to look over my fence into my NDN's garden?

[Chrishassix]

My NDN thinks he has a right to privacy and i shouldnt be looking over.

AIBU by stealth in reverse.

It's duller than I'd hoped.

We had a similar problem in the past, we certainly didn't stand on a chair and look over, we actually went and spoke nicely to the neighbours, who apologised and didn't realise it was a problem, but have since been so much better, as they now know, why don't you just talk to them first?

I have spoken to them, a month ago in the middle of a migraine and he said it was because the boys were winding the dog up.

So I was seeing if that was the reason for incessant barking again.

Now you've explained you've only done it a couple of times, after hours of shouty dog, I think YANBU.

Nope OP. what you have done in RL is a bit odd, but the way you have presented yourself on this thread is extremely odd.

I'm impressed though, you've made me laugh tonight,

So they don't actually know its a bigger problem than just that time?

Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do ( within reason). I know someone, lets call him erm... Mr SameSoon. Well, he and his very luffly wife got new neighbours. The neighbours built a gorgeous orangery kitchen extension but never invited Mr SS and the missus round to view it. He took it into his own hands and, waiting til' they'd gone on holiday, (suitcases seen going into car) he climbed up to the rotting,condemned treehouse at the bottom of our his garden and had a jolly good viewage with the binoculars. According to him the neighbours had a handmade, contemporary-looking country kitchen with more than a whiff of stately home. He believed the wortops to be corian and they had two Eames chairs. He was impressed. After collecting the Farrow and Ball colour chart from the dining room drawers he concluded the colour scheme to be lamp room grey for the units and cornforth white for the walls. Skirting boards and other trims shade still remain inconclusive and further investigation is still pending.

DameDoom You and your dh Mr SameSoon and his lovely dw are being discreet. I doubt their neighbours know anything about spying occasional look.

The op's neighbour has caught her. She should stop or be alot more tactful!

They do know we spoke about it again on Sunday. I said that the barking had been incessant on thursday and I had seen that the dog was on his own, and I was looking again to check if he was distressed to be alone again - whoch is when NDN explained that the dog had been barking at a workman for a few hours, and that I shouldn't look over the fence as it was an invasion of their privacy.

Tantrums, they have electronic window shutters which were all down on Thursday. I could take a jolly good guess that means they were out the house.

Look this dog is nearly 40metres away from my living room and still is intrusive and resulted in my having a migraine once, putting me out of action for over 24 hours.

Looking over once to see if the reason it was barking was something that should have been sorted, and then again to see of the poor thing was alone again, I don't think is unreasonable. However I do feel having a workman in and allowing your dog to bark at it for several hours is unreasonable.

I do feel that he said I shouldn't be looking over my fence into his garden as his felt guilty about the barking (obviously he had been privy to it that day) and was on the defensive.

Is it not time the luffly Mrs SameSoon invited the designery neighbours over for a snifter in their tree house kitchen? Invitations have to be reciprocated

Best make sure the binoculars are well hidden first.

Thanks OP, I am having a fucking horrible shitty night and you've given me something to at! So now I'm laughing and crying in equal measures, which is a vast improvement! You are bonkers.

The Samesoons aint getting their Formica and lino out for anyone. If their posho neighbours want a shufty at Tumbledown Towers they'll have to climb their own bloody tree!

Bet they get a tree house like this, DameDoon

Which is more intrusive, a dog barking 40m away or a neighbour bringing a chair out to stand on so they can peer over your fence into your garden to see what you, your kids and your dog are up to?

A dog barking for several hours at headache inducing levels even though it's 40m away is far more intrustive than a momentary bob of a head over a fence.

And where the heck did I say I took a chair "out"?

garlicnuts - they so would. Bastards!

Why did you bother asking if you're so adamant you're NBU?

I think I've seen this episode of The Good Life.

What are you doing these days Margo since Hyacinth Bucket took your crown, apart from peering over neighbours fences.

YANBU

Night night

Actually, in your second post you said 'I do stand on a chair'. This makes it sound like you do this on a regular basis (you used the word 'do' rather than 'did') and that you took a chair out into the garden to 'do' it!

HTH

This thread is hilarious. I wonder if I know MrSameSoon and his luffly wife? Years ago some friends of mine bought a run down house which they spent a fortune on renovating, including a lovely orangery kitchen extension. Their NDNs were very nice, but always intrigued by what was happening next door.

Apparently this happened a lot - and I certainly witnessed it a few times whilst I was round at the friends - but whenever it sounded as though the friends were having a good time/partying MrNDN always popped his head over the fence to see what was happening (and he definitely needed a chair as it was a rather tall fence and he wasn't a tall man).

If it looked like a bit of fun and frivolity was going on he'd say "hang on a minute, I'll just get a few beers and join you". He'd disappear inside ... but, oh no, he didn't come round to the front door to be let in, he just went to fetch some beers from his kitchen, come back to the fence, pass the beers over to us and then climb over the fence to join in.

You need a periscope.

Thanks usual, I have just woken DS up by laughing loudly at this

Peering over a fence is intrusive and rude. A dog barking for hours on end is extremely annoying.

If it is barking incessantly/constantly, then it is futile and unnecessary to be looking for the catalyst

You need to keep a diary and phone the noise pollution department of the council

I would also talk to neighbour about how disruptive the barking is for you and ask them if they would get a trainer in to resolve the problem

I don't actually think your neighbour has any authority over whether you stand in a chair in your garden and which direction you look un. But u can understand him asking you nor to.

I would attempt to resolve as nicely as possible