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Original poster

to be a bit diasappointed the dh has just said

42 replies

strugglingwiththepreteenbit · 07/08/2012 20:24

On coming down from saying goodnight to the offspring;
"According to dd2, dd1 (11) has a crush on her tutor for next year. Who is it?"

Now, dd1, as far as an 11 year-old is ready to, presents herself to the world as heterosexual.
He's been to the new parents meetings with me and met the fifty-something year-old woman!

Am I really asking too much that he'd paid attention?

OP posts:
DozyDuck · 07/08/2012 20:27

I don't understand :-/

MadgeHarvey · 07/08/2012 20:27

Nope - lost. What exactly are you saying here?

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strugglingwiththepreteenbit · 07/08/2012 20:35

Sorry, I'm having a mini rant:)
I'm just a bit sad that after a year of chosing, and preparing dd1 for the move to secondary school, in which her father has taken an active role, he seems not to have any recollection of who her form tutor is. He's met her. The school policy is for them to keep the same tutor from year 7-11. She's going to be a significant figure in our lives.
I've even mentioned how delighted I am that it's someone with several years experience and not a PE teacher
But, apparently he wasn't listening. I know, I should be used to it by now:)

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DozyDuck · 07/08/2012 20:36

What's wrong with PE teachers? :-/

DozyDuck · 07/08/2012 20:37

My first form tutor was a PE teacher. He was the best, most sensitive, caring form tutor I had. He's the only one I remember actually.

PorkyandBess · 07/08/2012 20:39

I don't get it.

Are you saying she can't have a crush because her teacher is female?

I had all my most memorable crushes on female teachers, usually PE too.

cantspel · 07/08/2012 20:40

significant figure in your lives?

She is your daughters form tutor not moving into your spare room.

TequilaMockinBird · 07/08/2012 20:41

My form tutor from y7 to y10 was a PE Teacher. She was brilliant, I was so sad when she went on ML during our last year!

ANTagony · 07/08/2012 20:41

So your dd1 is teasing your dd2 that she has a crush on her female 50 something tutor to be?

Sounds like the early delights of teenage parenting.

Your DH has a head start by learning to blockout the insignificant.

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strugglingwiththepreteenbit · 07/08/2012 20:43

PE teachers can be wonderful individuals and wonderful teachers. Just think I picture dd forming a better relationship with someone from a more academic discipline. (I also loathed mine)

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EmpressOfTheSevenFlames · 07/08/2012 20:43

My female PE teacher was one of my favourite form tutors ever.

But YANBU that he should remember who his DD's tutor is.

JumpingThroughHoops · 07/08/2012 20:45

My PE teacher (and old Y8 form tutor) works for me now Grin

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strugglingwiththepreteenbit · 07/08/2012 20:46

argh! Not at all.

I'm aggravated that dh has been listening to preteen nonsence chatter and in the process outed himself as not retaining what should have been important information this year!

dd is welcome to crush on who she likes!

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polkadotsrock · 07/08/2012 20:49

my DH permanently forgets important stuff. Drives me nuts. But does mean I get to talk a lot coz he never remembers what I've already told him. At least he's listening to his kids grasps at straws

EugenesAxe · 07/08/2012 20:50

My sister is a PE teacher. She is awesome! All teachers can potentially be rubbish - please don't be subjectist.

What's with the heterosexual reference BTW? As PorkyandBess says - it reads initially as if you were disappointed that she had a crush on a 50-year old woman.

I'd question the age gap, but not the same-sexishness.

cantspel · 07/08/2012 20:50

Sorry i am not grasping the importance of a form tutors name?

My son is in year 10 and i cant remember any of his form tutors names The forum tutors never took any of his lessons and all dealings with them was limited to 25 minutes each morning before heading off to lessons.

JumpingThroughHoops · 07/08/2012 20:52

If it's any help, I'm not even sure my DH knows where our children go to school

NagooingForGold · 07/08/2012 20:52

I think that the OP is peed off that her DH doesn't take enough interest in their DD to know that her form tutor is a lady.

Maybe he just didn't know that they keep them in with the same tutor? Not a massive crime.

polkadotsrock · 07/08/2012 20:53

actually giggled at jumping

Sparks1 · 07/08/2012 20:54

as not retaining what should have been important information this year!

Except in the grand scheme of things it's not at all....

NagooingForGold · 07/08/2012 20:54

rofl @ 'question the age gap' Grin

I'd be quite pleased that any of my DCs teachers were influential enough that they developed a 'crush' on them.

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strugglingwiththepreteenbit · 07/08/2012 20:58

I think all teachers matter! Form tutors though are the point of contact if there are any problems, (for the students and/or parents) monitor progress, advise on subject choices for KS4, organise social events for their form and are supposed to be the member of staff who knows their students best. I know there is every possability they could leave the job during the 5 years concerned but we felt that the consistant pastoral care was one of the school's good points!

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MrsMcEnroe · 07/08/2012 21:08

Aarrgghhh. My DH is a PE teacher. He has a degree and a PGCE. He is a sixth-form tutor too. He teaches A Level and GCSE. He deals with no end of shit at work every day. Students and parents love him and he regularly supports his students through bereavement, family break-ups, illness (physical and mental), bullying, career choices etc. Please don't suggest that PE teachers are thick or inferior to other teachers - they are not.

However, I get your point re DH not knowing who your DD's tutor is, given how involved he has been in the school choice, and for that YANBU at all. I also understand that you might be surprised /concerned that your 11 yo DD has a crush on a 50-something woman (that's one hell of an age gap) but hopefully it's just a phase as most crushes are ..... If your DD is gay I'm sure you will be supportive and reassure her (if reassurance is needed) that you love her and that being gay is absolutely fine. I think that was part of the point of your original post? - apologies if I've misunderstood.

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strugglingwiththepreteenbit · 07/08/2012 21:27

My dear MrsMcEnroe I promise I don't! It was a flippant remark for which I apologise.

You are quite right about the subject matter of the thread, too.

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Mrsjay · 07/08/2012 21:31

I have no clue what you are saying and what is wrong with P e teachers dd1 form tutor was an art teacher it is a form class most people wont know or remember who they are , and what are you on about