Sri Lanka (might have been a provincial airfield check in - an't remember). They were standing behind one another so close, it looked like a mass buggery convention!

DamnBamboo · 12/08/2012 13:02

I don't like this either, but equally or probably even more so I hate hate hate it when people faff around, count out their change slowly, unzip bag, unzip pocket, put purse away, zip pocket, zip bag, unzip bag again to get car keys, place bag carefully in trolley, take last remaining bags off conveyor, pack last remaining items, finish chat with cashier, check bill carefully then slowly walk away.

As long as you weren't doing the above, YANBU

sashh · 12/08/2012 13:04

Has anyone else got a cartoon image of kungfupannda in the supermarket now?

BTW KFP - I batch as well, I hate it when the cashier mixes up things, but I also put the heavyer items to the cashier side so they don't need to stretch for anything hevy. I try to be nice.

MrsTerryPratchett · 12/08/2012 13:10

I had someone the other day who argued with the cashier about the flyer price of something for five minutes, then decided he wanted a different version of something which had to be brought over. He then wanted help packing and help to his vehicle. I had one pint of milk for my DD's bedtime and was shaking with rage by the end of it. I know IWBU as well.

NameChangeGalore · 12/08/2012 13:15

Oh yes. This pisses me off. It happens all the time. I just take longer to pack my stuff away on purpose, so they get pissed off.

I also hate when they que up right behind you and stink of BO or smoke or even worse, alcohol. I once had a tramp burp into my ear he was so close.

Iheartpasties · 12/08/2012 13:17

Oh I feel terrible now I inadvertantly did this about four weeks ago to someone in the supermarket, I'm pregnant and have a 16 month dd and she was in the trolley and i moved the trolley along so she couldnt grab something and then next thing I realise is that I'm about 15 mm away from this lovely lady in front of me, I appologised but felt like a twat. I thought explaining it to her would sound wierd so I didnt. oopsie.

Fireandashes · 12/08/2012 13:42

If anyone crowds me at the card reader or stands next to it before I've had a chance to pay, I smile and say "oooh, are you offering to pay for my shopping?". If they look blank or say "sorry?" or "no" I say "Shame. You'd better move back and give me enough room to pay for it myself then".

hawaiiWave · 12/08/2012 14:00

Yanbu, I hate this, the queue will move no faster with them standing so close. I pretend to have a coughing and nose blowing fit so they think I have rabies or something, then they stand back. Post office is the worst place...

gobbledegook1 · 12/08/2012 14:03

I'm not saying that some people who do this aren't just rude but have you considered that some of these people may in-fact have learning disabilities or come from different cultures.

Many people with learning impairments do not have the same spacial awareness as the general public and often invade others space whilst not liking people invading theirs.

Culturally spacial awareness also varies, Indian's for example have a smaller 'personal space' zone and thus often naturally stand closer together than british people would find comfortable whereas the dutch have larger 'personal space' zones than the british and what you or I would consider a comfortable standing distance would most likely make a dutch person feel crowded.

Sparklingbrook · 12/08/2012 14:06

I would like a forcefield round me. Close talkers would bang their head on it, and people I don't know wouldn't be able to kiss or hug me. It would be fab at the checkout, with the trollies dinging off it. Grin

laudinum · 12/08/2012 14:08

We need one of these but this one is better

babesdontlie · 12/08/2012 14:11

I hate it, and my DH hates anybody getting in his 'personal space' when we are out and about.

I was in the post office a few weeks ago posting quite a few things and the woman behind me was huffing and puffing and edging nearing until in the end I turned round and with a big sickly sweet smile on my face said, 'can you stop it please, huffing and puffing down my neck isn't going to make this go any quicker'.
She shut up and moved back, stunned silence came over the queue, and the woman serving me winked at me and smiled.

Sparklingbrook · 12/08/2012 14:13

I want a T-shirt with this on

And I will wear the PS Protector too laud just in case. Grin

Sparklingbrook · 12/08/2012 14:16

Plus this for the DC. Grin

Charliefox · 12/08/2012 14:16

I move and stand even closer to them. It properly freaks most people out! I once had a enormously fat man on an airport bus stand up next to me. The bus was chocabloc and he was pressed right against me. I totally lost the plot and made a right scene. You could have heard a pin drop on that bus! He said, oh here we fucking go again! Which made me burst out laughing, cos it was like I was his wife and we always had this same old argument! I did make him sit back down though, as I was like an unhinged nut job and he was probably in fear of his life! Was on the same flight as him too and we continued to childishly glare at each other whenever the opportunity arose.

Catsmamma · 12/08/2012 14:21

I am the female equivalent to Magnus Pike...I flail and fidget a good deal, so no one dares come too close.

I also have a very fierce look and am not afraid to to use it.....I am almost never approached by chuggers, and the odd one or two who thinks The Look was not for them, get a firm "No thankyou" with the booster look.

Sparklingbrook · 12/08/2012 14:21

This on a T-Shirt?

summeraupair · 12/08/2012 14:31

This does annoy me immensely, particularly today. I got a new tattoo on the top of my back, which was coverered in clingfilm while I was in the queue at Asda. Of course I had to have the person behind me one of the huffers huffing away practically pressed against it! Though equally annoying are the ones who wait several feet away from the person in front, examining a shelf of stuff, then get all arsey when you assume they're not actually in the queue.

laudinum · 12/08/2012 15:07

I am off to genetically cross myself with a skunk-squid so queue squashers will get a face full of stink ink.

Liketochat1 · 12/08/2012 15:11

I just put my card back in my purse, pick up my shopping bags and go so no one has any time to be annoyed with me. I'm a busy person. I have no time really for faffers I'm afraid.

ilovemydogandMrObama · 12/08/2012 15:17

I tend to have the trolley behind me at the check out. So, I chuck everything on the conveyer belt and then pull it. Some people will get exasperated as they are trying to push, but so what...

WildWorld2004 · 12/08/2012 15:26

I just throw them a look which says 'get the fuck away from me' Grin

LadySybildeChocolate · 12/08/2012 15:32

I turn and glare at them, pretty much like this: Hmm

oldraver · 12/08/2012 15:41

I actually think many checkouts are badly designed, in that the conveyor isnt long, sometimes not long enough to fit a huge shop (I have seen this in others I dont usually have so much) so that when the next person behind you wants to start loading you feel you have to move down but there isnt enough room. I think it rude to fill up the space where the cashier and EPOS are, when someone is at the end bagging up but have occasionally felt a nudges from behind.

I dont think shops need to have Aldi size belts but a bit bigger would do

Charliefox · 12/08/2012 15:53

I've just thought of a good one, which I'm actually going to try next time. "As you're so close to me, I think I should let you know that I have a really contagious diseases at the minute and it's probably best that you stand a good few feet away from me" :-)