to not take a packed lunch for friends?

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Just packing lunch for a day out with friends. As its the holidays, I have bought in naice smoothie drinks, fromage frais, crisps...stuff we don't normally have

We are getting through a colossal amount of groceries this holidays and I am skint. I was begrudging putting in extra stuff for friends kids who we are going with...so I didnt! I feel really mean. But it occured to me that its not my place to provide lunch for the others anyhow is it? I normally do, so that the kids can all have the same and no one feels left out/ stops any bickering. And just cuz its nice

But I'm skint. Am I being unreasonable?

I'd contact them and let them know that you are each providing for your own children so that they dont turn up with nothing.

Well if you are skint and the kids are coming with their parents and you are not taking them all away by yourself then it's not totally unreasonable.

If you are taking them all away you should take some food and drinks for them and not rely on their parents giving them a packed lunch.

You should have sorted this out before today.

Can you phone them and ask if they are doing a packed lunch? it will cost you more if you end up having to buy something.

Yanbu. They are coming with their parents so its their parents responsibility to feed their children. Just send a text tat you are all bringing your own

Call them and say 'Just double checking,we are all bringing our own food,aren't we?'.That will sort that one out :)

YANBU but make sure you tell them :)

I would expect my friends to pack stuff for my kids. Why do yours? Is this something you have done before? If so I would let them know.
Tbh even if you haven't I would text and tell them what my plans were. Although I would have done it before today.

I wouldn't expect

If I was taking children without parents then yes I would take lunch for them. But would only take my own stuff if it was a group of friends

So, you all do take food for all kids? Do the other parents also? Don't you end up with 2 or 3 lunches per child then?

birds no, it will cost them more, if they haven't brought food. I've got food

It didn't need sorting out before today. It's a casual trip to a fairly local park. Arranged at 1am, this morning. Don't do military manouvres here

I wouldn't expect it either. When we do picnics we all bring our own. But you should check this put with the other parents. If you just invited kids, different story, because of course you should provide lunch. But not if parents are going too. So YABU if it's just kids, YANBU if it's kids with parents....but call and tell them you are just bringing your own lunch to be sure.

Oh gawd grove, yes I would definitely feed kids, if their parents weren't coming. I'm not that mean

I think I will phone other mum...bit of a strange phone call....'just phoning to say, I'm not bringing any food for you and yours'...shell be I'm sure...

If you were my friend and I didn't talk to you about it before hand...and just Disney being anything for your kids...what would you think? That I am mean?

Just call and say you are double checking you are all bringing your own, as that was your understanding.

Call them and say 'Just double checking,we are all bringing our own food,aren't we?'.That will sort that one out

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This

I tend to take, say one packet of nice biscuits for all the kids to share. My friends do similar. We all bring the basics and each tend to bring something a bit special to share.

Ok, thanks
Gonna do it....

Just phone and check that we are bringing our own picnic or text them

Just ask what's she's taking say I've got x y and want to see what your brining so we don't double up, or summat

we normally do our own sandwiches but then bring a multipack of something to share e.g. biscuits, crisps, etc. Each brings a sharing item so no one person is more out of pocket than the other

I go out frequently with friends and their kids - have never brought a shared picnic as everyone's DCs like different things and I hate margarine so never trust anyone else to make sarnies for me.

But yes if you normally bring it then you need to let them know. I'd text and say " Bit skint at the minute so just bringing pack lunch for DCs and I looking forward to seeing you at xx time" Then when you are there you can say that going forward you would rather just bring lunch for yourselves, can't see it being an issue.

Did you sort it out? I don't think you are BU! Maybe you could take one thing to share if you're worried about it - like a packet of biscuits. But it's fair enough that you don't provide food for everyone if you're skint. Why are you worrying and not your friend? You could always ring and say "just wanted to tell you not to worry packing a picnic for mine - I'll take a few things for them :-D"

What a drama about absolutely nothing.

Why would you phone and check?

"Hi, yes I'm just calling to make sure you didn't think i was feeding all your children while you brought nothing...."

Why would anyone think that in the first place? And if they did, why would you not just think, fuck them?

Just phone and say, "Are you giving your kids lunch beforehand or are you taking it with you?"