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cheekypickle · 12/08/2012 10:45

Husband just gone mental because I want to go back too Facebook. Says he doesn't know why I want to
Go onto it. Got annoyed when he didn't know who Sam was (friends boyfriend!)

AIBU or is he?

He said how would you feel if I went on it, I said fine! He then got even more annoyed ! Ha ha!

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MammaTJisanOlympicSumoWrestler · 12/08/2012 10:47

Oh dear!! I am on facebook and my DP couldn't care less.

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cheekypickle · 12/08/2012 10:48

I know! I said he can look at my Facebook app anytime, I couldn't give a shit!

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catgirl2012 · 12/08/2012 10:49

Ummmmmmmmmm

ok

Well it would appear he has strong feelings about FB and in any realtionship, it is unreasonable to just ignore or dismiss your partners feelings

However.... He sounds controlling and jealous. Does he normally tell you what you can and can't do and get arsey about you having contact with other men? If so, FB is the least of your issues

slartybartfast · 12/08/2012 10:50

aah but are you chatting up men on the internet, is that what he thinks,

onetiredmummy · 12/08/2012 10:50

How was he when you had FB the first time? Why did you stop using it?

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cheekypickle · 12/08/2012 10:51

No not worried about contact with other men.

He says he was proud that we weren't on it! An now annoyed that I am. He is a bit controlling. He said now I have yet another excuse to be on my phone all the time ! Hes on his iPad the whole time but that's okay because he reads telegraph articles ... Wanker!!

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cheekypickle · 12/08/2012 10:52

Stopped using it because he wanted me to !

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cheekypickle · 12/08/2012 10:53

Also had a go at me for not doing any housework... Man today's going to be a fun day ( thank god I'm taking DD swimming later :D )

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squeakytoy · 12/08/2012 10:53

A bit controlling? More than a bit Pickle. I feel very sorry for you love. :(

Please think about getting out of this abusive relationship.

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cheekypickle · 12/08/2012 10:54

I wouldn't say it's abusive!

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slartybartfast · 12/08/2012 10:59

i spose he sees you on facebook and thinks you shoudl be tidying the house or something. do you feel guilty for bieng on face book? can you pretned to be reading a guardian artcile Wink

squeakytoy · 12/08/2012 10:59

I know you wouldnt. But we read your posts and can see it with a clearer view.

I am going to be blunt here.

You are a young woman, he is almost a pensioner. He groomed you and now he treats you like a naughty child, while he does whatever he wants to do.

You have had severe MH problems, and from what you have posted, I would say he is very unsupportive.

You are struggling with a young baby, and find it difficult to make the most basic of decisions on a daily basis, and with little help from him.

He controls your life, and you are probably so accustomed to this that you do not see the damage he is doing to you.

I think, from the posts you have made, that you need to talk to someone in real life, who can help you.

onetiredmummy · 12/08/2012 11:01

Has he ever been on FB? Is there something he doesn't want you to find out about?

Tell him you're reading new articles on there, tis possible & don't be on your phone all evening.

Are you happy with him? Generally?

GateGipsy · 12/08/2012 11:02

Leave the bastard.

onetiredmummy · 12/08/2012 11:02

Ah x posted with squeaky, didn't realise you had posted on here before about him.

(hands over to squeaky)

GateGipsy · 12/08/2012 11:02

just had to get that in :D

maras2 · 12/08/2012 14:23

How come he's not gone back to bed yet?

WorraLiberty · 12/08/2012 14:27

Absolutely spot on Squeaky

The more I read about this guy, the more it makes me shudder.

MadgeHarvey · 12/08/2012 14:32

Well done to squeaky for saying what I suspect a lot of people have wanted to say - increasingly so with every post you make OP. You would do well to take in what she said and also maybe revisit your previous posts where you have been given, and have largely ignored, some excellent advice.

honeytea · 12/08/2012 15:25

He's proud that you were not on facebook? It isn't really an achievement is it? Maybe he should go and do something that he rightfully feels proud over. He sounds like a bit of a snob.

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cheekypickle · 12/08/2012 16:54

He's gone to bed. DD went swimming with a friend and had ice cream in the park. I told him it upsets me that he doesn't spend afternoons with us, he said its because he works hard all week

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cheekypickle · 12/08/2012 16:55

I mean I took DD swimming with a friend and her baby

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cheekypickle · 12/08/2012 17:11

I can't believe he's been so up his arse about me being on my phone, just because I don't read the telegraph!!

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JaceyBee · 12/08/2012 17:17

He is BU for reading the Torygraph! It's a pile of drivel.

On a less glib note though, what business is it of his if you choose to be on fb? You carry on love.

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cheekypickle · 12/08/2012 17:18

He's got a real objection to it. I really don't know why

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