Hell I am being unreasonable and I want ideas to be even more unreasonable!!

[PandaSpaniel]

Hi everyone. I have recently split from my 5 month old's dad and I really wanted to double barrel his name to include mine but he wont agree to it. I am really pissed off and angry at him and feel really helpless because I can't do anything about it.

I would like some ideas of things to piss him off. My thoughts so far are changing my name to include his (rather crap as I don't want his name) and not providing anything when he picks his son up ( nappies etc)

IAM NOT ACTUALLY GOING TO DO EITHER as I don't want to make things any worse between us (as if that was possible) and also it isnt fair on my son but just as a bit of fun to cheer me up I would like some really outrageous suggestions of how to royally piss him off

Thank you

It would really piss him off if you got on with your life and didn't react to him.

It doesn't matter if he doesn't agree with it, you can call the child whatever you like, just use it.
It's a little known fact we can all call ourselves whatever we like. No need for legal namechanges.

You can call your child whatever you want. It won't be on his birth certificate but schools etc in the future will be happy to use a double barrel name and there's nothing your ex can do about it.

Yeah, just tell him you've done it, and write kidlet's name that way. It's not illegal to have an alias!

Well thats what I am doing on the surface. I am deeply upset and hurt by him though and have been through a lot. Thought a bit of light hearted jokes would help

Can I double barrel it anyway then?

Yep Panda, just do it. Like I said, you can't change his birth certificate and passport etc, but all other things you can call him Monkey Balls Poo-Stain if you want to (but please don't)

Using a different name from that on the birth certificate will cause the child all sorts of hassle in the future.

Please explain Old... All the OP wants to do is double barrel his surname. Plenty of people do business under another name to their given name, it really doesn't make any difference

I know that when he is around 11 they take the child's views into consideration so if he has been known as kari okie instead of just okie all his life am sure it would be taken into consideration.

PS Not actual names, that would just be wrong lol

Yes, I usually go by my maiden name, but if people address me by my husband's name, I don't correct them, unless it is something official.

You can call yourself whatever you want to, so long as you're not trying to defraud anyone.

As for the annoying bit, dress him as a girl each time EX picks him up?

Panda just do it. My DM married a man with a very unfortunate surname that she knew would lead to my DB being bullied at school. She gave him a middle name that was also a surname and all he had to do was drop his surname off the end. Think Bob Elliot Arsehole becoming Bob Elliot.

Is it just me who's got an image of a woman signing all her cheques "PenisVanLesbian" with a triumphant smile on her face?! :)

Dress him as a girl, hmmm. Even better, how bout a customised t shirt "My dad's a wanker"

Thing is, the dc will have to be registered at nursery, then through school etc in the name on the birth certificate (unless the op lies that her ex consents to the change), so exam results will be in that name. If accompanying documents (references etc) are in a different name, that can cause problems.

I have no personal exeperience of this, and as it's only a double-barrelling rather than a complete change I may be making heavy weather of it anyway.

So I'll shut up now.

You can change the babies name officially by deed poll - my mum did it before I started school and certainly never had permission from my dad :o Might be worth looking into?

Don't bother getting a customised Tshirt. You can already buy ones that read "I'm with stupid".

If baby was born after 2003 or thereabouts and father signed the certificate then both parents consent is needed.

How bout "My dad hits girls"

*birth certificate

They needed mines consent when my name was changed, which was a good 15 year ago

You can def change the namr and schools etc will happily use whichever name you use. My DDs insisted on changing surname when I remarried. Their DF (understandably) wasn't happy about it so it hasn't been changed by deed poll. We told school and docs and they have changed the names on rheir records no problem. The DDs can deed poll themselves as adults

If parents were married then consent was needed from both, the rule from 2003 is for unmarried parents. I was bloody stupid to give him just my ex partners name. I was adamant all the way through the pregnancy that he was to have a double barrelled name and when I was at my most vulnerable he changed my mind. The git!

"My dad hits girls"

Is that why you've split up? I'm so sorry but so relieved you're not with him.

Anyway silly ideas to piss him off please