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AIBU?

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To be a bit (ok, a lot) judgey about this?

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midori1999 · 08/08/2012 10:42

Someone I know has posted on Facebook (yes, yes, I know!) that their 10 week old baby has just eaten half a jar of baby food. Apparently due to the baby's incessant hunger and although they are aware of the 6 month guideline for weaning, that's not suitable for their baby because he is just so hungry.

Same baby has also been pictured in a baby walker periodically over the last 4 weeks, propped up/squashed in with a blanket as obviously they are far too young to sit in it unaided.

The same family give their 2 year old coke in a bottle.

I know it's none of my business, but I can't help but feel these things are just a symptom of wanting their baby to be 'grown up'.

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JennerOSity · 08/08/2012 10:47

I would also hoik my judgey pants quite high over this, - it is very ignorant parenting IMO - ignoring the biological basis for the recommendations of weaning etc

But also can't imagine myself having a friend who would . I friend people on fb the same as I do in rl - quite selectively, though I know some people friend anyone and everyone they ever meet and others somewhere in between.

So I am also now thinking you have some dubious friends which means I am also judging you a little. Sorry.

gallifrey · 08/08/2012 10:49

There's just no hope for people like that, ignorant tossers :(

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 08/08/2012 10:49

I'm judging BOTH of you for giving anything from FB airtime here...

There will be somebody along in a minute, who has simply stumbled in here and will leave again quick smart, after posting a parting shot of judging silly women who post on a chatboard full stop...

Where will it ever end?

JennerOSity · 08/08/2012 10:52

The judging circle is closing in tightly.

ChunkyPickle · 08/08/2012 10:57

Nope. I would hoik too. Although DS was loving being in a baby door bouncer thing about that age - but not until he had good head control (he was carried in a mei-tai from birth, so he developed neck strength pretty quick)

GateGipsy · 08/08/2012 10:57

it wasn't that long ago that the guidelines was 4 months not 6 months and it varies with all babies. They are just guidelines.

I would be judgy though over the 2 year old with coke in their bottle.

JumpingThroughHoops · 08/08/2012 10:58

But - 15 years ago weaning at 10-12 weeks was the recommended guideline.

And someone will point out that guidelines change. Indeed they do. in another 15 years it will be back to 10-12 weeks again.

Same as the old lay on the back, side, face down thing.

New research, new guidelines. Weekly, if not daily

JumpingThroughHoops · 08/08/2012 10:59

The same family give their 2 year old coke in a bottle.

Deffo unreasonable to be using a bottle at 2

WorraLiberty · 08/08/2012 10:59

My first 2 were on baby rice from 7 weeks on the advice of my HV.

I really can't work up a fuss about how/what other people choose to feed their own kids.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 08/08/2012 11:01

Oh but I'd judge you , chunky for using a baby bouncer at all... so hands off as a parent, really...

But then I'd maybe judge you for keeping your sweat mitts on your baby all the time if you were a smothering sort of parent?

If I were judgey that is... in truth, I can't raise the slightest effort to pointlessly judge other people over 1) what doesn't affect my life and 2) what is an impotent waste of time lathering about.

Jenner... the 'judging circile' is more of an 'infinite loop' on MN... all these ladies with nothing better to do...

Northernlurker · 08/08/2012 11:02

No baby should ever be in a babywalker. They are dangerous and harmful to development. Tbh a baby who's too young to be in one is probably suffering less harm than a baby who is 'old enough'. I think they should be banned altogether.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 08/08/2012 11:02

\o/ waves to Worra... I know you love that emoticon.

FunnysInLaJardin · 08/08/2012 11:03

nah CBA to judge that. When DS1 was born the guidelines were 4 months to wean. Perhaps judging makes you feel like a proper mum? Seems a bit smug to me

JennerOSity · 08/08/2012 11:04

And 15 years ago cancer survival rates were much lower too. Are we going to go backwards on that too?

Medical knowledge does advance as more and more is known about our biology and how it works, that is why the recommendations change. It isn't just because the doctors have fashions and fads and like to keep us on out toes - it is evidence based.

If you think that it'll all come full circle and go back again, so there is no point taking any notice, you are not looking at why the recommendations are changing.

porcamiseria · 08/08/2012 11:04

you need less shitty facebook friends!

ScarletLadyOfTheNight01 · 08/08/2012 11:04

I try my absolute hardest to not even wear judgey pants...let alone do any hoiking of any kind. The only time I can remember being a bit judgey was when I saw a 3 year old with literally black rotten teeth from being given strong squash in a bottle all the time. I just really felt for the little girl.

Northernlurker · 08/08/2012 11:05

Dd1 is 14 and guidance was definately weaning from 16 weeks then. The sleeping guidance hasn't changed for at least 15 years and both sets of guidance have always been based on research. That does not mean the gudance changes frequently.

Rubirosa · 08/08/2012 11:05

Guidelines have never been 10-12 weeks. They have been 4-6 months since 1994, and 6 months since 2003.

15 years ago, 4-6 months was the weaning age.

Some people are thick, and that includes HVs who give out uninformed advice.

JennerOSity · 08/08/2012 11:06

LyingWitch So truueee!! I am on here judging as I am procrastinating over some work I am putting off and mn is easier. Feel free to judge me for not applying myself or having any self-discipline today.

ceegeebee · 08/08/2012 11:07

Apparently in 1950s babies were fed solid food from 2 days old...

www.babymanualnotincluded.com/blog/?p=30

Seriously though it is a bit thick to totally ignore guidelines from WHO and NHS - 10 weeks is far too young for solid food - and even thicker to post about it on facebook. But its none of anyone else's business really.

Queenofsiburbia · 08/08/2012 11:07

I am being very Judgy about the coke in a bottle thing. Ears pierced too?
My-big-fat-gypsy-wedding style baby outfits?

Think I'm with Jenner on this....

StealthPolarBear · 08/08/2012 11:07

"Same as the old lay on the back, side, face down thing."

Lay on side/front was based on a perceived increased risk of choking. Back to sleep was evidence based and infant deaths have fallen as a result. So I will be furious if the guidelines change again!

LST · 08/08/2012 11:08

My baby loves his walker. And it's not stopped his development at all.

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midori1999 · 08/08/2012 11:08

I've had 6 DC Funny, I think I feel enough like a proper Mum already.

I'm aware the guidelines to wean used to be different (they were when I had my first son) but they have changed due to new evidence. No one says 'oh, they used to say smoking was fine, I expect they'll say it again one day' because we accept that there is now evidence to say it is harmful. Why is that so different with weaning?!

Nothernlurker, I agree on babywalkers, my DS's physio feels the same as you.

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MammyToMany · 08/08/2012 11:09

Someone I know has been giving her baby rusk and milk 3 times a day since he was a week old, with apple juice to wash it down. I have to keep my mouth firmly zipped shut.

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