to be pissed off at no thank you.

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I asked my friend if she wanted to go to a show at our local theatre. She said yes and then asked if her friend could come too and she would get her friend her ticket for her birthday.

I bought the tickets today (as arranged) and told them on facebook. Both of them have 'liked' my comment about getting the tickets on facebook but neither have bothered to say thank you. No mention of money either and she knows I don't have lots of spare cash at the moment. So now I am £60 out of pocket with not even a thank you. The show isn't for a while so I doubt I will see that money for over a month.

My fault I suppose for not sorting the money up front but I am seriously annoyed at not even getting a thank you.

I think a kidney would warrant a thank you card at least!

I think a kidney should at least be flowers!

OP have a and chill a bit...you're coming across as a tad bonkers. You've asked them for the money, end of story...all will be fine I'm sure.

Why do I sound bonkers shushpenfold?

Because you seem to be intensely defensive about you using FB and then getting incredibly annoyed when your friends are using a completely 'usual' form of communication ON FB to answer you.....

I think it's an overreaction to call someone bonkers for those reasons.

...then don't ask in AIBU. 'Bonkers' is a tongue in cheek term, not meant to be vastly offensive. You do seem a tad touchy love!

well instead of moaning, phone up your friend and ask for the money.

I have asked for the money piglet.

Sorry...didn't mean to come across as madly patronising...too much Saturday night !!

Haha. Put down the wine! I'm not at all bonkers really!

Good to hear it.....honestly though, wine does help!!!!!

I'm out of and I can't be bothered to go to the shop. I'd rather watch the diving. I do have a bottle of champagne that I've been saving but that would seem extravagent.

Fair enough....I'll have one for you and shout at Tom to keep his toes pointed.

You must have known that you would have to wait and be out of pocket for a while though? You seem a bit martyrish about it. If that's a word.

Some people think I'm bonkers
But I just think I'm free
Man, I'm just livin' my life
There's nothin' crazy about me

I love FB but if you want to directly address money, send them both an email. Say "Hey ladies, got the tickets! Really looking forward to the show etc etc! BTW the amount per ticket was xx total, if I could get that from you asap I'd really appreciate it."

Posting on FB that yay you have tickets really doesn't address anyone in particular. It's just a general statement of "yay." for all and sundry to see. If you need money, you'll need to ask them directly. Otherwise yes, you might be waiting until the date of the show to get it from them!

I agree a thank you would be nice, but then i personally wouldn't put it on facebook if i didn't expect a fb reply be it like or possibly 'thank you'- i would have text them.

RE the money thing, always ask for it up front, i hope they'll be giving you on the night but you could always text your friend and say 'glad you guys are still up for the theatre. Can't wait myself. Is it ok if i send you my bank details to send the money too? I'd rather not carry that cash on me, thanks. xx'

You are being ridiculous. What makes you think they won't say thank you when you go to the show, or when yu give them their tickets, or when they give you the money?

Maybe they haven't said thank you be sure they would rather say it in Person. Maybe they didn't realise that your innocent sounding post about something you had done was actually a summons for thanks?

I wanna know what show your watching with a combined ticket total of £60! nosey I've just been looking for a show and it was more than that each!

Liking a post like that on Facebook is just shorthand for 'I've read this post', really. So now they know you have tickets, and now you know they know you have them. Normal, 1 to 1 communication should now ensue to make arrangements, collect money and say thank you.

I agree with AllNewTakeTwo, sushpenfold, GreenEggs, WilsonFrickett, and others,
You've made an announcement on FB "I've got tickets for x show". They've repsonded in 'FB Speak' "Yay, great looking forward to it". Sorting the money and being thanked for getting the tickets is a separate thing.

This is a communication problem, not a friends with no manners problem.

As Outraged said above, they will more than likely thank you and pay when they see you in person.

You are expecting certain things from them, but have not told them what, and are now annoyed they have not read your mind.

If you need the money now, say so, but do not go all PA with the "a thank you would have been nice" because if you said that to me before I had a chance to thank you in person, I would be really pissed off.

Well if I was getting something for myself anyway & then just picked up a couple of extras at the time, a thank you wouldn´t really bother me tbh-until I handed over the tickets.