to look over my fence into my NDN's garden?

[Chrishassix]

My NDN thinks he has a right to privacy and i shouldnt be looking over.

Quintessential

No, I do not like his garden it's small.

Does the reason matter?

Surely they must be naked, if not bonking al fresco, otherwise why would she bother?

Of course it fucking matters.

If you were looking for a ball that got thrown over, YANBU. If you were looking for a missing child/cat/dog, YANBU. If you were looking because you are a nosey bastard, YABU.

Maybe he does have a fucking dungeon.

And yes OP the reason matters muchly!

were you looking for your child at their sleepover with the parent you don't know because the parent you do know went out?

Of course it matters, it's not just next door, it's round the corner.

Whereabouts are you OP? Hmm?

Argh! A former neighbour of mine did this. Do you make inane chatter, "enjoying a beer in the sun, are you?" or " reading a book?". I would think twice about venturing into my own garden.

yanbu, as this is obviously the done thing...

Actually yes. Because I think he probably does have a right to privacy on his own property, and you standing on a chair to have a good old nose violates that.

You'd have to have a really good reason to be so intrusive. If this isn't a joke of course...

Do you stand on the chair for hours staring at them in their garden without saying a word, just smiling in a slightly crazy way OP?

If so you are being a little unreasonable.

Yes the reason matters!!

Unless you've got a very good reason, then yes, standing on a chair so that you can look into a neighbours garden is definitely unreasonable and intrusive.

Is this a joke? Why would you be standing on a chair looking into your neighbour's garden? Weird.

It must be something really thrilling if you can be bothered to fetch a chair to look in.

When my neighbours used to shag in their garden I used to use the children's ELC binoculars to try to get a view. Perhaps you could try them. Or Klad's periscope for a more subtle approach?

(FWIW I never caught sight of the shaggers. They used to do it by the shed or just inside the patio doors so I couldn't see properly. They were so loud I felt obliged to make sure they weren't in some sort of joint cardiac arrest situation).

There's always a reason as to why we do things, so yes it matters

You'd need at least binoculars AND a chair to see into a dungeon round the corner.

No, not a joke.

They have a barky dog, I'm trying to establish a pattern of behaviour before i phone the council.

Does the reason matter?

Well yes and no really

But I should add it could be the only chance you get on this thread to not make yourself look like a complete knob

I'm not rushing off to the bookies though...

The dog is probably barking at the nutter it sees looming over the fence.

MN is fucking bonkers tonight

I kinda like it though.

And do you have to see the dog bark to know that the dog is errrr....well you know barking?

What the actual fuck is wrong with you, of course it's not an ok thing to be doing.

Wouldn't the pattern of behaviour be the times? Why do you need to see?

Kladd

What Kladdkaka said. If someone peered over my gate my dog would bark.