To think its sad in 2012

[Mrbojangles1]

To think this is still a issue in 2012 my mil was very opssed to me and my oh who is white we had many issue to do with this i just think its very sad.

And i do feel that many people would like their son or daugter to marry /date somone of the same race

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2184351/Parents-jailed-beating-daughter-17-having-black-boyfriend.html

But the good thing is the daughetr did not hold these vile views dispite her parents best efforts

Unfortunately, it is still very much the case. I have a friend who's father has refused to speak to her for 2 years now, because she has a black boyfriend.

it is very sad.

YANBU. Personally, I would prefer my children to marry someone of the same race, but if they didn't, oh well. So long as their partner was a good person and treated them well, I'd be happy. I definitely wouldn't stop talking to my child (or worse!) just because they chose to make a life with someone of a different race. That article is sad. Bringing shame on the family for having a black boyfriend? Seriously? What kind of world do these people live in...

Weirdly people like this do exist. The DP of a freind of mine has virutally disowned his daughter for having a black boyfriend (daughter moved out at 17 to live with boyfriend rather than listen to anymore negativity, to put it mildly from her father). The same man claims he would rather his son die than be gay. ).

Why Tinsie?

Tinsie why? What is preferable about marrying someone of your own race? People are people.

Personally the only thing that would make me sad would be if my son were gay pruley because it mostlikey means there would be no GRANDCHILDREN which would make me very unhappy

Mrbojangles1 gay couples can adopt now so no necessarily the case. Also having a straight son/daughter doesn't guarantee grandchildren. If my DD had a boyfriend of another race or was gay, neither would be an issue to me.

fgs it's not straight it's hetrosexual.

wouldn't care who my children have a relationship with as long as they are not abused or ill treated by ther DP

YANBU. It's sad and disgusting. The poor girl fell in love with a man not a racial ethnicity. Nobody deserves to be treated that way.

My mother always joked if I'd ever brought home a black boyfriend I'd be disowned. It was a joke but now looking back it was a bloody horrible one.

I don't care if the girls come home with black, white, hispanic, asian women or men as long as they were decent people who loved and respected them in return. I don't understand why it is such an issue. It's a colour. It's a family. No different than the stranger holding different beliefs in the street.

I don't care who my dds bring home as long as they make my girls happy. I've had boyfriends of different races before and nobody has ever had an issue with it (that I know of). I might worry that it may make their lives more difficult though as there are still people out there who are racist, but I would worry about them whoever they bring home I think.

why thistle what difference does it make?

I absolutely don't care who my DDs go out with so long as they love them, respect them and allow them the freedoms of any British citizen.

I distrust All extreme religions.

I would be very unhappy if I felt their BFs were trying to control who they saw, where they went or if they worked. Whether because of religion, culture or pure jealousy.

My parents used to joke about not me to have a black boyfriend, odd really now I think about it!

My husband is black, DS is mixed race. Parents have no issues at all with DH's colour.

My very racist-but-in-a-jokey-way grandma has 6 great grandchildren, all of which are mixed-race. It's very common now I think.

*not wanting me to have

I want my children to find happiness with a loving, pleasant human being. That's about the extent of it. How bizarre and prjudiced to have preferences re: the racial background of your childrens future partners.

I'm not surprised really. I have a quite well-to-do friend whose parents refused to attend her wedding - because she was marrying a mechanic.

inter-racial couples are more common these days but i still think people tend to largely marry/date within their own racial/social group.

It is sad. As Michael Jackson said 'the blood inside of me, is the same inside of you'. I think the cultural issues between interracial marraige are more difficult than the colour issuses.

I know of people like this. An acquaintances exh used to say if his son brought home a girlfriend who was black then he would beat his son up and disown him. I've been told that he will openly talk about black people on television in the most vile way using racist slurs.
This man makes me sick and I feel so sorry for his son and anyone who meets him.
It would not even occur to me that any child of mine would exclusively date people of the same race. I do not care at all the race of the person my child would choose to get in a relationship with.
Tinsie, why would you prefer your child to date people of the same race? Your view is just as segregating and damaging just to a slightly lesser degree.

Before meeting them, I think I would assume my child's partner was the same race unless told otherwise but it wouldn't bother me either way so long as they were happy.

If my children are happy and in a loving relationship I couldn't care less if they are with a man or a woman or if that person was black, white, or green with orange zigzags. If they are happy I am happy.

Its sad and the parents got what they deserved, I hope my dd's find someone who respects them. I will be happy with that.

Also why tinsie?

Had a boyfriend of mediterranean descent (born in uk) once who told me "obviously my parents would prefer you to be of their descent". It really hurt me that he felt he had to tell me (made me feel really uncomfortable around them) and he agreed with them yet still dated me! He also used to say he couldn't stand English men...I was young and oh so foolish.

It is very sad. DOn't get the problem at all , but am guessing I am very naive. ANd I grew up in the country where there were no ethnic minorities (well there was one indian family)