To moan at a man parked in parent & child bay when he was clearly childless!!

[Nannyto2]

Had a lovely moan at a man parked in a parent & child bay today at a supermarket!! He told me to f**k off as he could park there as it was the first space he saw and he has a daughter at home!!!!

Carpark attendant saw the incident and told me I was out of order!!! As a result of this idiotic man parked in that space I had to struggle to get a infant carseat out of a 3door car in a normal space.

Was I unreasonable to have a go at the man??

Sorry for the long post

So do I, Usual.

But sometimes people need that extra space. When my knee is bad I nee the space of P and C spaces a lot more than I do just to get DS out of the car.

If people park there because they are lazy nothing will stop them anyway so what's the point in getting irrate about it? Just park somewhere else

And if old person spaces were introduced usual, would you be fine with young people parking there because they couldn't give a shit?

Just wondering, because 18 months after the birth of my son I still struggle to lift him out of his car seat, I still can't bend properly, I am currently healing from my third surgery required because of problems experienced in labour, so I do need to get the door open fully to get him out and to walk as little as possible.

Just wondering.

I agree usul but if such spaces were created, but not enforced and a gaggle of rowdy teenagers parked in one such space would you not feel angry and want to confront them? Or a business woman in a fancy sportscar?

feak x posts

How, just how can parents not manage without a P & C parking space?
I mean really, it's just a courtesy isn't it?
I've no idea why I've got involved with this thread and all those silly entitled parents except I'm slightly pissed and feeling argumentative.
And I agree, elderly parking spaces wouldn't be a bad idea.
But they're not going to be the ones that make any money for the supermarkets, so bugger them.

usual suspect if I see you getting out of your car without a child in a P&C place, i will say "these spaces are for people with children".

And if you say it to me I will ignore you as my need is greater and I have no desire to explain myself to someone with no right to know.

I'm just pondering why a fit mother and childs needs are far greater than anyone elses.

I don't park in P & C places with my mum, but it would make her life easier if we could park nearer to the supermarket.

What Kladdkaka said.

Park there, usualsuspect. You mum is a parent and you are her child. Totally legit.

The thing is they do excist, there aren't a huge amount of them and there are pretty much always pleanty of other spaces in the places I shop anyway. I've probably only used them a handful of times since having ds and never before. But what I can't understand and would genuinely like someone to explain to me is why you would park there if you're not disabled, ill, frail etc. I'm aware that you can and it's not enforceable. There are loads of small courtesies in life you don't have to follow but doesn't it make life better to be a bit considerate? Genuine question btw

I'm just pondering why a fit mother and childs needs are far greater than anyone elses.

That's the problem though. Whenever anyone without kids takes one of these places they don't know that they're preventing a 'fit' mother parking there. For all they know they are preventing me from being able to, or any other parent who has recently given birth or who has experienced the same sorts of difficulties as me.

I wouldn't confront anyone in a supermarket car park over a parking space TBH.

Assuming that all mothers are fit, big assumption there when so many have bodies that ate mangled for months after birth.

I don't understand why the parking attendant was not on your side - there is no point in having child spaces if they are going to be routinely abused.

However, have you heard the saying 'pick your battles'? I agree that life is way too short to get upset about a parking space so I would not have said anything.

Yeah ok then. because all P & C places are full of mothers that have just given birth

shurrrrup tango! I got another one coming out soon!

No, but you don't support the right of anyone else to do so when they see someone behaving in an outrageously selfish way.

Women don't get given blue badges when they're in a shit state after giving birth. But some shops do have the courtesy of providing spaces more convenient if you are struggling with mobility etc. I don't think anyone on here yelling that they park there as a single person, and couldn't give a fuck, would dream of smugly procclaiming that they use disabled spaces without entitlement. So what's the difference?

Just for you usual I'm going to give birth in a p&c space.

*..i will say "these spaces are for people with children".

I'd tell you to FUCK OFF if you said that to me.

You really have to ask the difference between p and c spaces and disabled spaces?

I know, Sirzy, I thought it too.

Feak seriously. It's posts like that that make people think all mothers with babies are entitled.

There is a big fat massive world of difference!

Yeah ok then. because all P & C places are full of mothers that have just given birth

No, some of them are.

Others are used by women like me with toddlers. Who are STILL mangled after giving birth. Who have restricted mobility because of giving birth.

I wouldn't have got into a row about it like the OP did. But I think her behaviour is far less unreasonable than the conduct of those who think it's some kind of badge of honour to be the sort of thoughtless arsewipe that would firstly - make a point of taking spaces away from other people who might actually need them; and secondly - procclaim it on here like it's something to be proud of. It's not.

pickles that's a great idea.

usual I have birth 10 months ago and I still can't get out of the car with struggling due to fractured tailbone and pelvic issues directly caused by childbirth, so no I am indeed not suggesting it is all mothers who have just given birth.