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People who stand too close in queues

86 replies

TheMysteryCat · 12/08/2012 11:42

Just been doing the weekly shop and finishing packing, getting card out to pay etc, when the guy behind me moves up to the packing end of the conveyor belt, so right in front of the card machine. Awkward moments, putting last few bags in trolley with him practically blocking me, and then had to move the card machine around the otherside so i could enter my pin without him standing over me.

I loathe people who stand too close in queues, especially those who just can't wait for someone to finish what they are doing before jumping in.

I wasn't faffing, just taking a normal/average amount of time to do it.

Didn't happen this time, but equally annoying are the counter staff who start serving the next person before you've even put your card away or grabbed your shopping/finished packing.

AIBU to think people should just bloody wait, and wait at a reasonable distance. A couple of minutes being polite really isn't that hard, is it?

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LRDtheFeministDragon · 12/08/2012 12:04

That annoys me too nancy. And people who chat on their phone while packing with one hand. Angry

birds - brilliant! Grin

MrsTerryPratchett · 12/08/2012 12:05

Salmotrutta so true Grin

wannabedomesticgoddess · 12/08/2012 12:07

It was an older lady who did this to me. Im not usually confrontational, but that day I was on the verge of going daft.

It was in lidl. She was actually touching me she was so close. Everytime I moved an inch to get away from her she moved up to. When I was packing she was standing infront of the card machine. I had to stretch round her to pay.

I have never come so close to physically assaulting someone before.

squeakytoy · 12/08/2012 12:09

One of my other gripes is carrier bags.

I unload a trolley full of shopping. I only went in for bread, but as usual got carried away, so have no bags with me.

"do you need bags madam?"

I reply yes.

Cashier supplies one.

I say "I might need more than that", as I pointedly look at the belt full of shopping

Cashier huffs and throws another one down.

I think fuck it, and start packing as she flings the stuff down as fast as possible.

Two bags very quickly full, and I yell that I need another bag as the stuff starts cascading down and heaping up..

She gives me on more bag...

Just put the bloody bags out on a hook like the good old days!

trikken · 12/08/2012 12:10

I hate this too, its not going to go through the checkout faster by shoving it all on.

I had someone try to get all theirs on before I'd finished putting mine on, I shoved theirs back. I always wait til they put one of those bar things behind their shopping or there is a clear gap.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 12/08/2012 12:14

squeaky - oh, yes! And in M&S, when you've not got bags with you, and they say 'what size bag would you like while pointing to something you can't see under the counter.

Erm, I would like the size of bag that'll take my shopping. Obviously.

Then they pack it into the smallest size and look surprised when the bag breaks.

(Yes, I know I should bring my own bags every time!)

ChuffMuffin · 12/08/2012 12:15

Ohhh I hate this SO MUCH. I lost it earlier near Christmas. I was waiting at the Post Office on a Saturday in a huge queue about 30 mins before it closed. Arsehole behind me was stepping on the backs of my heels the whole queue. I finally got to the front and as soon as there was a cashier free he pushed me and said go!!! I told him not to fucking touch me, I was so shocked someone had just done that! Unbelievable. Angry

krasnayaploshad · 12/08/2012 12:17

I once had an 8yr old girl push me further along & say MOVE! as apparently she wanted more space for her & her grandmother at the checkout. There was no where for me to go as I was waiting for the person in front to finish paying. I turned around & glared at her. Actually wish I'd told her it was very rude to push people. Eventually her gran noticed what she was doing but not before I'd been pushed about 3 times.
Another pet hate is airport queues for checkin & people repeatedly bashing the back of my heels with their luggage trolley. I once turned around & asked them where they would like me to go given there was no space in front. People, this behaviour is not going to make the queue go any faster!

NCForNow · 12/08/2012 12:17

It's when they bump you with their trolley that I get mad...or when you step back slightly and stand on the impatient nutter behind.

NCForNow · 12/08/2012 12:18

Chuff oh I would have knocked him out!

Dolallytats · 12/08/2012 12:20

A few years ago I was at a cashpoint checking my balance. This 'suited and booted' city gent type was so close to me, I could feel him breathing!! (He was as tall as a bloody giant too!!) I turned round to him and said 'It's ok, you don't need to know my PIN as well'. He then told me to 'Fuck off'....I told him he was charming and his mother must be proud, but at least i got my point across!

omfgkillmenow · 12/08/2012 12:24

empty trolley onto conveyor belt.
pull trolley behind you and load up bags.
Once you have paid bring trolley forwards and fill it up with your bags.

squeakytoy · 12/08/2012 12:25

Some woman did it to me at the post office. The queue usually stops about 3 feet from the counters and people wait. My turn came and the woman behind me followed me to the counter and stood right by my side, her clothes were touching mine it was so close. I gave her an odd look. She stayed there. The cashier gave her an odd look.. she remained.

I started passing the few parcels over and she was still there. In the end i said to her "are you paying for this?" she looked blankly at me so I just said "do you mind not standing there please"... she moved about 3 inches away.

It was just bizarre.

TandB · 12/08/2012 12:25

I hate this too.

I am a champion speed-packer and payer - if it was an Olympic sport I would have multiple gold medals. I unload onto the conveyor in batches of fridge/freezer/store cupboard etc, I have my bags open and ready in the trolley and I have my card out ready to pay before the cashier starts running my stuff through. I never, ever hold anyone up.

So why, the other day, was a woman huffing and puffing and practically treading on my feet as I reached for my receipt from the cashier? My card was out of the machine, I had one hand on my trolley ready to move away. I couldn't have gone any faster if I had superpowers!

TidyDancer · 12/08/2012 12:26

People do seem to lose their sense of reason in supermarket queues sometimes.

What I hate is people pointing to their little bit of shopping and asking if they can go in front, which is especially irksome when I only have a bit myself. Or when they use the divider to push your shopping further down (I always push it back Grin).

sashh · 12/08/2012 12:26

I think people should be taught check out ettiquette in school.

Too close - not good. Not sure if it is better or worse then the people who put 3 items on the conveor belt and then stand in the same place and watch it drift into the ditance. Move people, I have xshopping and there is an empty conveyor belt.

ANd finally, in third place, people who are suprised that they have to pay for their shopping. Not sure if they are a sub catagory of faffers. You are in a supermarket, everything has gone threough the checkout, you have packed it and put it in the trolly - of course you can't walk out without paying.

BagofHolly · 12/08/2012 12:26

My nan's favourite line if she's being crowded by a man is "Any closer and we have to get married!" Grin

Sparklingbrook · 12/08/2012 12:28

OOh Personal space. My favourite subject. Trolley up the bum. Angry

A bloke shoved me towards a cashier in WH Smiths by my elbows because they were just about to become free.

I also don't go to the counter until they say 'Cashier number.....' but most people are at the counter straight away and the cashier isn't ready. That's what the announcement is for. Hmm

laudinum · 12/08/2012 12:28

After being frotted by a man who was behind me in a Parisian souvenir shop, I react irrationally if anyone invades my personal space in a supermarket.

Dolally - Angry

TidyDancer · 12/08/2012 12:29

I think it's completely reasonably to keep your purse in your bag until the last minute. Especially when you have people with no sense of personal space.

That's not faffing, that's being sensible.

TidyDancer · 12/08/2012 12:29

reasonably reasonable

MrsTerryPratchett · 12/08/2012 12:33

Last minute YANBU

Look of surprise and rooting around in your bag after the person asks you for money YABU.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 12/08/2012 12:38

MrsTP - oh, god, yes, that look should be banned.

If you keep your purse in your bag, fine (though it's not especially hard to pack while holding it or to put your card in your hand ready), but don't do the look of surprise and then spend ten minutes rooting through your bag to find it. Find it while you queue so you know where it is.

I think this is really annoying when someone's stood in a queue for ages doing nothing and you know they had time to get their mind in gear.

bluana · 12/08/2012 12:43

Yes I hate this too. It doesn't make the person in front any quicker. If anything it slows them down.

I also don't like people who sit on trains with their arm touching yours in hot weather.

YouOldSlag · 12/08/2012 12:44

YANBU. This happens in my local shop. Does the wanker pressing his shoulder agonist mine in the queue think he will get served 0.5 seconds faster because he is physically closer to the till?

A few times I have said excuse me, I haven't got enough room, but these days I glare, sigh and tut.

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