to be pissed off at no thank you.

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I asked my friend if she wanted to go to a show at our local theatre. She said yes and then asked if her friend could come too and she would get her friend her ticket for her birthday.

I bought the tickets today (as arranged) and told them on facebook. Both of them have 'liked' my comment about getting the tickets on facebook but neither have bothered to say thank you. No mention of money either and she knows I don't have lots of spare cash at the moment. So now I am £60 out of pocket with not even a thank you. The show isn't for a while so I doubt I will see that money for over a month.

My fault I suppose for not sorting the money up front but I am seriously annoyed at not even getting a thank you.

Was it clear you expected her to pay?

And maybe they would prefer to 'thank you' in person rather than fb.

You need to be as hard faced as her and say, "Hey X, can you let me have the money for the theatre (state amount) before Friday? I need to pay a bill with it. Thanks xx" and that's it.

Ask for the money.

The tickets were £X each, would be grateful for the cash ASAP cos I had to pay it all up front. xx

And no, it's not unreasonable to expect a thank you.

Although I wouldn't mind betting that they probably think 'liking' your fb message is akin to a thank you.

There's nothing wrong with asking for the money but I wouldn't expect a fb thank you in particular. I would imagine they'll thank you in person.

I think you're being a bit sensitive about the thank you. And just ask for the money.

I would imagine they WON'T thank you in person! How easy would it have been on FB to just put "Thanks!"?

If she knew you were getting the tickets today, then you should have made it clear when you told her you were getting them, that you would need the money ASAP.

You are right I need to ask for the money.

Grrrrr to people who think clicking 'like' is the same as a thank you. You are probably right though HectateHarshPants.

I feel like putting on fb 'ummmm a thank you would be nice!'

Phone them and sort it out.
I love FB, use it all the time, but it's no replacement for proper communication.

Have just facebooked and said I need the money before my bills are due and I gave them that date.

How do you know imperial? I would always say thanks for sorting that out for me when they were given to me.

I'd ask for the money and not sweat the fb business to be honest.

You see the way I think about this is, I'd your preferred method of communication is an impersonal facebook comment, then you can't really get offended when people respond with an equally impersonal Facebook 'norm' response. Yes it is polite to say thank you, but I don't really think Facebook exactly encourages good interpersonal communication. So I think yabu because you chose that method to communicate. if you need the money now you should ask

No, don't put that. Just put a comment asking for the money.

allnewtaketwo. I am not unreasonable for using facebook. How daft! I can use whatever method of communication I prefer and so can my friends. It doesn't mean people should stop saying thank you.

did the friend know she was going as a surprise or did you ruin that when you posted it all over facebook?

I wouldnt be impressed if my 'friend' told all and sundry that i would be out of my house on a certain day or time, because then everyone would know my house is empty then.

Why dont you just SPEAK to each other for heavens sake?

Of course yanbu for using Facebook, but I think that in going so, yabu to then feel offended at what was essentially a Facebook norm in terms of response

She did know imsotired and blinkin eck you are paranoid if you think someone is checking out fb to see if you are out the house. I can communicate with them in any way I see fit.

Alpha bite you are very defensive, maybe you should chill out. Sometimes interpersonal means of communication leads to misunderstandings. Of course it is your choice, but it is a little silly to then get do defensive and annoyed about it all. sometimes a quick chat or phone call helps.

yes i know you can, but you cant expect real life responses in a cyberworld.

oh and i'm not paranoid, just have teenage kids... who have friends...lots and lots of teenage friends... who like to party..... and while DS wouldnt arrange anything on his own, it is possible for word to get around and a party be arranged by the friends.

I don't think I'm being defensive but maybe I am!

FWIW I hate the phone. Always have done.

YABU to be "seriously annoyed". It's not like you gave them a kidney or anything.

They aint getting my kidneys!

Cyber etiquette is a new field for many, I hope they will thank you and you will have a nice night out, but if you put something snarky on fb it will spoil it for you.

Hopefully your mate will thank you when she replies about the money.