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to want to kill my ds(16)!

62 replies

soaccidentprone · 09/08/2012 13:36

His girlfriend has an ear infection. She has been to the walk in clinic twice, the first time they did nothing, the second time they gave her antibiotics. These don't seem to be working. Her parents are on holiday so she is staying with us.

I took the both to A&E yesterday, but by the time they were ready it was 4pm. She is supposed to be going to a different hospital today as they didn't have the correct equipment to sort it out yesterday. They are still not ready for me to take them.

They just don't see the urgency in getting to the hospital even though I have told them the earlier we get there the earlier it can all be sorted. It's doing my head in, and to be honest I am sick of DS's girlfriend being here as she has been here since Sunday and both Sun and Mon nights she woke me up.

I have now been waiting 3 hours for them to get ready and I feel like screaming!

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LadySybildeChocolate · 09/08/2012 13:37

You want to kill your son because his girlfriend is unwell?? Hmm

BeaWheesht · 09/08/2012 13:37

What? Why does she have to go a+e? Why do you have to take them?

wankpants · 09/08/2012 13:39

I don't know why you are waiting. I can't imagine my mum putting up with that! I wouldn't have dared piss about so much!

pinkyredrose · 09/08/2012 13:40

Why can't she go to her Dr?

WorraLiberty · 09/08/2012 13:40

How old is she?

Why do you have to take them?

Numberlock · 09/08/2012 13:45

Well it can't be causing her that much discomfort then can it if she's in no rush to get it sorted.

When you say they weren't ready to go till 4pm yesterday, do you mean they were still in bed? Still faffing around getting showers etc?

I'd remind her that she's a guest in your home re the following both Sun and Mon nights she woke me up.

And I'd have said in the first place "If you want a lift to the hospital tomrrow, I will be leaving at 10am (or whenever suits you)." Up to them after that.

Why are you angry with your son though?

missymoomoomee · 09/08/2012 13:46

I wouldn't word it like that at all, what a horrible thing to say. Kids are annoying at times at all ages but its a bit much to even joke about wanting to kill your child IMO.

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soaccidentprone · 09/08/2012 13:49

She is 17, and I just feel so frustrated that they take forever to get ready, even when her earache is so bad she has been crying, and yesterday she started vomiting. This has been going on for 2 weeks now.

The GP or A&E don't have the right equipment. She needs to go to Ear Nose and Throat clinic to have a special tube fitted in her ear to dispense the antibiotics. It's her ear canal which is inflamed and has a bacterial infection which is spreading down her face.

I offered to take them 'cos I am a nice person, and because she is in so much pain.

They said they would be ready 'in a minute' but that was 40 minutes ago!

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Numberlock · 09/08/2012 13:51

Take some control back then.

I still don't get why you're angry with your son, is it by proxy because you don't feel you can get cross with her?

SirBoobAlot · 09/08/2012 13:53

Huh? She woke you up? Being ill or doing something else?

You sound grumpy.

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman · 09/08/2012 13:54

Tell them to be ready in the next 30 minutes or they'll have to make their own way there?

Petsinmyolympicpudenda · 09/08/2012 13:55

Then tell them to get a bus or taxi. She clearly isn't in that much pain if she can still faff around.

But you need to say something if you are not happy about how she is behaving in you're home

FluffyJawsOfDoom · 09/08/2012 13:56

What precisely is taking so long? That amount of pain can be quite debilitating - can you do anything to speed them up help them get ready?

Acandlelitshadow · 09/08/2012 14:11

Fucked if I'd be faffed round like that.

Tell them if they're not ready in ten minutes they'll be making their own way there.

flexybex · 09/08/2012 14:35

I sympathise (obviously other posters don't have ds like mine (and yours)) :)

If I'm about to give him a lift, my ds faffs, showers, remembers things suddenly, eats, strolls, sits, searches for clothes....... If his friend is about to give him a lift, he's bright as a button, on the ball, jumping through hoops.... So I've come to the conclusion that he does it to wind me up, and have stopped worrying about it. No more nagging. No more stress.

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman · 09/08/2012 15:23

What makes you think we don't have DC like that? I did. They maybe grown up now but once upon a time they were that age and if they faffed about they soon discovered that mum's taxi service had buggered off and gone for a tea break.

Numberlock · 09/08/2012 15:35

Ditto, hell. The reason I don't have kids like that is because I don't put my whole day on hold waiting for them to piss about.

They know the set-off time in advance, if they aren't ready, they have to get there under their own steam.

valiumredhead · 09/08/2012 15:52

Stand by the front door, jiggle your keys and tell them you are going NOW or not at all.

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soaccidentprone · 10/08/2012 10:47

Eventually set off at 2.30 (so not too bad for two idle teens!), got to the hospital at 3, treated and out by 5.30.

DS's g/f's lining of her ear is inflammed and completely swollen, so the antibiotic eardrops weren't getting to where they needed to go. She has had a wick put in her ear which allows the drops to be absorbed and pass down to her inner ear, so fingers crossed should now all be sorted!

It was a very painful procedure and she cried Sad, but it had to be done to treat it.

Thanks for all your support Smile

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soaccidentprone · 10/08/2012 10:47

PS Angry with son 'cos g/f was ready but he was still in the bath!

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DefenceAgainstTheDarkArts · 10/08/2012 10:49

She's probably dawdling because she feels poorly. x

StuntGirl · 10/08/2012 11:12

All these 'problems' could have been solved by just taking charge of the situation, y'know, being the adult. I.e. we leave at X time or not at all. If she was that bothered she'd have been ready. And if she was ready and your son was still in the bath? I'd have taken her without him.

Gumby · 10/08/2012 11:15

Why can't her own parents sort her out?

diddl · 10/08/2012 11:24

Did he have to go as well?

Sallyingforth · 10/08/2012 11:43

I offered to take them 'cos I am a nice person and they are taking the piss

and because she is in so much pain being a drama queen.

They said they would be ready 'in a minute' but that was 40 minutes ago! because it's not really that bad and they are taking the piss.

You're letting them walk all over you. Grow some before it's too late.

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