To think that you don't just give your baby 'hungry baby milk' because your 2 month old won't go more than 4 hours between feeds?

[BonkeyHasGOLDMollocks]

My 'friend' used very very lightly told me that she had her baby on this because he was feeding every 4 hours and she thought he should be going longer.

I FF ds and I am pretty sure it was a 4-5 hour gap until at least 3 months.

Incidently she is planning to wean at 12 week too.

Am I being a super know it all judgy panted bitch? Or do I possibly have a point?

Are you feeling well?

If anyone made me go 6 hours without food I would punch them.

I put ds2 on hungry baby milk at about 3/4 months because he was having about 4oz every 2 hrs.
Decided to try hungry formula in the hope it would give me some time to get other things done. Felt like I was feeding all the time.
Didn't make any difference though, he just took less at each feed and still wanted feeding 2 hours later.
After a while we switched back to regular formula and I started weaning him just after 5 months. Started on purees and then when he hit the 6 month mark moved onto BLW

Ds1 however, was a 4 hourly feeder. On the dot every time.
He was a porker and was on about 8/9 oz very early. He still eats an incredible amount, they both do, have no idea where they put it all, am very jealous!
4 hours, is def the 'norm' though.

Sounds like to me that her baby does not need hungry baby milk. 4 hours is definitely normal. Many would kill for their baby to go 4 hours between feeds. 4 hours is good. If it was my friend, I would be telling them this and also informing them that it is not a good idea to be giving hungry baby milk unless it is necessary as it is harder for babies to digest. So therefore, the excuse that "The baby goes 6 hours between feeds" is not a necessary need for the baby. In fact, I would say it was cruel in my opinion.

With regards to weaning at 12 weeks, again, I would offer my knowledge and advise to wait as long as possible as the closer to 6 months, the better. I would also advise to talk to her HV and take on board what they say.

Apart from that, I think I would actually judge secretly. I wouldn't make it obvious, but I would feel sorry for the baby being forced to wait 6 bloody hours between drinks/milk. Nothing you can do about it though.

YADNBU. I agree with you. However, you would be unreasonable to bitch about this in RL.

Hungry baby milk often constipates babies.

Weaning at 12 weeks is unnecessary and harms some babies.

What's wrong with trying to give a baby a good quality of life by not exposing it to unnecessary risk and from feeding it on the most easily digested milk (apart from mothers milk)?

Bonkey, I'm EBF and was despairing of how often DD (nearly 12 wks) was feeding at the start. Then, I was either told by a friend or read on here a comment along the lines of "How often do you go without a snack or a drink during the day?" If you think about it, a normal child or adult probably eats something every 2-3 hours during waking hours and drinks at least as often.

If you really, desperately want to say something to your "friend" about your concerns about the gaps between feeds at least in the day, you could say that to her?