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AIBU to think everyone has an NHS horror story?

162 replies

corygal · 10/08/2012 22:46

Because I have, and he died. Went from ok to dead in 3 days. Violently. In hospital. The details are so simple, and so distinctive, that I can't out them on yer interweb. But at the inquest the doctors lied. Then lied again in court, as it happens, so no one can talk about it even 5 yrs on as it's still doing the court rounds.

So what has happened to you and the people you know? I'm posting because the expression 'everyone makes mistakes, even dedicated NHS staff' on a current thread has made my teeth itch.

OP posts:
blueemerald · 10/08/2012 23:10

My younger brother suffered a ruptured appendix because the GP and A+E doctors kept insisting it was stomach flu despite my mother (no wall flower at the best of times) telling them repeatedly that he was not thrown up once, did not have dieareohea and made a massive throbbing lump just where his appendix was. His appendectomy (normally a reasonably short procedure) took very nearly 3 hours and a 10 day stay in hospital. He very nearly died because of the arrogance of two NHS doctors.

I contracted some kind of disease in the Easter holidays before my A level exams which made me feel awful and made the glands in my neck swell up massively. I was told by my GP I was not to go to school until we knew what it was. Between my GP and local hospital they lost 12 samples of my blood and lost the label on another. This took around 14 weeks so by the time some blood was tested I had recovered, done my exams and gone on holiday. The receptionist at the surgery rang the house and my mother explained I was away so could not receive the (now meaningless) results. The receptionist said "well she can't be that ill". My mother replied "After 14 weeks I think we can assume she's better or dead" and put the phone done.

Mistakes I can understand; arrogance and incompetence I can not.

rosyposyandc · 10/08/2012 23:10

That is very interesting Edam and quite lovely to hear actually.

CointreauVersial · 10/08/2012 23:11

I am very fortunate that neither I nor my immediate family have ever needed to put the NHS to the test. I had a great standard of care during my three childbirths, so no horror stories here.

Sirzy · 10/08/2012 23:11

I have been in hopsital with DS about 15 times in the last 2.5 years and couldn't fault the care given at any point. We have had some poor care from GPs but I think that is generally more because they aren't used to dealing with 2 year olds with serious asthma and tend to either not realise how bad it can get or panic and send him to a and e "just to be on the safe side"

Kewcumber · 10/08/2012 23:13

I have minor gripes about NHS admin which is irritating but to put it in perspective NHS staff saved my life and my mothers life. Can't complain really.

Flojo1979 · 10/08/2012 23:14

The NHS is massive, there r bound to be lots of stories of things going wrong, they shouldn't but they do, as they do in any other job.

I only have praise for the NHS and good stories.
The team at the Christie saved my mums life and throughout it all, gave her hope.

Kladdkaka · 10/08/2012 23:14

Then there was the time my Dad, with Parkinson's and dementia, was admitted because of a serious urinary infection. They woke him up at 3.00am because they need his bed and sent him home alone in a taxi. My mum found him on the doorstep.

TequilaMockinBird · 10/08/2012 23:15

Sorry, I should've made it clear that mine was a 'horror story' because the cancer was very well advanced and even though he'd had numerous scans etc relating to the collapsed lung, nobody had spotted the tumour Hmm

Even though it was probably the tumour which caused it to collapse.

Kewcumber · 10/08/2012 23:16

I'm an accountant and its much easier to cover up my mistakes.

ALso I don't know any medical professional who, in case of their own medical emergency, would ask to be taken to a private hosptial (though they would probably be arguing with ambulance crew about which A&E to take them to...)

Kellamity · 10/08/2012 23:17

Absolutely Kew i would not want any of my family to ever be treated in a private hospital.

Imnothome · 10/08/2012 23:18

I have some bad treatment off the NHS. I cant go into detail about my care as its going through court.

I have had some good care. But the bad care I recieved has clouded my judgement of tbe NHS.

I am permantly disabled through one Dr and the treatment that DR give me, I woudn't treat a spider that way.

The DR'S excuse was laughable.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 10/08/2012 23:18

So sorry for your loss corygal.

I only have good experiences. My surgeon was a miracle worker imo.

ThatGhastlyWoman · 10/08/2012 23:18

My father is dead because of his GP. As are several other people from the same village. When my father was dying, they had a sort of hearing at my parents' home where they decided to accept an apology. It wasn't a simple misdiagnosis or an honest mistake. He didn't examine my father and wouldn't do the standard screening indicated for his symptoms for over ten years, even though he was asked to, and my father was in increasing pain. He took him off medication he needed to be on even though he was specifically told not to by a specialist. I can't put much more, but believe me there was even more to it that makes it a hell of a lot worse. My father died miserable and in pain, and my mother is still struggling with the aftermath.

(To give you some idea, a good friend of my mother's kept going to this same GP about her inability to swallow food, and he told her to take antacids and stop being so neurotic. One day he was off, and she saw the locum- and was rushed to hospital, where they found an inoperable tumour in her throat. She never got home.)

Anyway, he is still practising, and my poor mum still hears gossip about his f*ck-ups.

My aunt died as a result of falling out of bed in hospital after a hip op- she couldn't wait any longer for the loo. No-one documented it as they didn't want to get in any trouble. She went home with a broken hip, was in agony trying to do physio etc, and then was re-admitted... and got MRSA and died.

My mum nearly died after a medical error in her care when she was carrying my twin sisters. She was in a coma for two days. The twins both died. It messed her up for many years.

However, my partner is alive because of the NHS, my sister too- and my daughter and I wouldn't have made it through her birth without them. I love the NHS,and I hope we can preserve it.

CouthyMow · 10/08/2012 23:18

Horrendous stories of having to disconnect myself from oxygen while suffering from pneumonia, to feed 3 old ladies on my ward who none of the nurses/HCP's 'had time' to feed.

And boggling at the nurses calling a dietician down for one of them who had lost half a stone (and was thin to begin with) in less than a week in hospital. Cue me piping up and telling the dietician that if ANYONE had bothered to feed her, maybe she wouldn't be losing weight. I got treated like shit by the nurses after that.

Or of being told that my pregnancy wasn't viable, and I should terminate. My 'non-viable pregnancy' is now a very active 18mo. And it turns out I wasn't the only person in my local hospital to be told that, as an identical case was in my local paper a few weeks ago.

Or even more horrific, a full 6 months being wasted on a misdiagnosis of anorexia for a teenager suffering from leukaemia. Who has recently died. And those 6 months of misdiagnosis, all the while her cancer getting worse, may possibly have saved her life.

People in labour being sent home due to labour ward being full, and their babies dying because of cord prolapse in one case, placental abruption in another, and cord strangulation in a third. And no other maternity ward in our PCT, refusal to transport out of PCT, so no alternative but to do as they were told.

I don't have many good stories about the NHS, unfortunately.

GnocchiNineDoors · 10/08/2012 23:19

The only experiences I have of the NHS are my own and DDs births. I can't fault the care I received.

DarrowbyEightFive · 10/08/2012 23:20

We've experienced the best and the worst of the NHS over the last few months. On the one hand we've got a complaint being investigated right now because an OOH doctor refused to come out to my very sick mother, as a result she nearly died because of the delay in treatment. However, once she did get into ICU they did a superb job and undoubtedly saved her life.

Now, having spent thousands upon thousands in saving her, she has been sent home with virtually no mobility and has to be looked after by carers. She has an open wound on her leg that needs dressing several times a day, but the district nurse can only come three times a week. My mother has offered to do the dressing herself (this is a 77yo with advanced heart failure!) but the nurse won't leave enough extra dressings behind. So my mum is resorting to winding spare sheets and pillowcases round her leg because the dressing is sodden (sorry TMI). What's the betting that this will lead to some sort of sepsis or infection, not to mention being horribly uncomfortable. I don't understand why the NHS spends so much on emergency care (which is good!) but then endangers the same patients by poor aftercare.

Sorry, I'm meaning to start a separate thread on this sometime when I've got a bit more energy. Got to go to bed now...

Oh, and a GP failed to dignose my father's brain tumour until it was too late (headaches? take some paracetemol) and a different one failed to diagnose my aunt's bowel cancer despite bleeding and other symptoms (it's IBS now go away). I'm not a big fan of the GP system - it prevents too many people from being seen by specialists at an early stage.

CouthyMow · 10/08/2012 23:22

Oh, and my GP that was struck off for various reasons, acting inappropriately with patients, not referring people, not sending essential test referrals (2 year wait for an urgent MRI scan in sudden onset seizure activity to rule out a brain tumour, anyone?!)

annie987 · 10/08/2012 23:23

Without the NHS neither of my children would be here today.

Birdsgottafly · 10/08/2012 23:23

There are massive differences between departments, as well.

Badvoc · 10/08/2012 23:26

Good and bad.
Like mot people.
But there have been some horrific stories in the press recently about failures to give even the it's basic care to patients.
Awful.

AGreenie · 10/08/2012 23:27

Op do sorry for your loss
I have a story also
My partners mum went into hospital by ambulance after suffering from sickness problems for many months and she had rapid weight loss but as her husband recently died, no one took her problems seriously.
She became much worse on a Friday, was eventually taken by ambulance late on the Friday and was operated on for peritonitis on the Friday, and died on the Saturday.
On the Friday, we were told she had come round from surgery, and had tried to take off her breathing mask, we all went to bed hopeful. On the Saturday we went to hospital and were told she hadn't survived, we were obviously devastated.
The following week , we were called by doctors from the hospital who told us that my partners mum had been 'accidentily given enough lignocaine that it would kill a fit man like david beckham, let alone a sick woman like' his mum. basically, in the area where saline bags were stored, there were a few random lignocaine bags. The police were involved and a family liaison officer was assigned.
We reviewed all the autopsy reports- there were about 60 inconsistencies which we questioned eg timings and facts (including dob!)but it seemed that our questions put their back ups and they were quite stroppy with us. In the end, it was found that the excessive lignocaine that they gave her didn't kill her, it was the peritonitis that did, but had the out of hours Gp given the go ahead to call an ambulance just a few hours earlier, she might have been saved (she completely trusted what doctors told her, and had been very poorly for quite a few hours when a dr said to see if there was any change etc..)
My partner and his family received shocking treatment - the hospital were supposed to apologise and said they did, but didn't! Ever! It seems as soon as the lawyers or trust managers got involved it was treated that we were in the wrong (somehow!!)

Hope you get the best outcome possible

CouthyMow · 10/08/2012 23:27

Oh, and I have no peripheral vision at all because I was prescribed a particular epilepsy medication as an adjunct by my GP as my PCT refused to let me go out of area to see a Neurologist (my PCT doesn't have one at all), despite this particular anti-seizure med being contra-indicated by my medical history.

Still having trouble thinking up good stories tbh.

Even the births of my DC's were marred by poor treatment from staff.

EnjoyResponsibly · 10/08/2012 23:29

My dad has been saved from death at least 5 times by the NHS. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

My 3 month old DS was so badly misdiagnosed and treated by our practice nurse, GP, consultant and nurses that we wound up at GOSH.

At this point, I have to say thank god for GOSH. Quite simply the most amazing place on Earth. We owe you so much xx

SandStorm · 10/08/2012 23:30

I know there are lots of horror stories about the NHS and every single one of them has a real person suffering as a result but my experience of the NHS has been excellent. They saved my daughter's life and for that I will be forever grateful.

RugBugs · 10/08/2012 23:32

Not nearly as awful as some but this is my most recent dealing with the NHS.
DP missed DD's first birthday because no one on a respiratory ward in a large city hospital knew how to correctly drain his collapsed lung. When they finally got him moved to the specialist hospital the consultant was horrified, either it was fitted incorrectly or the pump was broken. Poor DP was in so much unnecessary pain.