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To make my house sitter sleep in dd bed?

32 replies

lisad123 · 07/08/2012 18:28

We have a friends son (aged 22) staying for one night to look after the dog as when alone at night he howls. :(
I'm feeling a little funny about him sleeping in my dh and mine bed.
The girls have bunk bed but also a trundle bed under that.
Would I be unreasonable to ask him to sleep in their room on the trundle bed?

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squeakytoy · 07/08/2012 18:29

Why do you have a problem with it though? You could put clean bedding on before he stays, and then after.

FuckityFuckFuck · 07/08/2012 18:31

What do you think he will do in your bed? Have a wank? And you would prefer himm to do it in your DD's bed?

TidyDancer · 07/08/2012 18:31

Yes, what's your issue with it?

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lisad123 · 07/08/2012 18:35

I don't know what my problem is with it. I would of course change bedding ect, just feels odd. No one is allowed in our room apart from me, dh and DDs

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TiaMariaandDietCoke · 07/08/2012 18:37

Id let him have my and dh's room if ot were me. why not? Clean bedding before and after, no problem.

Tbh I think id be more likely to find it odd to have a man stay in my dd's room than ours. (If i had a dd!) :)

thisisyesterday · 07/08/2012 18:38

thinking of it from his point of view, I might find it slightly strange sleeping in someone else's bed as well...

i would give him the choice!

notsofrownieface · 07/08/2012 18:53

If it were me I would much rather sleep on the sofa. Is that an option?

LynetteScavo · 07/08/2012 18:55

I would prefer to sleep in the trundle bed if I were him. I would find sleeping in your be weird.

But I love sleeping in childrens bed, especially if they are pink. I never had a pretty bedroom when I was little. Grin

Krumbum · 07/08/2012 18:56

Yabu. Why is no one allowed in your room!

LynetteScavo · 07/08/2012 18:56

I think he will understand about sleeping on the trundle bed...it will mean you don't immediately have to put clean sheets on when you get home.

LynetteScavo · 07/08/2012 18:57

Oh, and thinking about it, I wouldn't want him in my room at all. I would close the door. I have stuff (not rude!!- just very personal) that I wouldn't want want him looking at.

foreverondiet · 07/08/2012 18:58

If any of the beds in your DD's room are full size mattresses (ie 3ft by 6ft) then thats fine, if they are small beds, unless the friend is very short I think you have to give him your bed, or at least give him the choice.

amothersplaceisinthewrong · 07/08/2012 18:59

I would give him your bed - not a girly pink room.

I have no problem giving up our room for other guests - always have over the years. What I did not tolerate ever though was the DCS just walking in when we were in bed - always had a lock on the door and they had to knock before entering.

Sirzy · 07/08/2012 18:59

if he is doing you a favour by looking after the dog I would give him the choice of where he wanted to sleep

Original poster
lisad123 · 07/08/2012 18:59

I feel my room is private and there is no need for anyone else to be in there really. People have been in there if they are getting changed ect but just feels odd to me Blush

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lisad123 · 07/08/2012 19:00

Yes all the kids beds are full sized

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BellaVita · 07/08/2012 19:05

In June, DH and I went away and my parents came to stay to look after the boys.

Mum invited her youngest brother up to stay overnight. I asked her where she thought he was going to sleep - she said in your's and DH's bed. I was not happy at all with that. It is our bed, no one else's. I said no. She thought I was being rather strange. I think our bed is personal to me and DH.

In the end, DS2 (12) slept in our bed and my uncle slept in his.

WhispersOfWickedness · 07/08/2012 19:08

I am the same as you, I feel my room is really personal and it kind of feels like my bed is my only properly private place that no-one (except DH Grin ) can 'invade'.
Hard to explain Confused I wouldn't have a problem sticking a guest in one of the dc's beds though Blush

thisisyesterday · 07/08/2012 19:11

"I would give him your bed - not a girly pink room"

how do you know the OP's room isn't girly and pink? or that her DD's IS girly and pink?
and why would it matter? it's for one night while he does them a favour, i really douby he;ll care hwat colour the room is

fuzzysnout · 07/08/2012 19:14

YAB a bit mean I think besides which, if he is nosey he will still look through your stuff no matter where you make him sleep Grin

GhostShip · 07/08/2012 19:15

I'd rather him be in my room than my little girls.

Iggly · 07/08/2012 19:15

Would your DDs be happy having a stranger in their bed?

If not, why is it ok for them but not for you?

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lisad123 · 07/08/2012 19:17

Because its not their bed, it's their extra bed that their friends use of they stay.

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JumpingThroughHoops · 07/08/2012 19:18

Having house sat before, there is no way I would want to sleep in 'the marital bed'

Iggly · 07/08/2012 19:23

Ah I see.

I don't think it's a big deal then. It's one night, it'll be fine I'm sure. If you had a spare room he'd go in there right? So this is similar - its the guest bed.

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