To be a bit (ok, a lot) judgey about this?

[midori1999]

Someone I know has posted on Facebook (yes, yes, I know!) that their 10 week old baby has just eaten half a jar of baby food. Apparently due to the baby's incessant hunger and although they are aware of the 6 month guideline for weaning, that's not suitable for their baby because he is just so hungry.

Same baby has also been pictured in a baby walker periodically over the last 4 weeks, propped up/squashed in with a blanket as obviously they are far too young to sit in it unaided.

The same family give their 2 year old coke in a bottle.

I know it's none of my business, but I can't help but feel these things are just a symptom of wanting their baby to be 'grown up'.

MEh baby walkers mine had them never tipped hot tea over themselves or went down hard surfaces they are meant for whizzing about the living room not off roading

Coke for a 2 year old though, admittedly I would hoike the judgy pants up so far I could use them as earmuffs...

northern but I supervise my child in his walker. So it is not a danger to him. Only stupid people would leave their child unattended in one

Yabu. Don't judge. Stop judging. Everybody needs to stop judging.

That's horrific! How are both children still alive???!!!! Call social services!!!

But Foof I don't know how you can have an opinion on something without then thinking less of something which falls short of the standard you deem minimal.

I can think of few situations where I would outwardly express a judgement on something like this, but if you see someone do something which would be an absolute no-no to you - how can you not think 'well that's shoddy'

If you go round spouting about it to the person in question that is totally unreasonable as they are entitled to make their own decisions - but you can't help having the thought can you?

You know Jenner I agree with you for the most part. I have judgey thoughts presumably everybody does. It's the continual stream of AIBU to judge x y or z when the OP doesn't for one minute think they are Unreasonable they just want a chorus of approval in their judgeyness.

Coke in a bottle at 2? Yes I judge. In my head. Needing no chorus or back up.

Maybe I have MN fatigue. I've been trying to hide AIBU for ages. Something always sucks me back in.

(you are welcome to chuck all this back at me should you ever see me judging my arse off on any future threads )

Foof I know what you mean. Getting people to agree with ones opinion is a basic human desire - we all crave validation, and not having any in rl can be cause real mental anguish.

At least the modern generation have a harmless anonymous outlet for it via internet. In my GP's day it would have been done face-to-face with bosom hoiking over the garden fence and the poor focus of pant-hoiking would have been ostracised. At least we can vent and join a gang in a way which doesn't affect the person in question.

It is a bit addictive - I like to see my values reflected by others, maybe that is why you keep getting sucked back into AIBU.

Plus some of the comments are really funny/witty and make me laugh.

Did you defriend her and told her why?
If yes, I'm in awe and YANBU.
If no, YABU and pointlessly judging because you enjoy the feeling of superiority.

You've got to love the startling illogicality of a poster who admits its 15 years since the guidelines changed from 10-12 weeks (although actually its more, it was 16 weeks 15 years ago)....

and then says "uff, these silly guidelines changing weekly, if not daily"

Mind-boggling daft.

Stay friends with the idiot, but change your settings if you don't want to read their updates.

my dd had a walker, she crawled at 10m and started walking at 12m unaided. What is the problem with them?? she spent no longer than 20 mins in it at a time, all on ground floor with no stairs and out of reach of dangerous things. it was like a jumperoo with wheels.

Agree with Jenner - contrary to popular belief on here, health care professionals don't just sit around dreaming up whimsical ways to make parents' lives hell. There is a good reason for advice and guidelines and it is all evidence-based and not just 'dreamed up' by anyone. Yes, a certain amount of 'my baby my rules' is acceptable but flat out refusing to follow up to date advice is neglectful and may be harmful. As a parent you have a responsibility to take care of your child and ensure their safety. Not every parent magically knows the best thing to do in every situation, so listening to offical advice is an essential part of parenting IMO.

I can't imagine most people would dream of smoking within a mile of a baby these days, yet it used to be the done thing to smoke away merrily while pregnant/breastfeeding etc. We know now that it's potentially extremely harmful to smoke around children so continuing to do so would be unacceptable. Advice and guidelines do change over time and that's as it should be.

What will happen if a baby eats food earlier than the HPs recommend?

Serious question, I have no kids.

northern, just read your comment re: walkers. I cant tip DD's old one over, the wheels are on too wide a base. Surely the risk of danger (dragging things down/ stairs) is a supervision one, and not a walker one. ie: just as easily happens when the baby is an unaided walker. Can't imagine leaving a child in a walker and not watching them! but then i've read all sorts on here inc. not watching a 20 week old in a bath.

wankpants, you're supposed to wait until baby can sit up independently and support their own trunk to reduce risk of choking. Their digestive systems are thought to be too immature to cope with solid food before 6 months old. They also recommend that you wait until baby is aware of your food and reaching out to try to grab it, so that the process is more 'baby led' rather than adults deciding that it's time to wean.

In 1993 the guidelines changed to 4 months, they changed to 6 months in 2003, so it's been 9 years now since they last changed. People will do what they want, regardless of guidelines.

As for baby walkers it's commen sense to watch them and not leave them near stairs

You can tell a lot about somebody by looking at their friends.

I see, thank you!

From how DN nappies were at first, I can't understand why you'd wean earlier than you had to anyway

Hmmm... I would definitely be judgey about giving a two year old coca cola (in a bottle/cup whatever) as it's terrible for their teeth.

I think the weaning is possibly influenced by family and they are listening to out of date advice and thinking they were weaned at 10 weeks and fine so what's the problem?

I agree with Jenner and Stealth. The advent of evidence-based medicine has been a big development in the past few years. I agree, doctors don't know everything and no doubt some guidelines will change again, but at least there's an attempt these days to base advice on the evidence of lots of randomised controlled trials. Dr Spock advised mothers to put their babies on their fronts to sleep, with disastrous consequences, but the advice wasn't based on proper clinical evidence.

Baby walkers are the single most dangerous piece of nursery equipment and have been banned in several countries. There is also the point that babies aren't meant to have wheels.

I don't care what people do with their babies, none of my business. I'm more bothered by the arsehats that whine on about the soundly researched, science based sensible guidelines that you luckily get given to help you because they don't personally like them or agree with them. Mum doesn't know best actually, the worldwide teams of trained experts do.

*Babies do love babywalkers. Right up to the point that they tip down steps or on to hard, sharp or hot surfaces or reach up for something that they pull down on themselves. The design has been modified in the last 10 years to try and make them more safe but they are NOT safe and they hinder not help development.

Er, that's not the babywalkers that are unsafe, Northern, that's the parents that aren't watching the baby in the babywalker. Are you the same person that claimed they could reach speeds of 17mph on a thread a few months ago...?

You are only being unreasonable for using the stupid and affected term "judgey".

Oh yes I remember that, all those babies speeding along down the road. Worse than mobility scooters they are