To moan at a man parked in parent & child bay when he was clearly childless!!

[Nannyto2]

Had a lovely moan at a man parked in a parent & child bay today at a supermarket!! He told me to f**k off as he could park there as it was the first space he saw and he has a daughter at home!!!!

Carpark attendant saw the incident and told me I was out of order!!! As a result of this idiotic man parked in that space I had to struggle to get a infant carseat out of a 3door car in a normal space.

Was I unreasonable to have a go at the man??

Sorry for the long post

Never seen a P&C space here in Germany by the way, and yet somehow, the population struggles on....

I'm with the op, I use P&C when ever I can. If I don't have ds with me, I don't use them - it courtesy. It's not abou survival or being lazy as some posters seem to think its about living in pissing down rainy britain and some people needing to take multiple children to the supermarket. If I get out the pram to cross the car park, what the feck do I do with it once I'm in the super market?

Not matter what size car you have, if you have to get little buggers in and out of the car, you need the doors wide open which you can't do in a normal space. If its pissing down with rain I don't want to walk from the far end of the car park. Its not entitlement, its courtesy.

I haven't ever ranted at anyone though, but wanted to today when I parked in a nice p&C space in a nice car park (you know the ones that are painted blue for parking, yellow for walking?) and some dickhead in a bmw couldn't be arsed to find an actual parking space (it wasn't busy) and parked on the yellow walk way inches from my car and I couldn't open the door to get a very squirmy ds in (ok, well not without clambering from the other side of the car).

sorry rant over. I don't know if yabu op as I don't know what you said to man

So park at the back off the carpark then, you could have too spaces all to yourself.

Is it really PFB to want to park in a P&C space? I couldn't walk, let alone drive for 9 months after DD was born and it has been excruciatingly painful for me for months & months after that.

It was HUGELY difficult when I couldn't get a nice wide parking space and as a result had to twist to lift DD out of the car.

I have had 3 lots of surgery and DD is now toddling (and a lot heavier) and although I am definitely on the road to recovery, I still find it easier need extra space to get DD out of car. ( she's not yet big enough to get down herself)

I don't know why ANY woman would begrudge another new mother P&C spaces - for every woman that has had a "relatively easy" birth (i.e either short labour or a birth without multiple stitches or surgery i.e back to normal within hours/days) but ... there are a HELL of a lot more of us out there who haven't - and strangely enough, not all of us can afford a gofer, yet we still have to eat. (To be honest, even a lot of those who have had a "so-called" easy birth could do with a P&C space !)

Give those with newborns a break. We probably still have an obscene amount of stitches in very, very sore lady bits.

Why begrudge wanting a P&C car parking space as "PFB" ???? That is one of the bitchiest things I have ever heard.

to OP - I would have moaned at anyone without a child & at those with DC old enough to climb out themselves so you ANBU.

Stinky ever heard of online shopping?

or two

I once parked in a P&C space....no kids in the car with me, only empty car seats.

Was 9pm at night, 5 empty P&C spaces, 4 empty disabled spaces, and I have brittle asthma and had a chest infection couldn't walk far, couldn't count past 4 without needing to gasp. I was waiting for someone to jump out from behind a trolly and challange me

Some cheeky bitch challenged my DH for using one when he was picking me and our baby up from asda. He told her to piss off. One of the reasons you should say nowt because for all you know they could be picking up wife with kids or grand kids and they may have the carseat in the shop with them.

Depends on the car park, a big ASDA near us is never full (except maybe Christmas time? But even I have never seen that) the car park is just massive, if you wanted 3 spaces to yourseldf at the back you could easily have them. And they have rows of P&C and disabled spaces. But Morrisons near us is always nealy full.

I still cant work out why you had to take an infant car seat out of the car. A baby seat fair enough but how the hell do you carry one of those bigger ones with a toddler in it

or were you just making a point?

YANBU.
That's it really.
He shouldn't have been there.

I bet they hide in the trolley parks just waiting to have a go

Do you gawp in the cars?

I saw a Smartcar strategically parked diagonally actoss 2 P&C spaces )midline of the car across the central line and parked at the edge).

Passive/Aggressive?
Shit Parking?
Ran out of petrol?

I think it's really petty of people to say that you park there deliberately without kids.
Yes,there didn't used to be any. But there are now,and it's very handy.
Shopiing with 3 kids under 6 is pretty stressful. The fact that I can plonk them straight on the pavement at the front of the car and say "don't move" whilst I get the next one out,is much better that trying to get them to stay near me in a busy carpark.
It has to be done sometimes,but the first option is far more prefferable.
I don't think it's a sense of entitlement. The shop has put them their to help parents with small children and babies.
There are fines in place in our old supermarket for missuse of the spaces,as there is with disabled spaces.
In this country (not UK) there are spaces for expectant mothers too.
Those of you that want to park close to the store eg rubyrednails,what are your reasons

I find a 3 door really easy as you've got loads of space in front of the car seat when the seat's pushed forward.

I'd never park in a p and c space without a child. Although I wouldn't have a go at someone who did probably just passive aggressively mutter and tut

I think they're a nice unnecessary perk of being a parent. Personally I like the fact that the space at the sides makes them easier to park in

I have managed fine when I was looking after my cousins 8 month old twins getting them in and out of the car, and my then toddler. Oh, AND my 8 year old sister who was a bugger for wandering off without a P & C space. Does that mean i get a medal?

You CAN manage perfectly fine, it is just called lazyitus, as you can't be bothered putting in the extra effort. The spaces are only there to entice mothers in, no more, no less.

Oops, I wrote that ages ago and just posted, conversation has moved on a bit now

I can see how they do make it easier for multiple, mobile children

We do park in them if we use the supermarket later on in the evening. Your children should be in bed then

That's what I think they are a little perk and nice but I'd never start on someone in a supermarket over it.

DS2(15) just looked over my shoulder and said " who cares? Park somewhere else then, if they put the P&C spaces at the back of the car park no one else would use them!". I think he is a secret MNetter!

I had a large number of stitches after I had DS1, there was no such thing as P&C spaces and we managed, as did every other woman before they were invented!

when the P&C spaces are full i just park at the further part of the car park. nobody ever parks up there as its too far to walk lol and i can get the DC out of the car.